It's gross! It makes me scared to grow old and now I see it as such a horrible thing. I have these panic attacks where I'll get married then later on my husband won't be the same person and he'll cheat on me and be after young girl when I become old.
Please tell me not every guy is like this?
And why are young women after old men?! Are you nuts? Not only is it disgusting, but they only like you for your AGE not YOU. That's awful.
Old men go after younger women for the same reason rich young men go after hookers: They want what you have, they have what you want.
shareSounds like a problem with your husband. You don't trust your husband, and instead of putting the blame there, you're blaming older people and even resorting to petty insults, calling them "gross". It's not a older/younger couple that's giving you suspicions that your husband might cheat. It's either your paranoia or his behavior. Clean your own back yard then tell the rest of the world how to live.
shareWhy do women like high-status men?
It's gross!
Women like a man's superficial status, like a big wallet, 'charisma', PUA skills, outlaw biker status, prisoner, celebrity, and you don't find it 'gross'?
Look, sexual attraction is not the same as 'liking'. It's mainly just biology, hormones, the sex-module. Men's sex module is wired to turn on by youth, beauty, fertility, cuteness, cheerful personality and so on (but mostly youth, beauty and fertility), women's sex module is wired to turn on by status (harder to see, explain or know at a glance - but think of a badboy, celebrity, rich man, criminal, etc. - ANYTHING that's not 'a good, ordinary man').
It's not men's or women's fault what turns them on, you know - what's 'gross' to you is irrelevant, it won't change anything. You might as well accept it as a neutral fact of life.
Now, men CAN like (which is not to say 'be sexually attracted', as it's a completely different thing) a woman of any age, a man can like another human being, regardless of any superficial qualities.
I'd like to think a woman can also like a man, no matter how low-status, wimpy, weak or bumbling, poor, jobless, law-abiding, Linux-nerdy or shy he is, if they click as human beings or have something in common, or can have great conversations or something. I am not sure if it ever actually happens, but it should be possible for two humans to like each other, regardless of their bodies (or if they even HAVE bodies - it's a temporary state of affairs, you know).
Hormones and sexuality don't have to dictate whom you like and whom you don't like. Any human soul, and any kind of human soul, can incarnate into any and any kind of human body. This means that someone that would've been a Linux-nerd last time, might be now living in a beautiful woman's body this time. He might've been a great friend, a likable individual, helpful, full of good humor and common sense, and now living 'as a woman' in this life. They would still be the same, likable soul.
So a man should be able to like that woman, just as that woman should be able to like that man, as they liked each other in previous incarnation, when they both lived in male bodies.
Now that the other man has been incarnated to live 'as a woman' in this life, the potential for liking each other should be just as big as it ever was before.
However, as often happens, it's more likely that the woman has a 'b*tch shield' that won't allow the other man close unless they're alpha, PUA, CEO, Celebrity, Criminal (or other 'badboy'), etc., and the man will be blinded by his hormones and either see the woman as a sexual-romantic object of lust, or some uninteresting, ugly hag he doesn't want to have anything to do with.
So the gender and sexuality can and do come in the way of people liking each other, and becoming good friends (again), but a man CAN like someone once they get to know them as human beings, just as well as if they were in the same-gender bodies (or outside bodies).
It just rarely happens this way due to so many barriers men and women have between them.
However, as I mentioned, it's a different thing to 'like' and to 'feel sexual lust' for someone.
In a world like this, it's just hard for souls to meet and start liking each other.
By the way, why do you find it gross that someone likes someone else if their body doesn't fit a certain criteria of yours? How does physical age change your 'gross feeling'? Isn't it more important what kind of soul someone is, than what age they are? I guess not, because you think age is so imporant it makes you feel gross?
Now that I'm in my sixties, I find women between around thirty-five and sixty more attractive than women in their twenties. I've even seen some over seventy who appeal to me. My wife is sixty-three and she turns me on every bit as much as she did when I married her at twenty. I can't imagine trading her in because of age.
shareThat's so sweet! You're very lucky to have each other.
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