I have. Ex ended up with a guy making 150k a year so she got her wish. Haven't even tried dating since and that was a year and a half ago because I feel like I'll never meet another one like her. I really don't understand how money can trump the heart and soul and feelings one has for another.
shareCouple of thoughts:
Maybe the money isn't the only reason why she left. It could be some of the reason but not the only one. You might not like hearing that but it's possible.
Do you have any idea if she's really happy now that she made that decision?
It's possible she might regret it.
In the movie, Ally came back to Noah after all so how can you say he was left for money? She returned to him and left the money behind.
And Flicky-3, who on earth do you think you are? People sticking up for morally rotten women need to stop. A cheating or golddigging tramp is just as bad as her male equivalent, the fact that she has a vagina doesn't change her rotten soul.
shareI don't mean to sound like I'm sticking up for her.
I just suspect there could be some other issues besides the money factor.
Back to the actual movie, are you suggesting that Allie is a cheating/gold-digging tramp? I don't think so but I'd be interested to hear your thoughts.
Sorry for your personal situation by the way.
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Me too, man. The guy I was engaged to found some filthy rich lady to take care of him a few months before our wedding. I was so in love with him that I didn't notice how money-driven he was. I'm not rich- I try my best in life, I have my own business after working hard to be able to do that, I bought a small house and I can pay for all that I could want and still save up, but I guess it just wasn't enough for him. I was the one doing all the things a man "should" do (according to society's norms anyway)- working, saving up, buying a house and a car and all those things. On top of that I would wash, clean and cook for him everyday even though we weren't living together yet. He would lean back and relax. And all of that wouldn't have mattered, everything I did for him came from my heart and were acts of love. I just can't handle it that he picked an older, not so attractive woman for her money over a woman who was 10 years his junior, quite attractive (if I say so myself) and willing to do whatever to make him happy. I'm heartbroken even though It's been two years ago. I'll probably never date again, I thought that what he and I had was real and I loved him so, so much. I'll never let that happen to me again.
shareHaven't even tried dating since and that was a year and a half ago because I feel like I'll never meet another one like her
L0L Great question! Here is a great answer...Co-dependency! We are ALL co-dependent bcuz our 'culture' has taught us that from cradle to grave! Look at all the 'love songs' in 'pop culture'. Read the lyrics...then meditate on that.
shareWhat are you talking about? She didn't leave him because of money. She was physically forced to leave by her parents. She was maybe 16, after all. He wrote her every day, and Mom stole the letters.
And, after all, she came back despite being engaged to Mr.Gotbucks. who her parents LOVED! She came back to love. Money didn't mean a damn thing. You're mistaking what Allie's mother did for what she did -- and even that was coerced.
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So, here's this thing. Seems far fetched AT FIRST, but stick with me: Society has gotten SO TWISTED due to the industrial revolution, that men are no longer killing buffalo, bringing home food, and providing a cave to be safe in. Now, that killing, the food, and cave are ALL - and I mean >>ALL<< inclusive within the frameworkings of "MONEY". The female species' "providing mate" dynamic is NOW based on money for protection, sustenance, and power.
"Gold diggers" are evolutionarily not wrong. Regardless of our superficial judgements, they are closer to our true self than we want to admit. Deep down they seek: the confidence(protective power), food, and shelter.... = money. So, tell me why that is wrong now? Are we going to go back to manually killing buffalo? I seriously doubt it. :)
I'm 38 years VEGAN, and at 71 years young, I still work out and I've never been sick since 1986! (I got VIOLENTLY ill on GUESS WHAT....shellfish!?!(I've also had 'crabs'! lol)
That's right, I'm NOT from this DUMBension! BTW, murdering innocent animals is LEARNED behaviour (totally un-necessary), and NOT natural at all! Of course I don't expect you to get any of this.
Our WHOLE lives revolve around the chase of the $$$. It's the way we have all been programmed. I also was abandoned by "The One" after 3 years. She left me for a lawyer. (My ex was a legal-sec.). She was gorgeous, and tender-hearted too. We 'broke up' shortly after a trip to her parents' house across Country. That was decades ago, and she now lives up on the hill in a nice house! C'est le vie! To be fair, I was drinking a lot and that is what instigated her 'desertion'.
Moral of the story...a SHALLOW/physical relationship will fizz out, but a deeper SPIRITUAL bond will LAST a much longer time! Too bad I didn't know that then, but there is an expression. "Problem = opportunity." (An opportunity to change for the better). I KNOW this to be SO true now! Live and...LEARN.
My grandmother chose a poor man over a wealthy man, they had 5 kids together and then he blew his brains out and left her alone with those 5 kids and no money. It dragged the whole family into poverty making every generation that came after grow up with food insecurity and living in the ghetto.
The point is that there are no fairytales. She would have been miles better off if she had chosen the wealthy man.
We all have a choice to make, there is no 'right' choice.