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Are people in this current generation less or more sensitive than people from past generations?


https://www.businessinsider.com/millennials-less-sensitive-than-baby-boomers-stereotypes-2019-12#:~:text=Researchers%20found%20that%20as%20people%20in%20the%20study,younger%20generations%20were%20less%20sensitive%20than%20their%20parents.

Baby boomers are the most sensitive generation, a new study says — and it shows exactly what the world is getting wrong about millennials

a new study published in the journal Psychology and Aging ... suggests that millennials (those ages 23 to 38) are less sensitive than baby boomers (those ages 55 to 73), Business Insider's Julia Naftulin reported.


Researchers found that as people in the study aged, they became less sensitive, with hypersensitivity sharply declining at age 40. But when they looked at generation-specific trends, they found that younger generations were less sensitive than their parents.

These findings are the opposite of how many people view millennials: as special "snowflakes" who are sensitive, sheltered, and selfish.

The researchers defined "hypersensitivity" as being unreceptive to others' feedback and lashing out at any criticism toward one's self,

The study — the largest on narcissism to date — examined six previously collected data sets that included nearly 750 people ages 13 to 77 to better understand how narcissistic traits vary among generations and how levels of narcissism change as people age. It examined both generational and individual trends in narcissistic behaviors

Narcissistic personality disorder, according to the Mayo Clinic, is a mental state that involves an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for excessive attention and admiration, a lack of empathy, and low self-esteem vulnerable to criticism.

Baby boomers, he said, are known as the "Me Generation," but they produced millennials, the "Me Me Me Generation."


AGREE???

DISAGREE???

If so, WHY???

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Def. more.

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How so???

In what way???

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I agree, and blame most of it on social media. Reality has become distorted because more and more people are basing it upon what they see on a screen rather than real life. Technology, which should exist for the betterment of humankind, has reached a point to where it's now becoming detrimental. Our society continues to become fragmented and polarized.

We can retire the term "snowflakes." This is 2021.

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Here's sections of another article that you might find interesting due to the way it also blames SOCIAL MEDIA for what's happening to our society:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/jon-savitt/2015/06/this-is-what-the-internet-is-doing-to-human-sensitivity/

This Is What The Internet Is Doing To Human Sensitivity


As social media becomes more accessible and continues to grow with platforms such as Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat, the anonymity attached to these vehicles has allowed for an increase in cyber bullying and a decrease in personal consequences.

Are you free to make those hateful comments? Sure. Should you do so? In my opinion, absolutely not.

The growing exposure to hateful speech along with the notion that more and more people are reacting negatively to various content instead of constructively discussing it leads me to believe that society isn’t growing more sensitive, actually quite the opposite, we’re forming judgments quicker and are growing more insensitive.

False praise and sugarcoated dialogue can be just as detrimental

there is a difference between being constructive with your opinions and being rude or being a “troll”

society isn’t hypersensitive. Certain people are simply growing more insensitive, amplifying their thoughts through various platforms, and then reacting negatively to those who are standing up for themselves,

It comes down to humanitarianism. Be respectful. Be honest. Be fair.


And I also have to confess that it does seem as if the messages that one encounters now compared to 20 years ago are much more RUDE now than they were before.


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Social media has now enabled isolated hate groups to hook up and disseminate their viewpoints around the entire globe within a matter of seconds. This makes these groups appear to be larger and more vocal than they truly are. And this is precisely what they want.

There's definitely been an increase in rude behavior in general within the past couple of decades. I've been in restaurants where people are unruly with loud talking, obnoxious laughing and slovenly attire. Whatever happened to the concept of conducting oneself appropriately in public?

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Have you seen clips on the news where they show people ATTACKING AIRLINE HOST with their FISTS simply because they were asked to wear a MASK???

In one case the PILOT of the plane also had to ASK for anyone who was STRONG enough and willing to help subdue a passenger.

In addition to the restaurants, the AIRLINES are also dealing with the same kind of UNRULY situations now. And in the AIR that can also be a LIFE or DEATH matter, especially when one of them also tries to OPEN up one of the EMERGENCY DOOR EXITS (which would also SUCK EVERYONE out of the plane).

