Anyone else felt sorry for the husband?

i havent read the rest of the replys to this, but im sure most of them agree with me. i do not NOT feel sorry for the husband. maybe you empathize with him, but there is no sympathy. he is what you should hate about your self, and watching that side of you be tricked and played around by a PERFECT mind..... is wonderful.
so no, i do not feel sorry for the abusive - horball - couldnt realize that all he had to do was love his wife and not like to poke her with his dong - husband.

p.s. this movie was beautiful - just like "spring, summer, fall, winter, and spring" see it.

Yeah I sympathized with him as well. He came off as someone who had explored the shallow aspects of life and took to violence when that wasn't enough.

I agree. Although I seriously hated the man for beating his wife and trying to force himself on her, I also felt sorry for him. My interpretation is also that he desperately loved his wife and due to his social/emotional ineptness, he was incapable of properly showing her how much he loved her by showering her with material goods and in his frustration that she did not love him back and his violent nature, he resorted to abuse which he was too weak to hold back. I also saw his attempts to force himself on his wife as a misguided demonstration of how desperate he was for any semblance of love in his relationship. To me, the ending just showed how much he really loved her and how happy he was when he thought that she was happy and loved him too.

I think that in the movie he represented the epitome of the isolated, flaw ridden human who seeks love/connection with others but is so inept that he just screws up any hope for that. Additionally, I think that he is the foil for the main character who is the epitome of the existentialistic, isolated, and omniscient being/human.

Ok, I might totally be wrong and this might be a far flung perspective, but after my experiences with my Korean father who is very similar to this guy with his desperation (arranged marriage/love for wife), frustration, and wrong actions (abuse) and recently discovering that he harbors more than just anger and violence and that he really is a vulnerable human after all, I feel pity for that man.

Who in the right mind could actually feel sorry for him? He beat his wife, and tried to rape her.

You can't love anybody you treat that badly. I think you're being overly sympathetic. He saw his life destroyed the night she left him? What about her? He almost RAPED her for christ sakes. He ended her innocence a long time ago, and at that point she was a completely broken person who couldn't even defend herself. That is how harshly he's treated her. He was an obsessed sociopath who didn't care about her AT ALL.

He only cared about himself, and that is why he spent so much time trying to exact his revenge on the protagonist. Towards the end he said he was a ' changed ' person. Really though, the only thing he desires of his wife is sexual pleasure. To get this, he tries to treat her slightly better ( by watering her plant? Come on ). Did you notice though, that he made NO mention at all to the way he treated her before ( beating her, slapping her in the face, trying to rape her )? He never even apologized! Even worse than that, he realized that she was finally finding her own independance because of the protagonist. He wanted to kill that new found independance by getting rid of that boy; all in an effort to kill her spirit again. He then paid a police officer to allow him to hit the boy with golf balls?

You have to remember he was beating her ( and probably raping her ) before the boy was even introduced to her. He says another scary line in the film too ' Where did you go? I thought I told you to call me whenever you go anywhere? ' I mean how obsessive, and controlling is that? To him, she's his prisoner, he wants to completely control her.

Sympathy for a man like that is a truly scary thing..

Love dose not equal dependency.

I think we need to rethink the concept of love. I think most of you are thinking of the myth of romatic love, that love is a feeling. Love is not always a feeling. Anyone can feel like there in love but it dosnt mean you love them. You can feel like you love your children but if you beat them undisciplined, dont spend time with them, disrepect them, than thats not love. Love is an act. i will stop preaching.

But your wrong as hell. He didnt love her, just wanted her to do what he wanted her to do. The other guy just let her be. she let him be.

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I did feel sorry for him too. He seemed to be such a lost pathetic human being. Completely clueless. I felt that somehow he knew that his wife had nothing but contempt for him and the only way he could deal with it was by physically abusing her.

I didn't feel sorry for him. The only reason Id feel sorry for him is the fact that he doesn't know to properly care for and express love to someone and that's why he can't be loved back by his wife. Not that it excuses his actions but it seems like he just doesn't know any better.