Bridget had...damn! *SPOILERS*


I found that incredibly creepy when I read it in the book. I'm a virgin, so yeah, no big suprise there. But I just found it creepy how she was only 15 in the book and made love to some 20 year old adult. 16 in the movie? That's not too bad but still... O_o

Also, why was she so tired and upset and crying? Did it hurt? Does sex hurt AND make you THAT tired? Damn... if so, I'm never having sex with a guy years and years older than me. Or maybe she was buttraped! XDD

And since they didn't have safe sex, shouldn't she be pregnant if they had sex the normal way? Does she become pregnant in later books? I have only read the first one so I wouldn't know. ^^;

Somebody answer me~ =(

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I can't quite decide if you're serious or not, but I'll answer anyway. :)

She was tired and upset because of depression. She had some emotional issues. She wanted to talk to her mom about what happened, but her mom had committed suicide some years before. She was worried that she was like her mom... She seduced the guy and then didn't feel as good as she thought she would about herself.

Unprotected sex doesn't always = pregnancy. It could equal pregnancy, or something much worse, but in Bridget's case it didn't.



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I was being serious about it, sorry. ^^; Thanks for answering my questions anyway! X3

And I guess you're right. It doesn't ALWAYS equal pregnancy, but it isn't rare to become pregnant right after the very first time you had unsafe sex. I guess Bee was just very lucky. =P

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No problem. :) I didn't mean the serious thing as an insult, but some things can be read as serious or not serious, if you know what I mean. Kind of like lots of people see the movie Street Fighter as a comedy.

Bee *was* very lucky.



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Yeah, i didn't really understood that part. At first i thought she might of been raped- but it's a PG rating and i don't think they would address 'rape' in a pg keen flick!

I just... what?
So she was virgin and felt confused about the situation, hence the emotions of 'missing' her mother!?

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That pretty much sums it up. :) Plus, I think she was confused about why her mother killed herself the whole time anyway, and that was just the straw that broke the camel's back.




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To be honest, I saw the movie after I read the book. Once the movie came out, I bought the book and read it until I finished it, and only then did I watch the movie on TV (At the time it was on Pay-Per-View). And yes, I agree with the OP: It did seem like she got hurt, or it didn't turn out as she had hoped. That's how I felt it happened. I can see how others would think it was her mother, and that makes more sense now.

To me, when I seen it at the time, it seemed like she didn't expect it to be like that. Bee wanted her first time to be special, and Eric, being as old as he was, didn't do certain things with Bridget to make her feel loved or cared for most likely. At the time, she had given him A LOT of mixed messages of flirting, and it would seem to any guy his age that he was getting the hots for her. And then, probably when her and Eric finished, she just laid there and he pulled away. She probably expected him to love her. And then she wanted her mother to talk to about it, because no one understood except her friends, but they were all in different places. :(

That's just my opinion, though.

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Let me clear this up a bit.

The average woman is only able to even get pregnant 2-3 days out of the month. Now if both the man and the woman are perfectly healthy in that area and have sex on those days, there's only a 50% chance they'll even get pregnant. And....there's another 50% chance (bringing the total down to 3 to 1 against pregnancy) that the woman will miscarry before she even knows she's pregnant. So not so easy to get pregnant. The average couple trying to get pregnant will take 6 months to a year to actually succeed.

Now, let me say this. The woman's body naturally "wants" sex more around the time of ovulation, so that can make it potentially easier to get pregnant, I guess. But, all that said, it's still a BAD idea to be unprotected for so many other reasons.

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And since they didn't have safe sex, shouldn't she be pregnant if they had sex the normal way?
Ugh, to put it in the most simplest terms, it doesn't work like that.

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I think Bridget explains it perfectly clear to him in the end of the movie.
"Problem is, I wanted it for all the wrong reasons. And all the things that I was trying to run away from just ended up catching up with me that much sooner."

She was trying to be confident and take control of the situation, but was just overwhelmed. What can I say, sex is a big deal, especially the first time. It was simply too much for her and it brought up all those hidden feelings that still had to be dealt with.