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I've seen and read about plenty of those incidents. You have those who are "entitled" and aren't going to let anyone tell them what to do, even when it involves their own personal safety and that of others. These are the ones who contract COVID-19 and are in the hospital on a ventilator gasping for breath, and still question "why is this happening to me?"

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Today on the news someone suggested that those who WERE VACCINATED should receive treatment at a hospital before those who WERE NOT.

Then the doctor being interviewed POO POO's all over that idea saying that's not the way those in the MEDICAL profession were trained to think, and that if a CRIMINAL and their VICTIM both came in to the EMERGENCY ROOM at the same time for MEDICAL ATTENTION, then they'd both also be treated EQUALLY by the STAFF.

And that's also an interesting ANALOGY or a way to have put it.

Isn't it???

Due to the way it may also suggest that those who refuse to GET VACCINATED are behaving in a CRIMINAL manner???

Why is it people aren't allowed to BLOW CIGARETTE SMOKE into our FACE, yet we allow the UNVACCINATED to SPREAD and BLOW COVID GERMS into our bodies??

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Agreed.

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And we allow VACCINATED people to SPREAD and BLOW COVID GERMS into our bodies.

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CORRECTION:

This is what was said:

we allow the UNVACCINATED to SPREAD and BLOW COVID GERMS into our bodies??

The UNVACCINATED are MOSTLY the ones who CATCH IT, and have FILLED UP the HOSPITALS now with their REFUSAL to get VACCINATED, to the point where PREGNANT WOMEN are being TURNED AWAY now due to the hospital not having ROOM for them to GIVE BIRTH there now.


So PLEASE don't try to play COY by MOCKING what was previously said and then REMOVING the "UN" from what was said.

Because the UNVACCINATED are also the ones who will cause OTHER MUTANT STRAINS of the VIRUS to be CREATED, which the VACCINE also won't be able to PROTECT the VACCINATED from anymore.

And then watch all kinds of HELL BREAK LOSE when that happens and those who've gotten VACCINATED start to DIE because of the UNVACCINATED and their SELFISHNESS and REFUSAL to get VACCINATED.

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I wasn't playing coy at all. Vaccinated and un-vaccinated people spread COVID. What is your source that un-vaccinated people will cause other mutant strains? I've heard the exact opposite.

It's great that you have your OPINIONS but there's so much conflicting information that in truth, no one really knows.

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Ask any EXPERT or DOCTOR in the field of medicine who will tell you the FACT that it's the BODIES of the UNVACCINATED where the MUTANT STRAINS get created.

https://www.healthline.com/health-news/unvaccinated-people-are-increasing-the-chances-for-more-coronavirus-variants-heres-how

Unvaccinated People Are Increasing the Chances for More Coronavirus Variants — Here’s How

Experts say the number of unvaccinated people in the United States is a key reason coronavirus variants are emerging.

They explain that the virus replicates quicker in unvaccinated people, increasing the chance of mutations.

They’re concerned that new COVID-19 cases will continue to rise as variants spread and people still refuse to get vaccinated.

Chances are, the coronavirus variant known as Epsilon might not be on your radar, but scientists sure are watching it.

First discovered in California last December, it’s now spreading in Pakistan.

there is some early evidence” that the variant could be resistant to the vaccines.

So far, scientists in the United States say COVID-19 vaccines seem to be holding up against a new crop of variants that include Gamma, Lambda, Delta Plus, and even the Delta variant that’s responsible for 90 percent of new cases in the country.

But some experts are worried the clock is ticking.

If everyone is vaccinated, eventually infections drop to zero and so do variants,“ Parikh said. “But if the virus has an easy host, such as an unvaccinated individual, then it is easy for it to mutate into a more contagious and virulent form.”

In the unvaccinated, however, the virus gets in, hijacks the cell, and turns it into a factory. It then makes thousands of copies of itself.


If you haven't been VACCINATED my advice is to go get the shots before that NEW even more potent STRAIN of it arrives. Other than a sore arm for one day I had NO SIDE EFFECTS at all. And no one I know who got them had any side effects either. Do you really want to RISK DEATH or someone you know DYING because you haven't been VACCINATED???

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Completely agree with your statement.

