Women, listen up: when you decide to have a baby, its not like buying a new handbag. You don't go, "Oh...this would look nice with my career and my new car".
Really? Calling a human being an accessory?
No...having a baby is a ALL CONSUMING LIFE CHOICE. When you have that child, God has made you 100% responsible for that child's development and growth.
Couldn't agree more.
Babies need full time Mom's: not working Mom's who outsource the child's care to a Mexican nanny or a day care centre.
I understand you had a bad experience, but it's not all like that.
And I know that career women wouldn't want to hear that....but its not a choice between career and being a mother.
When you have a baby, TAKE FIVE YEARS OFF WORK, and raise that child full time till its ready to start pre-school.
Being a stay-at-home mom is an absolute priviledge and I commend anyone who does it. However, in this day in age, it's not always feesible. It is very expensive to own a home, cars, pay medical bills, all so your children can have the best life. That is why mothers work. Not because they choose the career over their children. Plus, parents will check out many daycares, interview babysitters and take every precaution possible before they leave the children with them. It's not just "dumping them off".
Those five years are essential to the child's development, and every study shows that children raised by a full time mom are infinately better off than those dumped in child care.
Or, at the very least, take THREE years off, and then go back to work PART TIME till your child is ready for school.
I was lucky to have a stay-at-home mom. But, she also sold Avon, worked nights, and eventually had to get a job because they couldn't afford her being out of work anymore. Plus, if a child is introduced to a school environment at an early age, it makes it easier for them to make the transformation into Elementary school.
Annie-Banks made a totally selfish decision in this movie: she uprooted herself and her husband from their families in California to move to Boston. The MacKenzies I'm sure would have wanted to be close to their grandchild, and the Banks' I'm sure would have wanted to have their baby grow up with Annie's.
Would you say the same thing if it was Brian who uprouted?
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rabbyt1
10 years ago
I agree 100% with the poster above me.
It's not feasible for someone to be a SAHM anymore, not in this day and age. Not even 7-8 years ago. My mom was able to stay at home cuz she ran a daycare out of her home.
Personally, DH and I are lucky that we have our families to help us with DS during the week (all our parents are retired and our mother's love spending time with DS). But most of us aren't lucky. I have a great career I worked really hard for, and if I left for 5 years I'd have to return at the bottom because the industry is so fast-paced.
If you really want to complain, complain that employers pay their employees so *beep* that a mother can't afford to stay home with her children and she has to work outside of the home. If fathers were paid more mothers could stay home, but nowadays people pretty much have to live off of two incomes.
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