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One of my favourite movies but unrealistic

posted 20 years ago by vincent.vega-2
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I can relate to Adam as I'm really shy and suffer from social anxiety myself. I wouldn't go so far to say I'm as bad off as him but I've still a pretty heavy cross to bare.

So this is a very special movie for me as I can relate to Adam a lot. There's not any other film that has the male lead being that shy (not counting comedic purposes). Needless to say I had a hard crush on Marisa Tomei and it was a never to be fulfilled dream to meet someone as caring and sensitive as her. And it's still my opinion that there's not a single girl on earth who would have given Adam the slightes of a chance.

In our society as evolved as it is the fact still holds true that the guy has to be the aggressive part in a blazing relationship. Girls being shy seem to be more natural and is forgiven pretty quick but a guy unable to approach a girl is almost bound to loneliness.

My stupid sister was actually making fun of Slater's acting and I'd never dare watching this movie with anyone again because laughing at Adam was like laughing at me. Having a bit of experience in being totally shy I know that there's not much of an acceptance for "us".

For me it's kind of a modern day fairy tale. Unlikely to ever happen.

[–] jefgg 13 years ago

Almost all movies are unrealistic. That is what makes them movies.

[–] blacknyellowsquid 12 years ago

I think they key here is the fact he saved her from being raped. If that hadn't happened then, yeah, I think you're right. She wouldn't have gone for him.

She was creeped out even afterwards, when she saw the picture of her in his house she hurried out. However I think the fact he literally rescued made her trust him more quickly than a normal situation. So she was willing to overlook some of the creep factor (like him sneaking in etc.) because she already trusted him, he saved her from being raped and, who knows, maybe even saved her life. So it was like a huge mass of the formalities and 'normal' barriers were already lifted and she got entranced by his childlike love and wanted to love him back.

Long story short -- it wouldn't have all happened without him saving her, methinks.

And it's rude your sister was mocking the movie. I thought Slater did well. In fact, if it makes you feel any better (I know you posted this eight years ago so probably won't ever read this), while I was watching I was thinking to myself "man why can't Adam exist in real life!" His actions of following her, sneaking in etc. were creepy sometimes but again, he was a trustworthy and harmless person which she was guarunteed knowing that since he had saved her (and we the audience knew too). And being the orphan, and just wanting closeness and love -- that evokes the fairy tale (like you said) in some women too, to love the sad abandoned puppy dog guy type thing.

anyway..

[–] 12 years ago

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[–] zooymtoo-527-334409 11 years ago

All romantic movies are unrealistic.
You either buy into the fantasy or you don't.

But not a single girl would give Adam a chance?
If he looked like Christian Slater the odds ARE in his favor.