lornamd-1^
Yes! To your post :)
For another poster to have the audacity to arrive at the posted 'conclusions' based on the behavior of this family under stress is stunning.
It's also at the least naïve, and at the most bigoted. I know many people who use humor to defuse stress (and I am not talking just run-of-the-mill, every day types of stress, but also real life-and-death stress. It’s not called 'gallows humor' for naught). This kind of ‘humor’ can be used by people as an attempt to defuse the seriousness/sheer insanity of a situation. To think or believe that EVERYONE should respond in one certain ‘acceptable’ manner to stress misses 1) Family upbringing, 2) Cultural differences, 3) Individual differences, 4) The effect of novel experience on human behavior, 4) Genetics, 5) Life history, and on and on.
Additionally, people who have diagnoses along the Autism Spectrum (and, it is not beyond the realm of possibility that Arnold could quite possibly have had Asperger’s Syndrome / Disorder) often don't emote always or in the same ways as 'neurotypical' people do, especially in regard to higher-level sets of emotions which usually accompany complex circumstances. I am not equating pedophilia with A.S. – I am talking about facets of Arnold’s personality that appear to be near, if not on, the spectrum. There were many A.S. folks, not that long ago (and some still today), who were never diagnosed, but who were otherwise labeled ‘eccentrics’ or ‘nerds’ or even ‘nebbishes’.
Here are DSM-IV criteria for Asperger’s Disorder (syndrome):
“(I) Qualitative impairment in social interaction, as manifested by at least TWO of the following:
(A) marked impairments in the use of multiple nonverbal behaviors such as eye-to-eye gaze, facial expression, body posture, and gestures to regulate social interaction
(B) failure to develop peer relationships appropriate to developmental level
(C) a lack of spontaneous seeking to share enjoyment, interest or achievements with other people, (e.g.. by a lack of showing, bringing, or pointing out objects of interest to other people)
(D) lack of social or emotional reciprocity
(II) Restricted repetitive & stereotyped patterns of behavior, interests and activities, as manifested by at least ONE of the following:
(A) encompassing preoccupation with one or more stereotyped and restricted patterns of interest that is abnormal either in intensity or focus
(B) apparently inflexible adherence to specific, nonfunctional routines or rituals
(C) stereotyped and repetitive motor mannerisms (e.g. hand or finger flapping or twisting, or complex whole-body movements)
(D) persistent preoccupation with parts of objects
(III) The disturbance causes clinically significant impairments in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.
(IV) There is no clinically significant general delay in language .
(V) There is no clinically significant delay in cognitive development or in the development of age-appropriate self help skills, adaptive behavior (other than in social interaction) and curiosity about the environment in childhood.
(VI) Criteria are not met for another specific Pervasive Developmental Disorder or Schizophrenia."
American Psychiatric Association. (2000). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (4th ed., text rev.). Washington, DC: Author.
In short, there are many reasons that people would act in such a manner when presented with dire circumstances, other than being ‘not caring’ or ‘guilty’.
Arnold is a difficult person to understand, much more so than Jesse, because his particular situation is very complex and also because we as the audience are presented with very limited information about him. He obviously (to me) appeared to feel 'guilty', but of exactly 'what' is difficult to ascertain– and, he may have felt guilty for a number of things. His ‘feelings of guilt’ could have originated all the way back to his sister’s death and/or the destruction of his family of origin at that time, and/or stemmed from his self-admitted behavior with his younger brother, and/or his self-admitted behavior with other children, and/or his pornography, and/or his ‘betrayal’ of his spousal relationship, and/or for the ongoing conflict in HIS family, and/or his belief that his ‘sins’ had caused his beloved youngest son to be accused, etc….None of these ‘guilt’ factors equates necessarily to ‘evidence’ that he was guilty of what he was accused of, or that Jesse was.
Also ‘feelings’ are not necessarily ‘facts’. I am not a major fan of polygraph examinations; however, it is not unheard of for a person to appear 'guilty' during the examination because s/he 'feels' guilty about ‘something’ directly / indirectly associated to what s/he is asked about during examination -- as in the case of a husband who was not at home during the time of his wife's murder who then shows ‘guilty’ during examination -- not because he is guilty of the murder itself, but because he 'feels' guilty because he was not there to protect his wife and possibly stop the murder. So, to him, he IS 'guilty' for his wife's death.
This family appears to have used humor and music throughout their lives: as both celebration and to offset other dysfunctions within their family (not to mention as career choices for some). It, then, would not be unusual for them to resort to same when faced with other circumstances, no matter how dire or harrowing.
The brothers also have an interesting dynamic: Seth (the rebel), David (the jester), and Jesse (the baby/follower). I also noted some misogyny (for wont of a better term) toward the mother from the sons, although to different degrees, and it would have been interesting to have been able to explore in more detail how this originated.
Their ‘jolly in the face of horror’ behaviors during some times and appearing ‘shut off’ during other times could also have stemmed from ‘denial’ – I don’t think people who haven’t experienced what they did could truly comprehend all the minutiae and feelings that accompany such a unique situation. No matter how ‘bad’ or transparent all the ramifications and consequences of what they were accused of seem obvious to armchair viewers after the fact, their very personal involvement in this extended, ongoing crisis most probably caused them to filter information in bits and pieces – in order to be better able to withstand everything that was going on without going absolutely insane. And, not all family members are going to react the same way at the same times – they are more likely going to be ‘popcorn’ – one may ‘pop’ while others don’t, and then others ‘pop’, and so forth, back and forth. So, we have one screaming while another is withdrawing, then two appearing agitated while one is quiet, etc., that we see portrayed in the film.
By the way, for the record, I AM an expert in human behavior – via degree and several years of experience and professional practice.
"I can't stand a naked light bulb, any more than..a rude remark or a vulgar action" Blanche DuBois
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