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I find it hard to believe they went along with it (minor spoilers)


Pretending the doll was real.

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They liked Lars so much. Didn't you?

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no, not really.

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That is a shame. He seems to me a sweet loving person who simply has some problems. I suppose a person has to have problems to sympathize with others with problems like the doctor sympathizes with Lars or the rest of the townspeople sympathize with him. They all have their problems and know what it is to be a good person who still must struggle with difficulties. You are lucky you do not have any problems.

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If you take it as a movie set in the real world then yes its hard to believe but if you take it as a movie set in some fantasy world then ok anything is believable. To me it looked pretty clear that the movie was set in real world small town America but the over the top nature and absurdness of it all makes me think it was all a fantasy world.

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Are you familiar with the concept of suspended disbelief? The divergence from what would happen in the real world allows the story to be told and the characters to be developed without the constraints of pure realism. Most films do contain an element of suspension of disbelief in order to convey a story, and this one uses the concept rather heavily, but it's effective.

If you try to compare films with the real world, you'll be left sorely disppointed. The rather outlandish storyline in this movie allows for the portraya of characters in order to gets it point across. I thought the theme of human compassion was a major element here, and having so many characters play along with their loved one's delusion was a good way to illustrate the extent of human kindness.

Depicting accurate reality in terms of events isn't really the point here.

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Had the same problem with the Avengers.

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The problem for me was that this film wasn't set in a fantasy world but, rather, a realistic one and so I had a huge problem suspending my disbelief. The direction was too heavy handed and serious and never really was able to evoke a fairy tale mood (to be fair, I don't think the director was trying for this kind of mood either).

Don't get me wrong-I love quirky, off beat films like this but I just couldn't buy that any town would allow their resources like ambulances and hospitals to be used by a delusional young guy no matter how much they liked him.

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There was a lot of guilt from all the townspeople, it was obvious that Lars father did not cope with the loss of his wife during childbirth, and no-one was there for him, then later when Lars returned to the town everyone was content to go on with their lives and ignoring his existence until he introduced Bianca his girlfriend,/mother substitute, the necessity for her existance woke them all up to the wrongness of how they lived- seperate little disconnected lives they realised this and was the reason why they went overboard to accomodate Lars. They also enjoyed the experience, it ws fun, it warmed up a long cold winter, it brought the town together and they all learnt some things about connections to each other so yeah I found it believable, perhaps not realistic but I enjoyed it regardless, and will definately be watching again..

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I just saw this - there's no indication that everyone in the town was content with ignoring his existence. Apart from his brother showing little apathy, he had a lot of interaction from what we saw (his work colleagues, people at church). And the whole point of them going along with the doll being real was because they all cared for him, not because they realised they did anything wrong to him.

Regardless, this movie had potential to be held in a more high regard if it didn't focus so much on everyone going along with it, especially to the point of holding a public funeral for her! Ok, colleagues going along with it at a party...maybe. But, like another poster said, no WAY they would use ambulance resources. Never believable.

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Okay, so they wouldn't have really used an ambulance, or even held a public funeral for Bianca. I was a little taken back by it too, but then I held onto those moments because its a movie, and movies aren't going to portray what would happen in the real world. Honestly, I thought it was beautiful that the town played along, especially with the ambulance and funeral. If people catered to others' emotions and problems like that, the world would be so different. The whole point, in my opinion, was to help Lars along, let him figure out his pain in his own way. everyone already noticed he was having issues connecting. Going along with Bianca not only allowed him to let go of his issues, but also reconnect with the town again. That wouldn't have happened if they didn't back him all the way through. Even if people wouldn't have gone so far in real life, its still pretty amazing to see what a small town is willing to do for one of their own. Anyway, sorry for the long post. :)

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I work in a facility for people with alzheimers and dementia. Many of whom believe its a different year or their doll is a real baby (their children perhaps) everyone goes along with it. Vistors, janitors and the nurses.

When someone has a delusion you cant make them see what is "really there" its like if someone came up to you and said the sky is not blue but green. To THEM what they "SEE" is real. As a caring human being you go along with it.

:)

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I agree with marlajreview. If this happened to someone I care about, I'd go along with it. It's just a little acting. And maybe in such a small town, those EMTs were begging for something to do!

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I find it hard to believe that a 900+ year old, three-foot-tall swamp creature can point his finger and raise an X-Wing fighter (a vehicle in which I do not believe) out of a bog...yet somehow I don't feel compelled to bring it up on the board for The Empire Strikes Back


Who cares about stairs? The main thing is ice cream.

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