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Well, it's a study. A peer-reviewed study. In order for me to successfully disagree with it, I'd either have to devise my own study that contradicted the results and get it published in a peer-reviewed journal, or I'd have to find flaws in the study's methodology.

Just having an opinion based on anecdote, personal prejudice or gut instinct isn't really a solid rebuttal to a peer-reviewed study. The fact that so many people consider it could be is actually a far more fundamental problem in the contemporary world than is any trumped-up intergenerational personality (or economic) conflict.

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How do you feel about what it says about "NARCISSISM" in GENERAL???

How it suggests that the NEXT GENERATION (the one born to BABY BOOMERS) has what it calls "an inflated sense of self-importance, a need for excessive attention and admiration, a lack of empathy, and low self-esteem vulnerable to criticism."

Do you think that's a fair assessment???

Andy Warhol talked about how we'd all have our 15 MIN of FAME.

And other studies also found most of the NEXT GEN thought they'd grow up to be FAMOUS or a CELEBRITY (which, imo, also seems correlated with an INFLATED SENSE of SELF IMPORTANCE and a NEED for EXCESSIVE ATTENTION and ADMIRATION).

Paris Hilton comes to mind as an example of someone who seems to fit into this kind of a description pretty well.




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Well, I don't have much to say on it. Again: it's a peer-reviewed study. Its rebuttal would come from a peer-reviewed study, not from me mouthing off on a message board.

The only comment that I would make is that the 'snowflake' appellation aimed at millennials and Gen Z doesn't usually seem to be applied due to the perceived personal sensitivity we might associate with narcissistic traits; it's generally a label used (chiefly but not exclusively by conservatives) to describe people they believe are 'overly sensitive' about issues surrounding social justice. These issues may or may not directly impact the person who raised the objection but certainly don't apply only to them, so either way would suggest to me a more collective worldview than an individualistic one.


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Well ... in GENERAL ...

and without taking the study into consideration ...

how do you feel about the QUESTION put forth:

Are people in this current generation less or more sensitive than people from past generations?

Would your (uninformed or unscientific) opinion be the CURRENT GEN is LESS or MORE SENSITIVE than people from the PAST???



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Well ... in GENERAL ... how do you feel about the QUESTION ... without taking the study into consideration:


I feel that the study must be taken into consideration - because it's superior evidence to anecdote, personal prejudice and gut instinct.

Would your (uninformed or unscientific) opinion be the CURRENT GEN is LESS or MORE SENSITIVE than people from the PAST???


I don't have an uninformed or unscientific opinion on the matter, because we have informed, scientific opinion to draw on - so an uninformed or unscientific opinion on the matter becomes unnecessary and invalid. I trust the scientific method.

This brings me full circle to my initial post: a much more fundamental problem in the world is that people don't trust the scientific method - or moreover don't understand the scientific method - that takes all the guesswork out of these things and provides an evidential and statistical framework for discussion and debate.

Many people seem to feel that their own subjective opinion is somehow equal to or perhaps even superior to the methodically collected evidence. And until we've overcome that human tendency towards cognitive bias through education... we won't have nice things.

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“There are no facts, only interpretations.”

― Friedrich Nietzsche

Ok then, so what about PERSPECTIVISM or RELATIVISM???

perspectivism

the theory that knowledge of a subject is inevitably partial and limited by the individual perspective from which it is viewed.

See also

RELATIVISM:

the doctrine that knowledge, truth, and morality exist in relation to culture, society, or historical context, and are not absolute.

Relativism is a family of philosophical views which deny claims to objectivity within a particular domain and assert that facts in that domain are relative to the perspective of an observer or the context in which they are assessed.


Doesn't that also indicate that even when one uses the SCIENTIFIC METHOD one is still going to end up with

"knowledge (that's) inevitably partial and limited by the individual perspective from which it is viewed???"

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Perspectivism supports the primacy of (objective) empirical research. And relativism certainly doesn't contradict it. Science doesn't make any claims to absolute, unchanging truth. That's religion's role.

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Yes, but someone still has to REACH a CONCLUSION from the STUDY ...

and won't that CONCLUSION also INEVITABLY be PARTIAL and LIMITED by the PERSPECTIVE of the INDIVIDUAL who reaches the CONCLUSION???

