So many things bother me about this film...

This movie is currently on TV where I am and I watched it and lasted maybe five minutes. Charlotte's pathetic attitude towards Mexico (I don't know if she's racist but she's certainly obnoxious and rude) was the final straw for me. Pathetic!

"When we make mistakes, it's evil. When God makes mistakes, it's nature."

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I think that was the whole point of the movie. Carrie was selfish, barreled ahead with the wedding without much with consultation with Big, although it was hinted at that he wasn't completely clueless that the guest list was growing. And she finally recognized it after reading her own interview in Vogue. Though in the character's defense, Big had a history of cold feet throughout their relationship. I could see her (or me) getting fed up with his stop and go relationship style.

You have pretty much nailed all the annoying things for me as well. And I have said as much on other posts on here.

Especially the racist Mexico thing, with the three other girls eating and drinking the same food.

As for the bird on the head...bloody hell, no wonder he didn't get out of the car! And where was his attendant 'best man' to give him moral support? Pretty tacky to have the huge spread after two divorces and his feelings weren't considered at all.

Let's not forget charlotte's constant shrieking...I don't remember her being so annoying in the series.

I just watched this again last night, so I thought I'd chime in, even though this thread is kind of old.

Carrie's behavior throughout the wedding was completely consistent with her character on the show. She was always a very selfish person. That's not to say she doesn't genuinely care about people, but she was very selfish and this is evident many times over the course of the series. The flower scene, I agree to an extent that if she had just stopped to listen for a second they probably could have worked things out. But part of me also agrees with what she did because the damage had been done already. Samantha was at the library telling their guests that the wedding was not going to happen. He had already said to her, "I can't do this", and broken her heart, which you can never take back even if you want to. Even if they did go back to the library and get married, Carrie would wonder for the rest of her life if Big truly wanted to be there. And it's not like this was the first time Big had bailed on her when she asked for a commitment. This was at least his third or fourth chance to get it right, and he blows it again? Nah, he deserved to be whacked with the flowers.

As for not calling someone on the day of the wedding, well, weddings are incredibly hectic. You're so caught up in everything that you don't really have time to explore the possibility that your groom is anxious and won't show up. You just have to have faith and trust that he loves you enough to actually show up and marry you. Carrie is selfish, but Big leaving her at the altar is 100% on him - not on Miranda for her "you're crazy to get married" comment, and not on Carrie for failing to "check on him" the day of. A bride should never have to call her groom on their wedding day to make sure he still wants to marry her. If he wanted out, he had plenty of time to come to that conclusion throughout the engagement. Obviously that rule applies to brides with cold feet too, but in this particular situation it was the groom.

Both Charlotte and Samantha do care about Miranda, but the situations are completely different and so are the women involved. Miranda is decisive, she's independent, and doesn't want to be coddled. Her logic overrides her emotion 99% of the time, so she sees this exactly how she said it: it's tragic, but you move on and you do what you have to do to make your life work with your unexpected circumstances. She's hurting, but can still live her life without noticeably falling apart at the seams. Miranda works through her pain, and that's how she heals. She never breaks down completely, but she has her moments of sensitivity where she lets her emotions get the best of her (by the pool with Samantha, New Year's Eve). Her pain comes in smaller doses, because that's how she can deal with it. She has to break it up. Carrie, a far more openly emotional person, doesn't look at things this way. She's a woman of the "I'm putting my entire life on hold until I feel better" variety. She allows her pain to take her over completely so that she can get it all out in one go, and then heal. She is highly emotional right after it happens, but doesn't really suffer another emotional outburst after that (Valentine's Day notwithstanding, because she was presented with new information, which changes things). Neither woman is mending her broken heart in the "right" or "wrong" way. They're simply doing what they need to do for themselves, and Charlotte and Samantha are supporting them accordingly.

The bird, I agree - hideous. But I think it was fake, right? I hope it was fake. I don't care how "stylish" it might be, you couldn't pay me to wear a dead bird on my head, on my wedding day or any other day.

As others have mentioned here - tourists are generally told when traveling to Mexico not to drink the water. But the rest of it is simply Charlotte's neuroticism. Yes, it's dumb and kind of judgmental, but I think that's why the writers had Charlotte be the one to s**t herself. It was her "punishment" for being judgmental.

How is Miranda barging into someone's apartment racist? It's rude, sure, but not racist.

The film is not a commentary on how women are supposed to act. It's for entertainment only. It's not telling you that this is what you're "supposed" to do. It's telling you a story of four women and how they specifically act and react to certain situations. Nothing more, nothing less.

I completely agree about Carrie being selfish. But that was always her character. So dramatic about everything!

The racism thing you brought up..ugh.

I'm so tired of the racism card getting thrown in constantly. Everybody's racist. But.. It's always white people being accused of it too-so that's racism in itself! So I have to disagree with you on that point. Like many others in this thread have mentioned, I don't think Charlotte was directing it at the Mexican people, but the reputation of drinking the water there. I've been to Mexico and it is true about the water.





Don't you go dying on me!

I am watching the movie now and it's SO BAD! I liked series, it was fun, but this is depressing, boring, stupid, no story, no characters, and so cringe worthy all the way...
Women are all presented as manipulative b*tches obsessed with weddings, couture, money and "nice things", with no depth, selfish, unlovable, hateful, man hating, borderline psychotic... I just hate them all, not just Carrie. I used to like Mirranda, but here, she is also annoying and I really hate her. "I changed everything for you, I live in B*** now!" (I forgot the city name), "you betrayed us", blahblahblah, Oh the clishe! Just pathetic!
Men, o boy... they are just like empty cans, no soul, no character, just money and yes dear, all for you dear. They cant's stand for themselves, they are so weak, stupid, pathetic, I kinda hated them even more.
I am a female, btw, but this is a disgrace.

The thing that annoyed me most in the movie is that everyone thinks that what Big did, is worse than what Steve did. am I the only one thinking what Steve did was worse???

And specially when Charlotte sits there at the fashion show, telling Miranda to forgive Steve and then telling Carrie she would kill Big. That's just wrong. Sure Miranda expressed a wanting to forgive him, but still. How is running out on the big wedding you didn't want, worse than cheating on you wife since several years and in extension on you 5 year old son??