No mention of a best man, only a work colleague (whom he didn't even like) at the rehearsal dinner, no one with him in the car on the way to the wedding, no one at the breakfast after their city hall wedding...
Does he have no friends at all?
Even in the series Carrie always joked that he didn't have any friends.
sharebig is a successful business man, his "friends" are probably all business colleges and associates. but really did they need anymore characters in this film?
shareIt was hard to feel sorry for Big, but the one moment where I did feel sorry for him was when he was sitting alone in the restaurant on NYE eating his dinner while everyone around him was counting down and celebrating.
shareTwo things. In the series Carrie joked with him saying "....You don't have friends" and he looked at her and smirked and said "But I have interested parties". I love that line and use it often myself! I view Big as a loner with most likely few true friends. Nothing wrong with that. I can identify. I have colleagues but few very truly caring friends. I suppose it depends on your definition of what a friend is! I know I'm probably getting to deep for a show/movie like this but honestly---- I don't think its implausible. He is VERY successful and obviously smart- even by NY standards. Men like him (and probably women like this too) aren't the type to hang out with "the guys". In fact, there probably aren't a lot of men out there he has a lot in common with OTHER than his work colleagues. I'm sure he has meals and meetings with them but they aren't his friends who he looks to for personal comfort or as entertainment in his downtime. Although he can be a cad and f-up royally, he seems rather introspective and possibly introverted.
I'm similar in that way do I guess that's just my view. I too don't have a lot of friends. I take the word friend seriously and I'm selective. Is that arrogant or antisocial?----extroverts often think that. But life IS perception.... Is it not?
I agree, I think that was one of the many differences the writers wanted us to see when it came to Big and Aiden.
Aiden seemed more like the kind of man that would have guy friends, more sociable I guess. I know in that one episode Carrie didn't like that Aiden seemed like a homebody, but I would say because he was more outdoorsy I could easily see him going to play basketball with Steve or go out to the bar with another guy friend. Big seemed like the type of "homebody" that wasn't necessarily sociable. If that makes any sense LOL.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with that. What matters is that you feel your needs are being met. I am more on the introverted side, but if I go too long without spending time with others (or talking to anyone) I would feel lonely. The thing with me is I want it to be *quality* time or conversations. Not talking to just to talk. If I didn't have friends, even one, who I couldn't connect with on a deeper level and confide in, I would probably try to seek that out.
shareHappyphantom9----Yes !! Excellent way to put that. That's me too. Quality over quantity. I suspect at the end of life, I won't be reflecting on superficial aquaintences or how many "friends" I have on Facebook. I will, however, be reflecting on those who I cared for and loved deeply.
shareit's not unusual at all for a man that age not to have any friends
shareAbsolutely! And women too. I am one of those who in middle age does not have a bunch of buddies. In fact, as an introvert I am happier that way. Social media and magazines and our general culture makes everyone feel as though they should have a lot of friends who we should always be around and having "girls night out"--- or that men are all about sports and hanging with their "bros". It's simply not true. Especially into your 30's and 40's. People's lives and priorities (should anyway) change with age. Remember, Big had two prior short marriages and he had NO children. Most people by his age have children and with that comes a big disconnect with those like Big (and Carrie for that matter) who did not have children. I speak from experience, as I have no children. Many of the friends I had when I was younger now have children and a marriage or two under their belts by now. And this has just simply caused many of us to grow apart.
On top of that, it is harder to find people we have things in common with as we get older. It's always harder to form new friendships as we age, but add to that being in a small minority of not having children and wow....it's like a needle in a haystack to find people who you'd even want to be friends with! Again, I speak from experience.
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shareNow I don't recall the rehearsal dinner too well but do recall he had a bestman given the the toast. Also from series there were few episodes where Carrie ran into him with a friend.
Obviously most of the guys all the ladies had serious relationships with were not showcased w/ guy friends. During series Steve & Aiden... But the show and movie was based on the women mainly.