Been there (sad face)
Raise your hand if you were in a similar situation. *ME*
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I'm waiting for my fiancee, who is from Mongolia. I met her in college and we were dating for almost 2 years. I proposed to her in Mongolia in January, in -40 degree weather. Haha, I didn't know if I was going to come back alive. We're applying for a K1 visa, which can take 6 months to a year. It's already been about 4 months now and we're both having a really hard time with the wait. It's really really hard. I don't know when she will be allowed back in the US, when I can set a wedding date, etc. You just have to trust each other completely, and that's all you can do. Like Crazy was painful to watch because I've lived every minute of it for the past 8 months.
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That's not how a K1 visa works, genius. That's an entirely different visa classification. It usually takes longer to process a marriage abroad than to apply for a fiance visa. Read for yourself. You don't have a *beep* clue how the system works.
http://www.worldlawdirect.com/article/2025/us-citizen-marrying-foreign -national.html
U.S. CITIZEN MARRYING A FOREIGN NATIONAL
By WORLDLawDirect [January 26th, 2011]
The Immigration and Nationality Act, as amended, provides U.S. citizens with two options for facilitating the immigration of future spouses to the United States:
The K-1 fiance visa and the alien-spouse immigrant visa.
In many cases, the processing time for a fiance visa is shorter than that for an alien spouse. Fiance visa processing can take several months from the filing of the petition to the final adjudication of the visa. Total processing time for the alien-spouse visa can take 6-12 months depending on individual circumstances. If your alien fiance is already in the United States and plans to adjust status in the U.S., contact the U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Services (USCIS).
Marriage In the United States: Fiance Visa
U.S. citizens may file an I-129F petition with USCIS for the issuance of a K-1 fiance visa to an alien fiance. A citizen exercising this option must remain unmarried until the arrival of the fiance in the U.S., and the wedding must take place within three months of the fiance's arrival if he/she is to remain in status. Also, the alien and U.S. citizen must have met personally at least once in the two years before the petition was filed. Please note that legal permanent residents may not file petitions for fiance visas. They must marry abroad and then file an I-130 petition for the immigration of a new spouse.
Marriage Abroad: Alien-Spouse Visa
If a U.S. citizen marries an alien abroad, an I-130 petition must be filed after the marriage to begin the immigration process for the alien spouse. This can be filed either with the USCIS in the United States, or, under certain circumstances, at U.S. Embassies or Consulates abroad. U.S. Embassies and Consulates have differing policies on approving I-130s and should be individually contacted about the availability of this service. Many posts have their own web pages which include this information and which can be accessed through the U.S. Embassy and Consulate links page. Prior to departure from this country, the U.S. citizen should contact the USCIS or appropriate foreign service post to ascertain exactly what documents will be necessary to file the immigrant petition for a new spouse.
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I've had a lawyer throughout the entire process of filing for the K1 visa and I've looked up all the information from the past couple years. Policies have certainly changed in the past 20 years. My fiance was already overseas, and has been for 8 months since her student visa expired.
She had also considered over-staying her visa like the character in this film, but she didn't. We didn't want to jeopardize her ability to come back to the US. I'm sure that we'll have more paperwork and legal hoops to jump through once we get married, but at least we'll be together, which is the most important thing.
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Marriage Abroad: Alien-Spouse Visa
If a U.S. citizen marries an alien abroad,
I'm sorry but I gotta be immature and laugh at that
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Relationships are difficult.
Long distance relationships are more so.
International, long distance relationships are even worse -- thanks to the significant delay of visas, hassle of travel and high cost of airfare.
People need lots of time to get to really know each other. To see if they truly like each other and whether they are compatible.
At least one person has to be willing and able to give up their "life" (job, friends, family, home, comfort zone) and move to the other person's location. Not an easy thing to do.
I thought I had found someone wonderful, but the time apart and other difficulties made it hard to get to know each other. I wanted to give up many times, but it was so hard to let go...feeling like there's something very special... "if only we had a little more time together to work it out". So we kept trying.
In hindsight, it was over before we applied for her visa. But a year later, after all the hard work, cost and time to get the stupid visa, she came over from China. But it didn't last. We could no longer continue the delusion.
On the other hand, I have a friend who was able to make it work with a woman from the Ukraine. But he was much, much more patient than I.... And probably better at conflict resolution too.
PS - Skype video chat ==> the next best thing to actually being there...but in the end, it's just not good enough.
*ME* too.
This movie made me cry so much as it was too close to home.
About 7 or so years ago, I was in love with someone who was my soulmate from England.. it was like we'd known each other forever. After a very close online relationship for over a year, he finally got to come and be with me for several months in Australia.
He'd rang the immigration dept. about how long you have before you need to get your visa extended if you are going to stay longer. It turned out that the person on the phone gave him the wrong answer :( , so when he went to extend it thinking everything was fine, we got told that the time to do it in had run out.
He then wanted to breach his visa to stay with me forever but I was afraid that if he did, that sooner or later he'd be caught and sent back to England and that he would never be allowed back into Australia, so I made him go back. We both cried so much at the airport at him leaving.
After he'd been back in England for a while (he was going to save and come back), he fell in love also with another who I knew from online and who was so so like me in how she spoke and what she liked (I could of done half of her posts). So we ended up breaking up. I still think of him heaps (Im in my 40s, never married) and hope he's happy with this other who is so like myself. I will always love him.
I'm scared that this will be me...in months time. Met this french guy a year and half ago, didn't start becoming serious til a year after. We both finish school this May, then who knows what will happen, his student visa is up by next Jan i think. I hate thinking about it, I keep telling myself I'm young enjoy it while it lasts don't let the impending possibilities sour it. When we get there...we'll figure it out. I don't think either one of us could do long distance, I rather end it while it's still good rather than have it become bitter and resentful over time....:( I still like to think that I could possibly move over there with him if we do remain that serious but me picking up french would be a challenge.
shareYes. Getting through it made us strong. Married for 18 years now.
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