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Parents need to beat their kids

posted 14 years ago by loanbpham
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I am sooo serious.

Being a child of Asian immigrants, I know what it's like to get hit with the belt or wooden spoon and believe you me, I never made the same mistake or disrespected my parents again.
Today, parents are too soft or maybe just not as involved in the child's life to allow them to get that way. Sure, a child is responsible for his/her own behavior, but the parent(s) are to blame as well.

All the episodes I've seen, the kids tell their mom to "f" off. OMG, if told my mom or dad to shut up, I wouldn't be walking for a few days.

Comedian Russell Peters has a hilarious skit in regards to beating your kids.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o4oO7ZdfSFI

[–] SubZeroMK 14 years ago

It's not that some parents wouldn't wish to beat their kids. It's just that if their kids cry and tell their friends, or say, a school counselor about it, then child services would come. We live in a sensitive world. Everyone thinks like they just came out of a *beep* bubble. A woman is allowed to stab you, but if you lay a finger on her, you're the suspect.

[–] rph3664 14 years ago

What you get when you beat your kids is not kids who are well behaved because it's right, but because they're afraid of you, or they get better at not getting caught.

And I'll bet a lot of them WERE beaten, and now that they are big enough to fight back, they are.

[–] Grits-N-Gravy 14 years ago

Well there is a certain technique to beating your kids. You only hit them hard enough to scare them and inflict minor pain that will wear away after a few minutes. Most people do it the wrong way, which is hitting them like they are Bruce Lee. Also, do not follow through with the hits. You have to pull back.

[–] iCode_v2 10 years ago

Nice to see you have your child abuse planned out so specifically.

[–] iCode_v2 10 years ago

Eeeeexactly.

I behaved because I was taught to behave and not because I was scared of getting beaten up instead.

[–] kiboshz 13 years ago

Well, a good parent knows what works, and what doesn't, with their kids.

Some kids out there who are a bit slow developmentally, or are sensitive, will suffer great psychological and mental harm from any kind of physical punishment. These kids need to be handled with extreme care and even the wrong wording or harsh tone could cause severe mental damage.

Other kids, you can beat the crap out of them, and it'll just make them "harder". The mini Rambos thrive of physicality and 'me against the world' trauma. Physical punishment just reinforces their 'badass' stance against authority.

Other kids, one good spanking and a red butt for an hour shocks them into reality.

And some kids, all it takes is seeing how disapointed their parents are.

Trying to rope all children into one-size-fits-all parenting guide is the great failure in today's society.

[–] Queen_BC 13 years ago

I agree with the original poster, and I get so tired of hearing people say giving their kid one spanking will leave them psychologically damaged I call bs. When I was 5 years old I yelled back at mom an got one good spanking..14 years later I'm in college (pre med) got my own car own apartment and graduated high school with a 4.0 and me and my parents talk everyday still . So that whole giving your child ONE spanking will mess up their life is bs. Now let's look at the kids on this show who never got a spanking and look at them now ??? I'm not saying beat your kid everyday for every little thing but one spanking ain't gon do all the damage people say.

[–] HalbornScorpio 13 years ago

Personally I think spanking is creepy. Why would you choose to discipline your child by beating them on a sexual area of their body? Yuck.

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[–] HalbornScorpio 13 years ago

Well it is and try telling any gay man that it ain't! I'm a female and if I was to greet another female or even male co-worker with a friendly pat on the butt I would be fired. Why do you think that is? If I was to greet that same co-worker with a friendly pat on the back or arm they probably wouldn't have an issue with that. Why do you think that is? For the record I'm not a touchy feely person but I'm just using that as an example. It would be highly offensive (to a lot of people) to have someone just come up and touch their ass because it's considered a private area of their body. Some people will get highly upset if you bump them on the butt on accident let alone on purpose. Again I ask, why do you think that is? I consider it to be creepy and a form of sexual abuse to beat a child on their butt.

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[–] HalbornScorpio 13 years ago

I know it's not meant to be sexual but that doesn't change the fact that the butt is a sexual area of the body and you're still beating a private sexual area of a child's body. Put any kind of spin on it you want, my opinion is that it's wrong. And FTR a lot of perverts DO make it sexual. Do some research on corporal punishment in American schools. There's a black market for real videos of children being paddled in school. There's also a black market for real videos of children being spanked by their parents. Unfortunately there's lots of people who are turned on by watching that kind of thing.