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and won't that CONCLUSION also INEVITABLY be PARTIAL and LIMITED by the PERSPECTIVE of the INDIVIDUAL who reaches the CONCLUSION???


The aim of the scientific method is to eradicate the partial, limited perspective of the individual. Does it work perfectly? No. Because it's carried out by human beings - who have natural cognitive biases. There will be errors. That's why science is a conversation.

But the conversation must be scientific on both sides of the debate, because the scientific method - while not flawless - provides superior evidence and is a superior system for collecting and analysing evidence to... not-science.

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Yes, I agree wholeheartedly with what you say about the Scientific METHOD, but you were still also asked to disregard the STUDY and express the way that YOU FEEL about the matter.

So the CONCLUSION one comes to is you're using the METHOD as a way to try to DODGE the question instead of presenting us with an ANSWER to the way that YOU FEEL.

Would that be an incorrect assumption???

Because if EVERYONE were to ANSWER a QUESTION whenever they were ASKED one about the way they FELT, and claimed the SCIENTIFIC METHOD is the reason why they won't give an ANSWER to the QUESTION, wouldn't we be WORSE OFF rather than BETTER OFF???

Because doesn't what you've done also STIFLE the DEBATE about whether or not one feels one GENERATION is MORE or LESS SENSITIVE than the other one???

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Yes, I agree wholeheartedly with what you say about the Scientific METHOD, but you were still also asked to disregard the STUDY and express the way that YOU FEEL about the matter.


With respect, you don't wholeheartedly agree - or at least you don't fully understand the philosophy of scientific methodology. If you did, you wouldn't be able to ask someone to 'disregard the study' and talk about their feelings on the matter. The data is the data. The study is the best 'answer' we have unless and until someone supplies better data, which would arrive through a peer-reviewed study or finding a significant fault with the methodology of this one.

So the CONCLUSION one comes to is you're using the METHOD as a way to try to DODGE the question instead of presenting us with an ANSWER to the way that YOU FEEL.


Yes. That would be an erroneous assumption.

Because if EVERYONE were to ANSWER a QUESTION whenever they were ASKED one about the way they FELT, and claimed the SCIENTIFIC METHOD is the reason why they won't give an ANSWER to the QUESTION, wouldn't we be WORSE OFF rather than BETTER OFF???


No. We'd be better off if people didn't ignore scientific data in favour of their own anecdotes, personal prejudices and gut instinct.

Because doesn't what you've done also STIFLE the DEBATE about whether or not one feels one GENERATION is MORE or LESS SENSITIVE than the other one???


I'm not stifling any debate. I'm merely pointing out that the only worthwhile debate would be one that didn't ride roughshod over the science. Yours or my 'feelings' on the sensitivity or otherwise of various generations is invalid in the face of data arrived at through a scientific methodology. This should be obvious to people.

And again, that it isn't is a fundamental issue for the world.

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No, I HONESTLY really DO agree with what you say and also think that you said it VERY WELL:

Many people seem to feel that their own subjective opinion is somehow equal to or perhaps even superior to the methodically collected evidence


And that's also made EVIDENT by the way people FLOCK to FEED STORES to take COW & HORSE medication instead of getting VACCINATED.

As for the QUESTION itself, it comes from a PHILOSOPHY LINK where it says it's a good question to STIMULATE DEBATE.

https://owlcation.com/humanities/100-Philosophical-Questions-that-Make-You-Think-and-Discuss

And that OTHER LINK is something that one found AFTER finding the QUESTION (which one probably also shouldn't have posted here)???

In other words, the STUDY isn't a part of the QUESTION at all and is something completely INDEPENDENT of it.

OK???

See the problem here???

The TOPIC was STARTED as a way to ENCOURAGE DEBATE, but then finding another TOPIC that contains that STUDY and posting it here also seems to have DISCOURAGED it (at least in your case).

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In other words, the STUDY isn't a part of the QUESTION at all and is something completely INDEPENDENT of it.


In which case I would point you towards the study, because it's the best evidence we have to answer the original question.

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But the MAIN PURPOSE of the QUESTION is to STIMULATE DEBATE.

And PHILOSOPHY is also NOT a SCIENCE.

It's one of the ARTS.

