OT: spoiler alert: family drama.
sorry for bringing this here, but im in a rough patch.
when i was 9 my father left for greece for a year. I was told he had no choice, and being a child of the military i understood. i fell in line and took care of the family, i had to raise my brothers (yes, even teh older one, because he was nothing but trouble) because my mother worked all day. the stress was so much that i developed an ulcer that year.
fast forward to about a year ago and my mother informs me that my father actually left because he wanted time alone. he suspected my mother of cheating. instead of getting an apartment across town, he went to greece.
I already had a sore relationship with my father, but this put me in a really bad place with him. it should be noted however that my mother only told me this at the height of their arguments where they were both talking about divorce.
after a year I finally got the courage to talk to my dad. i asked him and he very casually explained he had orders and he even tried to change them but could not. i told him what my mother said. he sounded surprised (?) and said thats not true.
so I call my mom. ask her if dad left because he suspected her of cheating. she said no. then i said 'thats what you've been telling me for the last year' and she said 'oh, yes'. it seems weird that she forgot as I warned her in advance that i would be asking my father about this. she asked me not to on sunday and instead do it on monday.
so i got them on speaker phone. both sticking with their story. one lying to the others face, and to me.
if my moms lying it wont change much with my dad. our relationsihp was strained at best and this wouldn't change. but if my mother was lying it would change a lot with her, because thats some pretty dark manipulation. back to the dollhouse.
i dont know who to believe. i asked brothers, grandmothers, aunts, and uncles, none heard anything other than that my dad had orders so had to go EXCEPT, one aunt, who said that she had heard that there was 'another woman'. she couldnt remember any details beyond that other than that my mother told her there was 'another woman'. which completely contradicts the version she told me.
i dont know who to believe and i dont think i can just be jolly with them and not knowing.
*when life gives you lemons*
Sara: are you a sour lemon?