Real Friends With Benefits Stories?

I have one. In college starting my sophomore year (Aren't all these stories from college?), I had a FWB, her choice mostly. I actually liked her at first and would have liked a relationship but I began to like the FWB aspect of it. Both of us actually dated other people, but would always hook up 2-3 times a month. Neither of us became too emotionally attached to the other people we dated.

So the beginning of my senior year, her junior, she comes to my apartment with a six pack of Corona. Of course, I'm thinking we'll drink a couple of beers, talk about what happened over the summer, get in a quick session and go about the new year. Well, she tells me she has a new boyfriend, is all in love, and there will no longer be any hook-ups. No biggie. I figured it would happen to one of us sooner or later. So I asked, "Who?", expecting the answer to be whoever, a junior whatever major. She tells me it is one of her married instructors, and get this, she goes on to tell me that she had a threesome with the instructor and his wife, along with other details. Well, this blew me out of the water and I became insanely jealous, I guess that was the emotion. For a few days, I could barely eat or sleep. That breeze that swirled through my apartment was my emotional detachment flying out the window. I was seriously messed up for a minute.

I eventually got over it (I'm lying, not really). We were able to save the friendship, although I would say we tamped down to good acquaintances. The affair got out and the professor was forced to resign. No, I did not drop a dime. Apparently, he told another professor that turned him in. It was quietly gossiped about around campus but it never became a full scale scandal (No Facebook or Twitter, thank goodness). My former FWB went on to graduate without much shame.

That was 21 years ago, I now have a wife and family but thinking about those days still makes me cringe.

Before I got married, I had one with a coworker that lasted around three months. It flamed out naturally and we remained friendly afterwards doing lunch and regular workplace banter. Maybe coworker with benefits is another category

I've been in one with my ex-boyfriend. We went into it both knowing the possible consequences. The only thing we didn't discuss was the part of what would happen we fell for one other. Out FWB went on for two years. I began falling for him, but I kept hush hush. Last year, he fell for me, and we started a relationship again. The only downside was I became too wrapped up in partying, so our relationship ended. A week later, we decided to be FWB once more. This time was different. He found a girlfriend, and I was left in the dark. We have talked about if his current relationship ends, we will go back to being FWb.

The main issue is that both parties need to go into it with eyes wide open. Let it be clear the various situations that were to happen. In most (not all) cases, one ends up falling for the other which may result in a broken heart. I do think a friends with benefit relationship is a good experience for some, if you know what you're getting into.

Friends for almost 4 years.
He saw me get all dressed up for our work's christmas party (not the last christmas, the one before last) and he realized he liked me. we kissed days later...most awkward thing EVER.

then we tried dating...he swiped my vcard...we "broke up" but remained friends...continued to have sex and still do. The funny thing is, it's not awkward. We dont just hang out with the intention of sex but if it happens it happens, if not it's whatever. We have a good time together whatever we do. We have this love for eachother I cant describe it.

Like, we're meant to be in eachother's life forever but just not as a couple.

idk it's weird.
I only blow things that are pink

I've had a couple

1. First person I ever dated. We broke up and 8 months later, we decided to try to be friends and it ended up turning into a friends with benefits thing.

2. The best friend of guy number 1 and I had always been attracted to him and we started hooking up but didn't actually have sex until 11 months later. We were best friends. A month after sex, he actually asked me out saying that he had been in love with me for a year and a half. I had felt the same. We broke up 4 months later due to commitment issues on my side.

3. A guy I had met in the same summer I had sex with guy number 2. We dated that summer but I had distanced myself from him because I wanted guy number 2. When me and guy 2 broke up, he called me the day after to hang out which was New Years and we had sex. But, it wasn't like the other times. It was like making love and he was the only guy to this day I could cuddle with for 1 or 2 hours after sex. It was really the best night of my life. 9 months later, we still see each other twice a month and it's just as amazing as the first night.

4. A man I met in summer school Chem 12 when I was 17. He was 5 years my senior already in university and just taking a couple classes so he wouldn't have to pay for them in uni. The first thing I thought when I saw him was "Damn." There were no words to describe him. No words that would suffice anyways. He was perfect. A week and a half later, he asked me to a movie and did it that night. It never did turn into a relationship because of how incompatible we were. We'd disagree on everything related to politics, people and religion. But that heat created intense chemistry between us and some of the best sex I've ever had.

5. The best friend of guy number 4. He asked me to meet him one night and the night turned into a threeway. One of the most gorgeous men I've ever met. One of the most interesting nights I've had was the nights I spent with these two beautiful men. Although the difference between the two was guy number 5 was honest, sweet and non judgemental. Guy number 4 was manipulative and deceptive. But the friendship between these two was the closest bond I've ever known between two people and yet the only thing they had in common was the they were both gorgeous.

There are a lot of people wondering how to initiate a friends with benefits thing but all I can say is that if you even have to think about that, it just means you're not hot enough for your guy friends or girl friends to constantly try to sleep with you. If that's the case, you got to find someone who's desperate enough for a friends with benefits. Attractive people never look for these type of relationships because the offers are always rolling in. So good luck.

Just got out of one and ironically this movie feels close to home. Mine started over a year or so ago and worked out great. Just like it did for these two, we started out as strangers who decided to hang out. Then after months we started sharing getting to know more about each others family. Of course recently it became a thing where we were too much into one anothers lives and both realized it and ended it. It went from sex to emotional to the point his friends/family saw us as if we were dating. All this happened before I even saw this movie.

Similiarities:
We both agreed to F.W.B. deal while playing game (us was triva while theres was tennis)
My friend takes care of his dad (w/out the altimezers issue)
Both got emotionally involved into (deep) each others lives
His family assumed we were more than friends

Personally don't think the ending to this movie was true to form. They just gave the audience what they wanted ... Happy Ending!

A few years back, before I met my current girlfriend, I broke up with my ex, and she came to the city, and was living here briefly, and she was walking down my street. I asked her to come back to my place and we hooked up. We did that for days then a few weeks later, she moved away back to Ottawa, and I've not seen her since. A month after she left, I met my girlfriend who I'm with now. I didn't want a relationship with my ex so FWB was perfect. Plus, I didn't need to feel guilty because she ended it by moving back to Ottawa.

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"Your punishment must be more severe." — Bane (TDKR)

Been there, done that, doing it now. If you both can detach yourself from your feelings, it will work. But if you both start getting feelings, or one of you get feelings, or whatever then it does get complicated. The sex is good but it's not as good as with someone you're in love with.