So WHY should SCIENCE take PRIORITY over having a CONVERSATION about the way that people FEEL about a QUESTION???

Are you suggesting people have NO RIGHT to FEEL the way they do or have a DEBATE about a matter once a STUDY says the way they FEEL about something is WRONG???

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I give up. We're going around in circles. You're not getting it. That's fine. We'll leave it there.

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This other link points out the FLAWS in the STUDY:

https://www.insider.com/baby-boomers-are-more-sensitive-than-millennials-large-study-finds-2019-12

There were some caveats to the study. For example, the researchers relied on existing data sets to reach their conclusions rather than personally following people of different generations for decades. Chopik also noted that narcissism can be measured various ways and they only used one of those methods, which could have skewed the results.



What you don't seem to GET is WHY this topic was STARTED in the FIRST PLACE.

And that was to have a DEBATE about whether or not we think one GENERATION is more (or is LESS) SENSITIVE than the other one.

So which GENERATION do you belong to cap???

Would it be INCORRECT to assume you're NOT a BOOMER????

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Conservatives seem to have coopted the term and shifted its meaning. In FIGHT CLUB, snowflake had a different meaning.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Snowflake_(slang)#Pejorative_reference_to_uniqueness

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Yes that's what SNOWFLAKE brings to mind is their UNIQUENESS or how none of them are like another one.

Shifting and being SHIFTY is also a TRAIT that one recognizes in regards to those who have SHIFTED the meaning.

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I really respect this answer. I said something similar on a post about transgender athletes, and was told that not having an opinion because I said that I wasn't an actual expert who had studied the topic scientifically, wasn't really an option. I had to have an opinion.

When did we as a society stop valuing experts?

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I think it's when someone decided EXPERTS were some kind of an ELITE class who were IDIOTS that should never be paid attention to???

Therefore, CLIMATE CHANGE doesn't exist, COVID is a HOAX, wearing a MASK doesn't work, etc, etc. etc.

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So I'm not sure if you are saying that someone else decided what you are saying, and you are using it as an explanation, or if it is what you believe.

When I hear claims like you've mentioned I will ask people what I ask myself;

What makes you believe these claims? How does it benefit you to believe these claims? This one isn't as much for me but for someone a little aggressive with me. Where are your peer reviewed studies to back up these claims?

It may not make a bit of difference, but I just hope that someone will stop for a moment and think about their motivations.

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No I definitely believe CLIMATE CHANGE and COVID EXISTS and that wearing a MAKE works.

The SAMPLES they take of ICE that's THOUSANDS of years old confirms the CLIMATE CHANGE ISSUE for us.

The PBS ARTICLE also has some interesting things to say as well.

Check it out:

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/problem-thinking-know-experts

The problem with thinking you know more than the experts

On the news yesterday one man they interviewed said he refused to get vaccinated because the man he voted for wasn't in office now.

When reminded that the person he voted for had also been vaccinated, he also said maybe so, but he hadn't seen that happen so he wasn't sure it had happened.

He also didn't seen him getting MONOCLONAL ATTIBODIES either, but he said he'd be willing to have that done instead of getting the VACINE.

Anyhow, asking that man LOGICAL QUESTIONS would probably also not RESULT in you getting back RATIONAL ANSWERS from him again.

Because most of what he said was NONSENSICAL.




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If it doesn't make someone think, I can't do anything about it. But at least I tried.

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Yes. I like evidence. I like data. I like people who back up their opinions with evidence. And I like to think I know my own limitations and will bow to greater knowledge. And if two experts in their field disagree over an issue, I can listen to that debate without feeling that I, a non-expert, should take sides. It isn't a sports match.

When did we as a society stop valuing experts?


I'm not quite sure. Perhaps a lot of people never did and we just hear from them more now because of the internet. My own view - and to be clear: if someone produces solid evidence to the contrary, I'll change my view - is that we have a multi-generational failure to adequately teach critical thinking skills. But how and why? Dunno.

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FOUND THIS:

The problem with thinking you know more than the experts


https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/problem-thinking-know-experts

Increasingly, however, laypeople don't care about expert views. Instead, many Americans have become insufferable know-it-alls, locked in constant conflict with each other, while knowing almost nothing about the subject they are debating.

