How Can Men Go to Lap Dance Clubs and Watch Porn?

If I know a woman is being egregiously exploited, sexually, I feel bad, guilty and depressed, and that's anathema to sexual arousal. It's also why I don't like pin-ups who are rape-survivors (which I know, sadly, rules out a lot of pin-ups, and a straight red-blooded man, that's frustrating).

How can men go to lap dance clubs/watch porn where so many of the women have been abused, and still feel sexually aroused, unless they are bereft of a conscience?

Also, Hollywood should ONLY 'sexualise' women who *want* to be sexualised and haven't experienced ANY trauma, and BEFORE any feminist here argues otherwise and says 'All sexualised women are victims,' what do they think about MEN who have been sexualised? Or is straight female sexuality (and the men they lust over, such as The Chippendales) entirely exempt from this dynamic? I honestly don't believe that women and men are *that* different mentally, and whilst our experiences may be different, they are motivated by the same things, so a male Chippendale/stripper can't be that different from a female stripper.