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Do you think Frank loved April?

posted 13 years ago by est333
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It was made clear in the movie they jumped into marriage too early, and that April quickly found she wasn't in love with him, but it didn't seem clear to me if he loved her. It seemed like he was more realistic and willing to make an effort with their marriage after his affair considering divorce was out of the question for them. I think most (if not all) relationships lose the spark after so much time, and couples get tired of listening to each other as was shown at the end when Mr Givings turns his hearing aid off when his wife speaks. However, I think Frank made more of an effort and tried to speak up when things were going wrong and I think that showed he loved her (or at least more than she loved him). What are your opinions?

[–] ohanna16 11 years ago

Like somebody said somewhere in this topic, in the breakfeast scene you can see he really loves her. I even think telling her about the affair and being so hurt with her reaction is a sign he loved her.
About him being in love with the idea of her that some people are saying, i dont think it is, because at least in the movie we don't have any signs of those stuff, like she was the perfect depiction of a woman he wanted or idealized or something like that. I think he truly, deeply, loved her. He tries all the time to make things right, and i think the main reason he gave up on going to Paris was BECAUSE he loved her, and he felt like he could give her what she needed and make her happy with the new job.
But i think the bottom line of the movie truly was that they did not needed to go to Paris to find happiness, maybe it was in the breakfeast, what Frank felt during the breakfeast, that you can be happy whatever you are, whatever it is that your doing, as long as you are with people you love.

[–] Luvmykitty 10 years ago

He loved her, but he was too scared to get out of his comfort zone. He just thought she would accept comfort over happiness. He was willing to go through the motions, she wasn't. I believe fear of the unknown, the fear of him failing, the fear of being different was what made his decision about Paris, not love for her. If it was love for her he would have seen her desperation.

[–] IcingOnTheCake 10 years ago

I believe he did. She was hard to love due to her own unhappiness. He could have handled things better such as not belittling her acting and having sex with a secretary.

[–] movieliker1 9 years ago

Frank did not love April. What he did love was her loving him and her supporting him and his desires. That is why he got so angry when she expressed her own ideas and dreams.

Frank was a selfish user who wanted to take his wife for granted. He wanted a "Stepford Wife". Not a real woman.

[–] IcingOnTheCake 9 years ago

Do you really mean these things, playing, devil's advocate, trolling, or are very young?

Frank loved April but he was mentally stable. She had issues. She was never happy, maybe couldn't be. He was frustrated.

He didn't have any problem with her being active in the community, staying at the bar with Shep, etc. He was more lenient than many husbands, especially during that era.

I feel bad for the children. I wish there had been a sequel in which he's remarried and they're all happy and flourishing.

[–] movieliker1 9 years ago

Do you really mean these things, playing, devil's advocate, trolling, or are very young?

Of course, I mean everything I have said. Are you playing devil's advocate? Are you a male chauvinist pig who thinks men are entitled to do whatever they want and women are supposed to be loving, supportive, and have no dreams, ideas or opinions of their own?

Frank loved April but he was mentally stable. She had issues. She was never happy, maybe couldn't be. He was frustrated.

Frank didn't love April. He loved having a Stepford Wife at home. He loved being able to do whatever he wanted.

She was happy throughout most if the movie. She only became unhappy when she realized Frank didn't care what she thought and felt.

Frank was angry whenever April acted like an independent person. Instead of a Stepford Wife.

He didn't have any problem with her being active in the community, staying at the bar with Shep, etc. He was more lenient than many husbands, especially during that era.

He didn't care what she did as long as she cleaned the house, took care of the children and supported his decisions.

I feel bad for the children. I wish there had been a sequel in which he's remarried and they're all happy and flourishing.

I feel bad for everyone except Frank. He was the reason everything fell apart.

[–] IcingOnTheCake 9 years ago

I'm female and live in a more accepting era. I believe you're just playing games.
I don't mind differences of opinions. You though are being silly. I'll just place you on my ignore list and be done with it. Enjoy your game playing with others, most of them won't.

[–] movieliker1 9 years ago

I'm female and live in a more accepting era. I believe you're just playing games.

You sound more like a Stepford Wife who thinks men are always right and women should always support their man no matter what.

I don't mind differences of opinions. You though are being silly. I'll just place you on my ignore list and be done with it. Enjoy your game playing with others, most of them won't.

It seems like you do mind. That is why you threaten to put me on ignore.

[–] archer6749 10 years ago

I hope this answers your question. This is a deleted scene
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E0BJRvjq20A

[–] sunchick116-872-583383 9 years ago

frank loved april very much but she was clearly emotionally unstable and it's hard to show your love when your job is to constantly try to reason with someone who can't be reasoned with. she clearly had a mental illness (we can argue for days on what it was) and ill people tend to drive people away with their cruelty over their misery. only in this case it was the 1950's and it wasn't socially acceptable to get out. who was going to believe him that the wife was the toxic one?