How did this happen? How is it that people now not only doubt expert advice, but believe themselves to be as smart, or even smarter, than experienced professionals? Parents who refuse to vaccinate a child, for example, aren't really questioning their doctors. They're replacing their doctors. They have decided that attending the university of Google, as one anti-vaccine activist put it, is the same as going to medical school.

There's a lot of blame to go around for all of this. The smartphones and tablets that we carry around all day that we think can answer anything are only part of the problem. The American educational system, from grade school to graduate school, encourages students to think of themselves and their views as special. An A is now a common grade.

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Well, there’s this, too:

But some people refuse to admit they’re wrong, even in the face of overwhelming evidence […]

But what about when a person does push back against the facts, when they simply cannot admit they were wrong in any circumstance? What in their psychological makeup makes it impossible for them to admit they were wrong, even when it is obvious they were? And why does this happen so repetitively — why do they never admit they were wrong?

The answer is related to their ego, their very sense-of-self. Some people have such a fragile ego, such brittle self-esteem, such a weak "psychological constitution," that admitting they made a mistake or that they were wrong is fundamentally too threatening for their egos to tolerate. Accepting they were wrong, absorbing that reality, would be so psychologically shattering, their defense mechanisms do something remarkable to avoid doing so — they literally distort their perception of reality to make it (reality) less threatening. Their defense mechanisms protect their fragile ego by changing the very facts in their mind, so they are no longer wrong or culpable.

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But when people are constitutionally unable to admit they’re wrong, when they cannot tolerate the very notion that they are capable of mistakes, it is because they suffer from an ego so fragile that they cannot sulk and get over it — they need to warp their very perception of reality and challenge obvious facts in order to defend their not being wrong in the first place.

How we respond to such people is up to us. The one mistake we should not make is to consider their persistent and rigid refusal to admit they’re wrong as a sign of strength or conviction, because it is the absolute opposite — psychological weakness and fragility.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-squeaky-wheel/201811/why-certain-people-will-never-admit-they-were-wrong





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Thanks for the link nelly.

So which GENERATION do you think is the MOST SENSITIVE???

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My opinion is purely anecdotal.

There are more aspects to sensitivity than overreacting to personal criticism. There’s also having a strong sense of sympathy and empathy for the hardships of others. I also think lacking mental toughness is an aspect of over-sensitivity.

Imo the younger generations are more sensitive in the first definition (I’m not sure about the second). Social media, smart phones and video gaming are leading to anxiety and depression.
https://www.ualberta.ca/folio/2020/01/millennials-and-gen-z-are-more-anxious-than-previous-generations-heres-why.html

https://www.wsj.com/articles/digital-addictions-are-drowning-us-in-dopamine-11628861572

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Thanks for the links.

You need to subscribe to read the 2nd one.

And it's also interesting how the first link says not as many are getting their DR. LICENSE at age 16 or at 18 anymore because they depend upon their parents to take them wherever they need to go.

But car payments, car insurance, registration and inspection fees, GAS, car repairs and maintenance (like NEW TIRES, NEW BATTERY, OIL Changes, etc), can also be VERY EXPENSIVE.

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Tap on the audio player and you can listen to the article. Or Google the title and hou kight avtually grt a link that will allow you to read the full article

Digital Addictions Are Drowning Us in Dopamine

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Thanks for the tip nelly.

Hope I can find and access the audio player or find another link to it that allows one to read it.

FOUND IT.

What's interesting is the way she describes the results of SCREEN TIME is very similar to the way ADDICTS get ADDICTED to COCAINE (which also releases the same NEUROTRANSMITTER into the brain).

So could computer games also be a source of ADDICTION now as well???

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"The researchers defined "hypersensitivity" as being unreceptive to others' feedback and lashing out at any criticism toward one's self,"

I actually disagree with that definition of hypersensitivity, what you have there is a definition of being an angry asshole. There are several kinds of hypersensitivity, not just anger responses, some people react to seemingly minor stimuli with terror, tears, depression, panic attacks, etc.

What you see with today's young "snowflakes" isn't so much an increase in personal sensitivity, which has always existed, but social acceptance of reacting to minor stimuli with tears, panic, terrors, etc. (but not anger, which is now "bullying"). Hypersensitive responses are now labeled as "anxiety and depression", and not "being a fucking weenie".

