I don't know, is it really so bad for people to read homoeroticism into platonic friendships? Who does it hurt? Just commenting on this film, what we do know is that Henry loved Becket to the point that it hurt his heart when he turned against him and agitated him to no end when they were separated. As his mother notes, he was unhealthily and "unnaturally" obsessed with him. His wife said that she tolerated his countless affairs with women, but his thing with Thomas that blinded him so was too much. They shared women, beds, and food. Becket changed Henry's life. Becket loved him as much as he was capable. His last words were, "Poor Henry," even though, as far as he knew (from what I gathered), his friend was the one who ordered his execution. Is this romantic or platonic? Whatever the case, it was certainly passionate and extreme.
To me, Henry viewed women (along with almost everyone else) as objects. He could not keep it in his pants around a lovely woman. But because he saw them as beneath him, he was only capable of an [almost] equal relationship with another man. Back in the day, relationships (not necessarily sexual, but homoerotic) between men were sometimes considered "purer" than the relations between men and women. I think that Henry held this idea, though not necessarily consciously. It's just how he lived his life. For goodness sake, he accidentally *sat on a women* he'd just made love to. That's how worthless women were to him. This is based purely on the movie Becket, not actual history or The Lion in the Winter, which showcases his relationship with Eleanor of Aquitaine.
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