...David and Katie were at Katie's parents house, and David comes in and grabs her by the hair and pulls her out of the house? My jaw fricken dropped. What I found most shocking was the fact that he did it in front of her FAMILY! You never see that happen. Her family's reactions were heartbreaking. Though it's really unrealistic that no one did anything to stop him.
Now Your Nightmare Comes To Life
It was a sign of the times, yes, that the family did not do anything. But I think that is more common than many of us would like to believe. A lot of women still stay with abusers as we all know, so a lot of times family will not get involved because they don't think they can do any good. It's heartbreaking, but realistic.
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I just finished watching all of the special features and this is exactly how the scene went down according to the brother who just stood there. There's an interview with the actual man himself, telling the story and he looks absolutely haunted by his inaction. This is the troubling quality of real life. Seems like this film was made as true to the information not only available, but uncoverable, as possible.
shareI used to work as a social worker and, sadly, situations like that aren't as uncommon/unrealistic as you may think. In theory, you're right about how ridiculous it is that nobody would do anything about it, but unfortunately life isn't always like that. Fear can cause regrettable decisions and inaction ("It wasn't as bad as it looked", "it doesn't happen all the time", etc).
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That's exactly why I left social work. Now I'm back in school going for a teaching degree. It's too hard to be around those kinds of situations all day everyday.
shareThe date that comes up, when that happens, is in the 1970's. Although the scene is shocking, it's nothing compared to stuff that I have personally witnessed:
What's Love Got to Do with It (1993)
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0108551/
Nil by Mouth (1997)
http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0119792/
I agree,
I can say from both experience and common knowledge that *beep* wouldn't fly IN my HOUSE nor would it fly with my friends around either. David would have been gang jumped in a minute had he snatched me like that.
I'll always feel, no more than halfway real. Till I hear you sing once more
To the people who say you wouldn't do anything in that situation...
...wow, you are some pathetic family members. Sad that you wouldn't have your own sister's back if her husband slapped her across the face.
I thought the exact same thing. Everyone watching their beloved sister, cousin, niece, get dragged like that by a man outside of their family.
The brother just stood there.
NOT. IN. MY. FAMILY.
If anyone tried that mess, he would have been jumped in an instant and school funding being an issue wouldn't have mattered. She would have no choice but to leave him. That doesn't fly with my family.
"We must try not to sink beneath our anguish, but battle on." Albus Dumbledore
Yes. Particularly I was annoyed by her brother, who stood there and did nothing. He was utterly ineffectual throughout. Of course I realise there are people like that but it's infuriating.
"I'll book you. I'll book you on something. I'll find something in the book to book you on."
I can't believe the niavety of responses.
Yes in normal circumstances we would all stand up & get involved for family members. But this was not normal. Katie's family knew how rich & powerful David's family were. They would have known that their own lives would be in danger if they got involved.
This man killed two people & organised the killing of a third yet still walks free is proof they would have achieved nothing but their own deaths if they got involved.
Remember that Katie sent evidence of illegal activity to a senator which was ignored & returned to David's family. Katie's disappearance hasn't been treated as a murder case. That the jurors could not see hacking a body & disposing of it as murder. Rich people can do what they want & money buys freedom.
Nah. Reacting to abuse is instinctive, a gut reaction. It's where the men and the boys get separated. You either react and do the right thing, or you're a wuss.
I know. In the '70s I was confronted with a friend couple, when hubby kicked or pushed his pregnant wife with his leg. My 6'4" boyfriend, brother of the abuser, just stood there. Well, hell no....that's not gonna happen in front of ME. I took action and stopped that bs immediately. You wanna hit someone, buddy? Hit me...we'll see how long you have to stay in jail. Come on, buddy,,,,don't beat up on pregnant women like a wuss..come on, now, here I am...5'5" 110 pounds of young woman, but at least I'm not pregnant and am willin' to give it a try. Everyone came to their senses, and the domestic argument stopped.
Was I thinking clearly? Not really. But it was a gut reaction. You can't just stand there and watch someone abuse someone else without at least trying to do something. Could I have gotten hurt? Yes. But you don't think about that. You just react. I couldn't help it. It's a reaction a person has. But actually, that was a bad marriage, and neither of those people were very nice. They deserved each other.
If some guy had grabbed my hair in front of my brother, well..let's just say that he wouldn't let that slide. It would've made a difference if the guy had been my husband, but not much.
It is a bit different for men, though. Men grow up knowing that they may be faced with hand to hand combat with another man, and a fight between two men can get pretty ugly. Whereas, when a woman intervenes, it takes a pretty low man to turn away from man handling his gf or wife, to man handling or beating up a different woman. He's likely to go to jail.