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As usual, You bring up a very interesting point OTTER.

And what you describe definitely also applies to my niece.

When she told me her grandchild had been born on my birthday, for instance, I naturally assumed she was talking about her 16 yr old having become a father.

Then when she explained she was talking about the SON of her husband (who she hadn't been married to for very long), and I said, "OH, you mean your STEP SON," she had a MAJOR HISSY FIT and said she was more of a MOTHER to him than his BIO MOM.

Then after suggesting it might not be a good idea to call herself a grandmother in front of the boy's mother (because it might hurt her feelings), there was still MORE TROUBLE and we haven't spoken ever since then (simply because she didn't consider it proper to call her STEP SON her STEP SON).

And when I also asked her how she'd feel if the STEP MOTHER of her son called herself the grandmother of the son that my niece gave birth to, she had an even BIGGER FIT and said that she considered her son's STEP MOTHER to be what she called a "BONUS MOM."

So that would probably also fit into the "REACTING to MINOR STIMULI CATEGORY" whenever someone gets upset because someone else CORRECTLY refers to a STEP SON as being a STEP SON instead of a SON???

Is this "BONUS MOM" idea also something new that's come about from the use of FB??? Because my niece is also a BIG proponent of using that place as well. So now STEP SON's are SONS and STEP MOM's are BONUS MOMS???

And we BOOMERS who don't use (and NEVER have used FB) are also catching HELL because we don't even know what the younger generation is talking about anymore???

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I would call that "reacting to minor stimuli by being an asshole", myself.

Touchy assholes have always existed, and it used to be socially acceptable under limited circumstances. Such as if one was the "head of the family", and everyone had to put up with your shit.

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Yes exactly Otter.

You're right. She was being an A$$hole. And since there was also another matter as well that hasn't been mentioned, she was being an even BIGGER ONE than you can imagine.

PLUS she'd also NEVER mentioned this STEP SON before (which is also CURIOUS when she also claims to be more of a MOTHER to him than his own mother).

So how was one suppose to know who she was referring to???

And this STEP SON is also married, and has been to another woman for quite some time (which also makes it that much more confusing that he'd need another MOTHER now).

And YES one also understands what you mean about the HEAD of the HOUSEHOLD issue and "putting up with $HIT" because of it as well.

Here's something interesting from MEN's Health magazine:

https://www.menshealth.com/trending-news/a30210589/boomers-more-sensitive-than-millennials-study/

Researchers also discovered that younger generations, including the often-maligned "snowflake" millennials, are actually starting out with a lower degree of hypersensitivity than older groups, meaning that as they continue to get older, they will be, for all intents and purposes, less easily "triggered" than their parents or grandparents at the same age.

Chopik's findings also tangentially support research published last year which suggested that millennial men are more selfless and socially conscious than their fathers, with a shift towards a new set of "masculine" values centered around kindness and emotional literacy.








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"Researchers also discovered that younger generations, including the often-maligned "snowflake" millennials, are actually starting out with a lower degree of hypersensitivity than older groups, meaning that as they continue to get older, they will be, for all intents and purposes, less easily "triggered" than their parents or grandparents at the same age."

Hard to believe that people who go around demanding "safe spaces" and kiddie warnings on everything are less easily triggered, but whatever. Not my field.

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What are these "SAFE SPACES" that they demand?

And don't we also already have warnings on products in regards to kids???

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It's a thing on college campuses.

https://www.trade-schools.net/articles/trigger-warnings

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Thanks for the link.

That's interesting what it says about how those who are oppressed become oppressors.

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This is a little off the original topic, and not backed by science and just my opinion, but I'm not so sure that she is the asshole here.

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Not a big asshole, but calling yourself a new stepchild's "mother" or "bonus mother" is setting one's self up for a huge fight with the child's actual mother, and the child themselves.

Cue the countdown... 3... 2... 1... "YOU'RE NOT MY MOTHER!!!!!!!".

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But you do understand that it's an unreliable anecdote (We're hearing only from one involved party), open to interpretation (We've seen someone say that the niece doesn't seem like the asshole even from this prismatic version of the story) and that even if we accept it as objectively true and correctly interpreted (She is the 'asshole' or at least she is 'overly sensitive'), it says nothing about an entire generation but only about one niece?

