Some people in life care too much, others not at all, who is right?

On say getting in trouble at school or at work, they say its no big deal. For others they're like "No, I don't want to". Also, we are often THREATENED in life with consequences if we misbehave or go out of order etc. But are those authorities in the right to do so?

And do all people have and possess say mental defense weapons that may not help against de-facto maniacs and madmen of Hitler-type but may defer authorities intending on punishing us by giving us detentions etc? And do most people know it AND use them? "If you report me, I will say you attempted to do this etc". Anyways...

P.S. You know in the film "Someone to Die For" (1995) I spoke about here a lot and the fact that it made me cry? Well, it had another scene relevant to here. After that cop grab's Ally Walker character's arm when she visits that distressed main cop in a hospital, she says to him "Next time you lay a hand on me, I will get my lawyer on you so fast your head will spin" - mmm. Lol. :)