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[–] hodie 11 years ago

Buttocks on a child are sexual? I take it you've never changed a diaper. My mother used to slap our faces and it would have hurt a lot less if we'd been hit on our bottoms.

Get me a bromide! And put some gin in it!

[–] kiboshz 13 years ago

You might want to actually read my post.

Spanking can cause psychological damage for SOME kids.
Spanking simply doesn't work for SOME kids.
Spanking is very effective for SOME kids.

It's up to you, as a parent, to understand your kids and figuring out what works and what doesn't.

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[–] sirfunnyboy 13 years ago

WHAT THE *beep* IS WRONG WITH YOU, YOU STUPID *beep*

[–] sirfunnyboy 13 years ago

"Kids don't need spankings. Kids need a swift closed fist across they jaw!"

I hope to the Gods that you and the original poster NEVER have kids. A$$holes like you freaks lead to child abuse, I hope you rot in hell.

[–] Ripley741 13 years ago

1. Try clicking the "REPLY" button when you... you know... want to reply to someone directly.
2. There is no 'hell'. Stop fooling yourself.
3. Based on your confrontational nature, and usage of (censored - haha) curse words, chances are YOU could have used a beating or two when growing up.
4. It's totally possible to administer physical punishment without it being or leading to "child abuse". Come down from your extremist thinking, and look between the lines once in a while.

[–] sirfunnyboy 13 years ago

Physical punishment like that should NEVER be used. What if a child is mentally challenged, alot of them don't understand what they did wrong. Just like the original poster I hope to the Gods you also NEVER have kids. My mom had the sense not to beat me, my brothers and sister. So get a brain and anyways what they do on this show is good. :(

[–] FireMinstrel 12 years ago

The problem is that ALL kids today seem to be treated by parents and school officials as if they were mentally challenged, and also as if they were made of glass.

[–] flimflamsam 12 years ago

I think kids need to understand that there are severe repercussions for their actions so I think a thump may be justified from time to time. For me well I got the extension cord, shoes thrown at me and kneeling on rice on tile, but what really scared me was watching the Tossed Salad Man and Oz as a kid, that'll scare the crap outta a kid.

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[–] samixsaysxhi 12 years ago

Rice on the tiled floor....lol, my mom told me about this. She never did it to me, but I was told about it.

you are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.

[–] samixsaysxhi 12 years ago

Yeah, my parents didn't play, LOL. I knew better than to disrespect them and their rules more than once. Sometimes, *sometimes* if I was really brave and stupid twice. But after that I got the message perfectly clear. My brother and I never knew what to expect as punishment....shoes tossed at us, brooms swiped at us, the good ol' belt (that was mostly for him, lol), the infamous smack upside the head, even the pulling over to the side of the road, and making you get out. So many punishments which left us knowing we were WRONG.

Of course I don't think parents should go too far with disciplining their kids. There's obviously a line, but I feel like most parents nowadays do not know how to properly keep their kids in line. When I watch this show I can't help but feel aggravated by the clueless, weak, poorly skilled parents. They allow their children to have complete control because they have not instilled a sense of respect in their kids. When I was around 9 years old I think, I once told my mom to shut up. Boy, did I NEVER do that again. She made sure I knew that ish was not going to happen again or else, lol. More parents need to lay down the law the first time the kid does stuff like this so they get the message!

you are not a beautiful and unique snowflake.

[–] avnrulz 12 years ago

The problem with a lot of the situations is 1) single (welfare) parent or 2) children of children. The kids don't get self-discipline instilled in them early, and are completely out of control.

My biggest gripe witht he whiny kids is their complaint about being 'angry.' WTH do they have to be 'angry' about? They have three meals a day, clothes on their back (often expensive) and a roof over their heads. The rest they bring on themselves.

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[–] haunt_freak 11 years ago

I was spanked/slapped when I was younger and it only made me resent my parents more. I still call my mother and father by their first names and don't call them "mom" or "dad." I've forgiven them for the most part. They're my parents, of course I love them.

But I do agree that parents today are too soft. Maybe spanking works for some, maybe it doesn't. But kids today are little ässholes.

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