"She had hands as big as Andre the Giant's, and she had an Adam's apple as big as her balls."
While the saying "the heart wants what the heart wants" may come across as trite and cliche, my understanding of it, and belief in it, is based on my own life experiences.
There have been several instances in my life where my emotional involvement (my heart) overrode the most logical arguments presented by my brain. The results usually weren't pretty. The worst being a passionate marriage to a person I had nothing in common with (except for how well we fit together having sex) that only lasted 7 years and ended bitterly. I'm still in love with this woman, btw. My heart refuses to let go... even after having not laid eyes on her for over 10 years...
Then there have been times when I've allowed my logical side to override my (lack of) attraction. The pinnacle of this methodology resulted in a marriage to someone I had a lot in common with, but for whom my emotional desire quickly died and only lasted 6 years and ended bitterly.
I don't think it's pablum, and I don't think it's an excuse, although people use it as both all the time - especially for bad behaviour, like affairs, or murder.
I think, in a broad understanding, that it's an explanation for behaviour that, otherwise, doesn't make sense to an outside observer. It isn't meant to convey approval for, or excuse bad behaviour, it just provides something of a framework for explaining why someone would indulge in what may be socially unacceptable, illegal, or even harmful behaviour.
And it can also be applied to other facets of human existence different from interpersonal relationships - motorcycle racing makes no sense logically, yet thousands are passionate about it and indulge, despite costing thousands of dollars and the chances of being maimed or killed on the regular.
In the context of the OP's original question, I used the phrase to simply illustrate that if a "normal" male still finds himself attracted to a trans woman after he learns she's trans, not only will he be okay with having sex with her, he will be excited about it.
Hey Whitey! Where's your hat?
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