I don't see a huge gap. 19 is a college student, and 26 is graduated but still has the mentality of a college student. (Partying on weekends, dating, hanging with friends, lacking adult experience.) I see more commonalities than differences.
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Everything God creates is majestic and sinless,
and that includes the human body.
It's not this is when I met my wife I'm 7 years older than she is and we hit it and have been married for almost 8 years.
shareA popular rule of thumb is that you take your own age, divide it by two, and add 7.
That is how young you can go without it being too weird.
16 = 15
18 = 16
20 = 17
22 = 18
24 = 19
26 = 20
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38 = 26
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60 = 37
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84 = 49
And so on.
But as someone else set, if you hit it off with someone who is not a minor, there are no rules against it. You are two consenting adults, after all.
I thought she said she was 21.
There's a kind of freedom in being completely screwed, because you know things can't get worse.😂
Lemme tell Ya a little story (that happened after you made the original post 8 years ago). I met a guy at a bar once and we were having a good time, even kissed, but when we were about to get each other's number we said each others ages and LO and behold he was 26. I was 19. We kinda just stared at each other, laughed, shook hands and walked away. The reason it's awkward is cause I wa 19 and at the age to meet guys at bars with my friends and make out/hook up (well I never really hooked up, just made out). And HE was at the stage to meet a really nice girl and date her. Also maybe a 26 year old guy mentally always has a 19 year old girls sad at the back of his mind I dunno.
It was nice he didn't take advantage of dumb little me though huh?
Don't look at me
What Quaid's character didn't like about it was that his daughter was dating his boss secretly. That was what was wrong. I think at the end, he wouldn't have minded if they had got back together.
sharea. when i was 25 i had a blistering 90 days relationship with a 19 year old. we hitchhiked from detroit to montreal, then nyc, dc, phila, virginia, atlanta, new orleans, austin, laredo, mexico city (by train), guadalajara (by bus) mazatlan (by bus), culican, nogales, phoenix, flagstaff, aspen, denver, detroit. she was less game at the end of the trip than the outset. we split.
b. then as 26 year old living in commune managing bookstore, had cohabitation with 19 year old who turned 20 soon after we met. 2 years together. too little sticktoitiveness.
c. then as 58 year old a 37 year old. 3 year gig til she inherited major bucks and took off.
all in all great relations despite the brevity. each one was very intense from start to finish.
those are my notes on the subject.
enjoy life. it tends to seem short after many decades pass. all too quickly. dont let the moralists drag you down. be true. and full of adoration for blessed companions.
I don't think Alex was that experience in life yet. Carter even at 26 has lived a seriously impressive life for a man he's age, he was already married then divorced and was leading his own apartment in a company. He wanted to settle down and have a family and maybe if Alex was a little older with a bit more experience under her belt she would have been perfect for him.
I wouldn't have been shocked if this was Alex's really first serious relationship and I kind of think Carter understood that when they broke up. She even said she was never miss popular in school, never went many parties or had many friends. She still had her life to live and to find herself as a person.
In my opinion once you are over 18, I don't have much issue with people's age gaps in terms of dating. You are a adult and you can do whatever you like as long as it's legal. But only thing is if you are a 33 year old dating a 21 year old, life experience is going to be different and when you are that young life changes and you as a person change a lot. Sometimes you might meet someone who's younger then you who might have their heads screwed and don't change much.
I agree with you—age gaps in relationships aren’t inherently problematic as long as both people are adults and the dynamic is respectful. However, differences in life experience can sometimes create challenges, especially when one person is still discovering themselves and figuring out their goals, like Alex might have been. Carter seems to have recognized that, which shows maturity on his part.
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