What planet do you live in?
I am tall, work out 4/5 times a week, don't eat meat or dairy, am slim, no wrinkles or crows feet, still have most of my hair, smooth face (despite never having moisturised that regularly), and I've been told on various occasions that I'm 'good-looking' particularly by women, but I'm constantly thinking that I'd be turned down if I asked even an averagely attractive woman out, let alone an '8' or '9'.
Seriously, society has conditioned men to do the exact opposite of what you're saying, but because one is accused of 'misogyny' for saying so, we don't hear such things in the MSM. *sigh*
But honestly, I'd like to hear your answer, because, frankly, I'm baffled.
UNLESS, you're saying that attractive women are rejecting/ignoring genuinely good-looking/handsome men, in favour of schlubs, in which case, I'd say, perhaps you have a point (I see some attractive women make some baffling choices; then again, this is the problem - women favour 'stability' over attractiveness, not that Rogen's character in this was remotely 'stable'). But where does that leave the genuinely good-looking/handsome men? Single, or having to date below *their* level, perhaps? 🤷♂️
The other theory is that women choose losers like Rogen because they know he'll be grateful and won't stray. It's sad, because many decent-looking-guys won't stray. I was once told by a woman "You look like the type of c**t who will treat women mean," which is ironic, because I'm an ultra-feminist who treats ALL people, especially WOMEN, with 100% respect and dignity. But just cos I 'looked like a c**t' in contrast to a schlub like Rogen, I guess I was ruled out of consideration.
Such is the burden for men who aren't fat, shortish, ugly, scrunchy-haired, belching schlubs with bad skin. *sigh*
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JosephQCat (706)
2 years ago
Honestly, to use an old term I would have to walk some miles in your shoes to know the lay of your land. Might be something tangible as not liking you because of your family. Might be something far less tangible as some women equate being nice with being weak (financially). Take a deep breath and know as long as you are trying to be a good human being that is perhaps the most important thing that you can do. Women are not guaranteed to be nice just because of their gender. Who the heck knows what is going on with the woman that made the c**t statement. Does not mean that she is full of virtue. A Seinfeld type observation that I will make is that there a plenty of attractive women out there versus men so some good looking women filter down to not so good looking guys. Now this is if a guy is not holding women to impossible standards of attractiveness. Not filtering by ethnic background or bra size. I pursued a woman based on common interest while in high school which fired up the gossip mill. OK looking by most standards but had flaws. I don't know how old you are but it usually gets better as we age. I was not successful in high school with girls but women mature in short order or at least the ones worth pursuing. The best dating I had while at school was towards the end at an elite college. The women there got their fill of jerks and got it out of their system that good looking does not make for a better mate. I had women that I never thought obtainable just a few years prior asking me out. Then there is the other side of it that there is emotional growing to do that sometimes a good opportunity is lost due to perceived issues. Dating can be very complicated.
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HarveyManFredSin (4877)
2 years ago
I don't ask anyone out because I don't regard myself as a 'catch'. But I look at some other guys, and at the risk of sounding like an arrogant prick, I think, these women could do better, and without being a '10', they could probably do better with me (not that I'm entitled to their affections). I treat people with respect, I wouldn't cheat, I'm cultured, I try to engage with other people's interests, I'm fairly attentive, I have wide tastes, I'm reasonably slim and reasonably tall, I still work out, I don't eat meat or dairy, I don't smoke, I barely drink, I certainly don't partake in drugs, I don't have a criminal record, I'm generally kind (i.e. I do A LOT of regular voluntary work etc). Unfortunately, because of my anxiety, and despite my qualifications (Law degree from a good college, post-grad professional legal qualification etc), I am poor, due to my anxieties, and so, like I say, I don't regard myself as a 'catch'.
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JosephQCat (706)
2 years ago
Sometimes it takes a LONG time to work through the dating process. Looking back I can see in myself that things I had "figured out" at 18 years of age were anything but being realistic. And I blew opportunity after opportunity because of it. It's just a part of being human and we all unfortunately have to go through the process. An example for me is a girl may have appeared rude and therefore on the surface not liking me. But when I think back concerning one particular girl she was annoyed that I was not right there without an invitation. It was harder than that because from what I saw I had little in common with her and we were different in a lot of respects. But years afterward it got back to me time and again she inquired about me. Another thing that was hard to learn is once a girl gives one signal that may be it. No further window of opportunity. And that went against my nature of being a ponderer and thinker. That not giving an affirmative response right away might be considered rejection.
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GirlNamedSue (240)
2 years ago
Some of the best looking guys arent really that good looking but they have so much charisma and confiddence women flock to them. You could probably do "better'' than you think.
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