An off-topic (book) question
This is not really a specific book question about the plot either, more like a general question about the world and people Austen describes. Since people in the world of Jane Austen novels are so preoccupied with money and retaining their class status in marriage, how would they go about getting that information if it doesn't happen to come up naturally in some conversation? Is there a way to do it that's not completely tacky and classless?
"You must allow me to express how ardently I admire and love you, or in the words of a great poet say "I fancy you beyond reason", but unfortunately not quite far enough beyond as not to inquire if you have at least 5000 pounds in your bank account. Alas, if you do not, then regrettably I must take all that back and piss off."
This is just something that came to my mind when I read how Elinor and Edward weren't quite enough in love to think that three hundred and fifty pounds a-year would supply them with the comforts of life. The comforts of life is a relative thing, isn't it? I'm pretty sure that's a lot more than what the vast majority of English families managed to live on just fine at the time. It may be true to life as Austen observed it in the middle-class circles, but it doesn't sound very romantic.
If sucking up to Edward's monster sociopath mother hadn't worked, what they would have done? Given up on getting married?