flashing and rape scene
So, just to comment on the 2 scenes which have received the most attention, I think some obvious points were missed.
The Flashing:
Her husband acted like an irrational jerk regarding her being stared at. He was right that men will look at a woman dressed as she was when they look as she does...but, staring and eye-screwing is different than looking. He should have man upped and said something...not blamed his wife and then claimed he didn't get turned on by her because he's already seen her naked. Women..and men, want to be desired...he left her feeling as if he'd seen everythingher and it didn't do anything for him to see her dress sexy. It was well written as this is something that would occur in a relationship...and, men are screwed because saying something makes us jealous fools..not means we don't care...but, he still acted like a jackass. She flashed for herself, to spite her husband and them....to show them it didn't get to her.."you wanna see...here I am" type deal...and to feel desired..since her husband did not act as if he desired her.
On the Rape:
While it was rape, and she did not deserve it, there was a part of her that enjoyed it with Charlie. She wrapped her leg around his and grabbed his hand during it. She was as disgusted with herself as she was with him, IMO. You could see the contrast in her reaction when the second man came in and raped her. Initially she snapped out of it and told Charlie to get off her...she didnt act as a victim...then..she acted as a woman who realized what she'd done. Then, when raped by the friend, she screamed no and stop the whole time and crying, unlike what she did with Charlie.
Both were rape...but the first was wanted by a part if her, IMO. I wouldn't call it cheating...she lusted for him...used self control to prevent it as best she could..but, once it happened, she didn't hate it. IMO.