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This movie changed my stance on homosexuality.

posted 13 years ago by dontbelievethehype-2
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Hi, I'm 28 years and grew up in a time/place were gay children were openly harassed. To give an example I remember one field trip in the sixth grade were the entire bus chanted "Nah, nah, nah, nah, nah,nah,nah,nah, hey, hey, Giuseppes gay"

I'm ashamed to say that I participated in the chant and took part in many other cruel encounters with gay classmates.

When I was 16 my father died of cancer it had a large effect on me, one of which being that it led me to be a kinder an gentler person. Not long after my father's passing I openly apologized to Giuseppe, he didn't except and I can't say that I blame him.

Even though I had apologized for my cruelty and as I person I had changed drastically I wouldn't say that I was ever a supporter of gay rights. I believed that people had the right to be gay, but that people also had the right to openly openly opposed to homosexuality. I lost a friend a few years ago defending Miss California's right to be anti-gay. I was an idiot.

The scene in this movie where Rae Dong explains that at this point in her life it doesn't matter if it's a man or a woman, she just wanted someone who got her. I couldn't help but agree entirely, and I couldn't help but look back at the bravery of the young people I grew up with who realized that years ago.

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[–] fede_4488 9 years ago

You're the *beep* idiot for not getting the point of the OP

If I don't reply, you're most likely on my ignore list

[–] MrsBuckyBarnes 12 years ago

while i loved this film, i found this part of the plot rather trite. people don't get to choose to be attracted to one gender or the other. in reality if you are a heterosexual woman who is into men then that is that. if as a straight woman you meet another woman that gets you then hopefully you get to be lifelong close friends with that person. rae dong's character is clearly in love with her friend, realistically that would have just been an unrequited love situation, not a case of sarandon being converted to lesbianism after one peck on the lips under the sprinklers.

[–] henrimaine 9 years ago

I remember one field trip in the sixth grade

Only in sixth grade and already getting identified as gay? How old are sixth graders anyway? Isn't that too early to decide such matters?

[–] Dejay 8 years ago

Interesting read, thanks. As a child you are stupid and parents really need to teach you to be accepting of different things, but some you just have to learn for yourself. Good that you did.

As I'm getting older I too are less and less discriminate and less "weirded out" or disgusted by basically anything. Earlier I could never have imagined having sex or kissing a man, and I still don't see the appeal. But now I think more like "ah who the hell cares if it's a really great person".

A wise man once said try everything at least twice :)

"Chasing Amy" has a similar story about choice and love and sexuality. But just to provide a counter point, choosing to be gay is not what it's like for the majority. It's how people are hard wired. And the idea of "choosing this lifestyle" is part of anti-gay propaganda, implying that you can stop being gay if you want to. It's not like that for everyone.