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With a friend like Ruby's... who needs a push....

posted 11 years ago by lunaticprophet
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I see why they filmed her in silhouette.. surprised she even agreed to do this, but such is the power of rationalization.

If my friend was so obviously distraught (as she described in their last meeting) that I could sense that they were contemplating suicide.. and if, at that very moment, that friend told me that they were contemplating suicide... and my FRIEND asked if they could spend the night at my home....

I would NOT say, "no you can't, but if you need anything... just call and I'll be right over"!!

You moron.. he was saying LOUDLY AND CLEARLY that he needed something... YOU! ... someone to help him.. IN SOME WAY!!
He's crying uncontrollably, he's been self-medicating (MEDS WHICH YOU PROVIDED) and hasn't been sleeping... HE'S TELLING YOU THIS!! He's TELLING you he's thinking of suicide and with your own two eyes you can see how utterly distraught he is!!

And your response to all of this....

----Go Home and call me if you need anything----

utterly pathetic and moronic!

[–] fast_fierce_and_funny 11 years ago

I would NOT say, "no you can't, but if you need anything... just call and I'll be right over"!!

What would you have done if you had found yourself in her place?

[–] Bishcake 11 years ago

Have let him come over clearly and if it had come to it get him taken into involuntary medical care.

I felt sorry for her as she clearly felt a lot of regret and what appeared to be both guilt and shame at the choice she made.

[–] OutForAWalkB-tch 11 years ago

I wouldn't ever blame someone for another person's suicide, but that bit did strike me as a bit odd. (Paraphrasing): "He was crying and crying and crying. I realized he truly wanted to kill himself. He brainstormed with me about how to do it. Very distraught, he asked to spend the night at my house. And I said 'No!'. I wanted to be alone."

Really, woman? Really?

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[–] Howlin Wolf 11 years ago

I'm not going to blame her, because that's not nice... She was clearly cut up about what went down, and what she could or should have done differently. She doesn't need strangers moralising.

Having said that, I did find it strange that she gave him HER meds, but wasn't willing to tell him how to take them... I don't understand what good she thought that might possibly do. Had he gone to a doctor, one of the first things they would have said is: 'Don't take medication that isn't prescribed for you'... We all do things we're not supposed to, but given that doctors wouldn't countenance that plan, it would make sense to me for her to at least share her knowledge, rather than hand them over without providing any follow-up assistance...

... but, I'm absolutely sure she feels bad enough about events as it is, so I can't hang her out to dry for it. It just puzzled me, is all.

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[–] crysjumar 10 years ago

I don't know. if you tell someone you are about to commit suicide, that places a huge burden of responsibility on that person. having that person in your home...maybe you just can't deal with it.

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[–] ginger-51 10 years ago

I agree, I can absolutely imagine feeling overwhelmed by the burden of having someone tell me they are contemplating suicide and then wanting to come home with me. If that person has been in that state in the past or for an extended time, I can even imagine myself thinking "oh god not again!" and not wanting to feel responsible for his life and not wanting to have that person spend the night at my house. Serious depression can be overwhelmingly exhausting to be around, I know this first hand. BUT, at the same time, if anyone--friend or not--confided in me that s/he was thinking of killing themselves and I had any feeling that they were in any way serious about it (or drunk/high/impulsive enough to act on it), I would feel obligated to call help. I don't think I would want to bring that person into my home either, but I WOULD call a suicide hotline, police, or emergency assistance and tell them about my concerns. The police could then do a welfare check on the person and if necessary take him/her for help.

That segment of this documentary really affected me and I'm still thinking about it months after watching it. Sad for the 'jumpers' but especially sad for those who are left behind with regrets.

[–] MaeLeeMae 10 years ago

From what she said he just wanted to come over after the movie. There was no mention of his spending the night. He obviously needed to talk, which she denied him. There was no danger of him killing himself at her house as one poster suggested. Go home, Ruby, even though you are obviously in pain needing my friendship because I want to be alone but if you need me, I'll be right over. "I did say that." Paraphrasing here, "The last time I saw him, well, actually that was the last time I saw him." Big surprise. Of course that was the last time she saw him. Why would he reach out to her again before he jumped? She brushed him off the last time he needed her.

[–] Superstar51292 9 years ago

I can't feel sorry for this lady. I hope her decision eats at her every day. She may not have saved his life, but then again maybe she would have. Or maybe he wouldn't have felt like he had no one left. Like... His best friend who can't be bothered with his company because "she wants to be alone"??

[–] millsyooksy 9 years ago

She might be a little cray too. She gave him her meds, she went on this documentary and said that he denied him her company when he really wanted someone to talk to (why would she open herself up to that criticism?). I dunno...if my friend said they were hurting and needed to talk you bet I'd let them come over. She sounds like a crappy friend.

[–] sonoftom 9 years ago

She said because she wanted to give him some space, and she did say that she regretted that. Obviously some people rushed to lash out comments of anger in her direction before hearing her interview in full.

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[–] jessiecpt 9 years ago

Dude. I could totally tell you're thinking about killing yourself.
I really am.
Do you have a plan?
Yes, I do and here it is. *Tells her details of several different ways he's considering.* I'm really depressed. Can I just come over for awhile? I'm not ready to go home.
NOPE. I want to be alone. Bub-bye.

What a witch.