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Ken Kwapis puts it pretty well in explaining a deleted scene. Bridget turns to Eric because she's trying to replace the love and attention she needs from her father. Not to say that Bridget wanted THAT kind of attention from her dad, but girls who have abset fathers will often turn to sex hoping it will make things okay.

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Basically Bridget was looking for some kind of 'fulfillment' from the sex that because of what she was missing from having no mother and a distant father. Unfortunately sex isn't that kind of magical cure. I don't think the movie was at all trying to insinuate that he took advantage of her, just that she didn't get what she thought she would from that situation. Sex is great but not if you do it for the wrong reasons. Oh also, I'm not condoning having sex without protection but every female who has sex without it does not get pregnant, the body doesn't work that way.

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Yeah LOL it's called the "pull out method"

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"I just found it creepy how she was only 15 in the book and made love to some 20 year old adult. 16 in the movie? That's not too bad but still..."

I love how you think it's creepy for her to be 15,
but if she was 16.. it's not too bad. xD

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Yeah, and isn't he 18 in the book. I could be wrong, b/c I havn't read it in awhile. But that's how I remember it.

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I can't exactly remember now...it's just, he was an adult, 18-19 something range, and she was 15.

And yes I DO find 15 a young age, like 14. :/

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when i first saw the movie, i didn't even realize she had sex with eric, my friend told me. that's when i got why she was all moody and tired afterwards...

but she felt bad because she thought it would be all magical and whatnot, but it wasn't. it only made her feel worse.

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and maybe because it DOES hurt the first time???




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Bridgette says in the movie that her first time was exactly what she expected it to be. I found that odd because she really had to stalk that guy out to get him to have sex with her. Not to mention he was "off limits" and not even her boyfriend. I would think that most girls envision themselves being in love, and in a relationship for their first time. But to answer the original poster's question, I agree with other responses that she was sad because she missed her mom, and the experience did not bring the fulfilment she hoped for.

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it's just, he was an adult, 18-19 something range, and she was 15.

You have to remember that 18 is a fairly arbitrary number to pick as the "adult" point. Everyone matures differently, and often there isn't that big of a difference between a 17-year-old guy and a 19-year-old.

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Well in Australia it would make a difference because 16 is the age of consent, so if she was 15 it would be statutory rape.

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For most women, yes, losing your virginity hurts quite a bit. Unless your hymen had been broken from tampons or sports (since Bridget played sports, and I presume used tampons, I'm pretty sure it had already been broken, but that's just a guess), it will most likely hurt.

Also... buttraped? That's a little insensitive, don't you think? I mean, it's not something to joke about. Just saying.

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In the movie she says she is 17 while they are running. Not 16. He's not that much older than her to be honest. Not by todays standards. Alot of people are dating people of different ages and having sex with them. I actually have a friend that is dating a man that is 17 years older than her. Now, I know that one is weird. But they are in love. Thats all that matters.

Sex doesnt always bring you the happiness you might think it does. Especcially if you have it for the wrong reasons. But when you are in love and you're doing it for the right reasons its amazing.

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I'm pretty sure she was lying when she said she was 17. I don't have my copy of the book on me, but I think she was trying to make herself seem older in the book in order to get him to like her more.

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You are correct, jeffifer, although in the book, she claimed (inaccurately) to be sixteen. Just to clarify this age thing:

Bridget is 15 in the first book, but nearing her sixteenth birthday in early September. All four girls were born within seventeen days of each other: Lena first, in late August, and Carmen last, in mid-September. Their pregnant mothers all had September due dates, and were referred to by their prenatal exercise teacher as "the Septembers". The nickname would eventually pass from the mothers to the daughters.

Eric's age isn't given, but he has just finished his freshman year at Columbia University, meaning he is probably around 19.

So he's roughly three years older than she, and three years ahead of her in school (she and the other girls are rising high school juniors).

The age gap makes the relationship inappropriate at this stage, especially since he is a coach/counselor at the camp. But the two eventually find their way back to each other when she reaches college age; by then the three years between them seems much less significant.

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Wow, how old are you?

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