I have several Chinese friends and it seems that they order them around a lot and expect them to do things not asked of other children.
I also have Korean friends and it's similar.
They don't show effection. They don't hug or kiss them. It's just strange.
Has anyone else noticed this?
This is in my top 10 movies of all time. Heartbreaking.
I have a friend who is from China (she came to America as a teenage.) She once told me that Chinese parents will tell others that their children are horrible. It is not because they really feel that way, but, it is to confuse the spirits. If they go on about how wonderful their kids are, the spirits might decide to take the child.
shareShe must be kidding with you.I never heard of that tale before lol.
Parents will say "my children are not so good"blabla only when children present，they want kids to stay humble. But when there are only adults,they will brag their kids like all parents across the world.
Is the OP serious?
In the community I live in and based on my observation, Chinese parents treat their children far better than Caucasian parents treat theirs. The Chinese children appear happier and better behaved. I dare say Chinese parents spoil their children on through adulthood, including purchasing them new homes, new cars, even their own business franchise to run in some cases.
Sure but its not unique to "Asians" I don't only have Japanese and Korean "friends" but family as well. And NO not all are like that. As a MD I see or meet a lot of people and I see this type of parenting in every ethnic group there is. I am German born and raised and am married to a 3rd gen Japanese American fellow who's extended family is half Korean. Let me tell you some are worst than you stated but most are 1000% NOT like you think. In my family we have some who are real jerks to their kids.
You what know how good are these friends of yours and are they American or Western born and raised or fresh of the boat or plane? Also If they are just causal friends I bet you do not know them as much as you think, as one thing I know is Japanese and Koreans do NOT trust outsiders (other cultures which include themselves and Chinese) I don't know much about Chinese folk but I do know they value success and that tradition states the kids always obey and then take care of their parents. But its a very old and outdated notion. Many younger generation do not push their kids into anything.
Pardon the long rant but I just don't see why you would call Asians strange. When more often you Yanks have Caucasian or Black etc Families who, shout, fight, lock in car, abandon and hit their kids in public etc etc etc. If anything even with this old minority tradition or stereotype I think Asians have better family connections than anyone else..
PS: I hated this film as with Asians I agree that this is just a film about Asian stereotypes very racists as well. Watch Ang Lee's films which talk about or show Chinese etc in a very realistic way unlike Amy Tan or whatever her name who just see's the world thru Caucasian eyes, she seems to spout every stereotype their is in every book she writes she seems very anti Asian imo and again I am 100% Caucasian or German Caucasian that is..Just another Lucy Liu or any other ashamed of their culture type Asian's very sad. This film is a bunch of Lügen und Scheiße 😊
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That's your experience. The cars, businesses yes I have seen this. Material possessions isn't what I was talking about. It's the physical/emotional treatment.
I haven't read, heard or seen Asians saying that this film is overly stereotypical. I think if they would have felt this way when it came out and voiced their opinions.
I didht see anyone doing this.
My Korean friend has a mother who's been in the US for 30 years and she still doesn't know how to speak English. His parents still act in the old ways as if they are still in Korea. Most of their friends are this way also.
I'm a very observant person so small subtleties are very recognizable.
My Japanese friends parents are very stern. These are just observations over a 16 year period.
I've actually had friends that said some of the things in this movie are true.
I guess you haven't had any of those experiences. Count yourself lucky.
I'm Chinese and I'm a guy and I agree many things in this movie are real. Just decades ago our society were like the one you guys call it medieval. Like Lindo's mom sent her to a unknown husband from some richer family, in reality many girls were not so "lucky" as her, they were sent out very young when they were even children because of their parents' debt or merely could not feed them. They would not be treated as some delicate fiancee but house maids in housbands' families. Those girls were called "童养媳" in Chinese.
But back to topic, "don't hug or kiss kids" does not meen less loving. That’s a misunderstanding. It's because we are shy about body contacts especially among family members. We won't kiss or touch faces when socialize. A hug? That happens when you are really exciting like between some friends not seen each other for 10 years. It's similar among Chinese or Korean or Japanese people.
"ask and expect kids a lot",That's maybe we are from some traditionally highly competitive societies. So parents feel obligate to make "right" choices for kids so "they can suffer less". Parents will intervene kids' marrige or career choices，persuade them to learn hard in school etc. Of course that will lead to plenty of conflicts between parents and kids. But still,it's because of parents' love.
they only love themselves
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