Disturbing

Obviously there is a split in opinions here, but what hasn't been mentioned (about the accident in particualr), is the fact Sutter has realised he is no good for Aimee. He has just met his father, who is exactly the man his mum wanted to protect him from, and as we know Sutters mum has said to him 'you remind me of your father', and this anguish of being like him is relayed by the ending where Sutter breaks down crying, not wanting to be like his dad. So everyone saying, how could Aimee want Sutter back after the accident, Sutter was not being horrible, he wanted to protect her from himself and what he thought he was like. Coupled with the fact emotions were high from the meeting also fuelled by alcohol, saw it all build up within him, and obviously the fact Aimee got hit by car is not his fault.

Anyone who has worked with addicts or treated adolescent (or adult for that matter) psych patients will tell you that it's a relationship as old as time, the addict and the co-dependent, and part of the reason why our prisons/courts will never be short of work. The only problem is the relationship in real life reads more like an episode of Cops or Shameless than a romantic tryst movie. If these characters were real she would sabotage every good relationship and end up with another addict or abuser always threatening to leave and he would fall deeper and deeper into addiction until 12-step or inpatient. It's a movie though and doesn't have to be real I guess.

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I agree! The beginning was cute and I saw a whole bunch of comments from people saying they loved it so I really tried to like it as the movie went on, but it was just really disturbing to me. She's so desperate to be wanted and to make their relationship work that she can't see that he's just not as interested as she is. You can tell through like the whole movie that he's still hung up on his ex. He causes her to get hit by a car and she's just immediately cool with forgetting about it and acting like it never happened. He was drunk all the time! And she started drinking because of him. Someone in another comment said that he was making mistakes and you shouldn't break up with someone for that....someone can only mess up so much before you need to see that maybe their not good for you. That doesn't mean that they're a bad person or that they can never change, it just means that maybe you don't belong together. She was making her mother's same mistakes. The only good thing he did for her really was get her to stand up to her mom and go to college. People are saying that it's so realistic and it is. And that's really sad. I hope that she does well at college and makes a good life for herself and I hope that he puts his life together.

I WOULD LOVE TO SEE THIS MOVIE...

Well, the director's commentary on the DVD makes it clear that he considered the relationship doomed, and that Aimee would grow out of it. Ponsoldt imagined that in ten years Aimee would look back at Sutter and wonder how she could let herself be used like that.

This is a film about just one part of Aimee's and Sutter's lives. It's about how as teenagers we all make mistakes, but these are what force us to grow. Nobody should take this relationship as an indication of the adults Aimee and Sutter will be, or that they will be together forever in a twisted co-dependent relationship. In fact, both do learn from the relationship and grow, even though overall it's just not healthy for either one of them.

On the path to finding their true love, most people go through bad relationships like this. Sometimes it's the only way you can be ready for true love when it finally comes along.

Listen, I sat there shocked as hell.

You tell a guy you love him, and he tells you no you don't. He kicks it back in your face actually. Strike one. He then orders you out of his car after you nearly get into an accident...in the middle of the night, a long way from home, when you have no money since you helped him pick up the tab his philandering father left two teenagers to settle, no visible cell phone, you're a young girl....did I mention you were hours away from home...Strike 10. AND THEN!!! You actually do get hit by a truck after you get out of his car and turn around to tell him that you're sorry..... Strike infinity.

Seriously, when she just hugged him at the hospital, I thought to myself...she has amnesia. She must have amnesia. Wow. Just wow. I loved the movie. It was very real. But yes, it was quote disturbing.

Sutter is the perfect example of self-destruction. Charming, witty, intelligent...not a bad guy...but he doesn't love himself. And as such he has a very tough time accepting it from others. When he drove past the bus stop and watched her calling his cell...my heart broke.

The greatest thing you'll ever learn is just to love..

Disturbing? 
It's so silly how people overuse and misuse this word.