These and other reasons are why wider studies carried out under scientific conditions will always trump anecdotal 'evidence'.

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The NIECE isn't meant to be REPRESENTATIVE of the entire GENERATION.

She's just an EXAMPLE of the HYPERSENSITIVITY ISSUE that OTTER mentioned (where people who behave that way tend to behave like ASS HOLES to other people).

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Oh, you prefer 'example' over 'representative'. I'll accept that, although I think it's a distinction without a difference. Nevertheless, it doesn't substantively alter my point.

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No your point is VALID and isn't ALTERED in anyway, but at least we have an EXAMPLE now whereas we didn't seem to have one before???

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We don't have an example. We have an anecdote; we have your subjective interpretation of a moment of familial discord. Presumably, your niece wouldn't tell the story in the same way. And your version of the event hasn't even persuaded everyone that your interpretation of the niece's behaviour is correct.

That's perfectly normal. We all do that in some way or another. And that's the point: anecdote is worthless as evidence.

But even if we accept your anecdote, it speaks only of your niece - not as an example or representative of anything. There's no useful pattern to be garnered from your anecdote. But, hey, guess what? There is in statistical data.

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The niece wasn't mentioned to be EVIDENCE of whether or not she's MORE SENSITIVE.

She was mentioned as EVIDENCE that she's been "HYPERSENSITIVE" and that she'd also been an ASS HOLE about it when she was that way.

Because when she'd never mentioned the STEP SON before how was one suppose to KNOW WHO she was talking about when one wasn't even aware he EXISTED???

And WHY would it matter to me that the child was born on my BIRTHDAY when I'm not related to it and didn't even know it's parents existed prior to being told it was born on my birthday???

And if anyone else has another different interpretation that's also fine as well.

Please feel free to share whatever point of view it is that you have.

So, are you also a FB user???

Have you ever heard of a STEP MOM being a "BONUS MOM" before???



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As anecdotes go, I think it's a decent example of someone being an asshole, but a poor-to-middling example of a hypersensitivity reaction.

Here's a better example: Some years ago, I worked in an office, and the head-of-office supervisor guy was a middle aged man, who was kind of awkward and lacking in people skills. Occasionally he'd come through to our department, and give a general "Good morning" to all the cubicle dwellers, and then he'd make eye contact with the most attractive women in the little department and give her a specific "Good morning", and walk away. Which was mildly creepy, but the poor woman who got the eye-contact "Good morning" would literally SHAKE ALL OVER for the next five or ten minutes! She was very emotional at baseline and given to yelling "But I'm sensitive" over the least little thing, and this mildly inappropriate behavior would literally make her tremble visibly with fear.

So I'd call that an adult hypersensitivity reaction that displayed panic/anxiety rather than anger, which reinforced my original point.

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Or maybe the NIECE is CLINGING to the STEP SON because she feels INSECURE for some reason about her relationship with his father???

With the birth of the STEP SON's child, that may also mean the BIO MOM and the BIO DAD (who's now married to the niece) will also come into contact with each other again by way of the new GRAND CHILD???

Therefore, perhaps the NIECE feels calling herself "the GRANDMOTHER" of her STEP SON's CHILD is going to somehow shove the other GRANNY who gave birth to the STEP SON out of the way???

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I understand exactly what you are saying. But we are only hearing one side of the story. I can interpret the story differently as well. That instead of the niece being the asshole and insisting on different titles, which might actually suggest that she has a good relationship with both her stepson, and her ex's new wife by calling her a bonus mom. That is much more complementary than stepmom, and could show that she values that new mom's contribution to her own son's life. The OP is the one insisting in this story that she is being overly sensitive, yet a different interpretation could be that their insistence at using the term stepmom and stepson instead of these new terms could make them the overly sensitive one.

Now, I don't know if any of that is true, but I'm just showing how different people can read the same story and take away completely different things from it.

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I would say the title of "Bonus mom" is only valid if conferred by the stepson rather than claimed by the niece, and validated by both his parents.

Of course the OP doesn't discuss whose idea it was to call a stepmother a "bonus mother", but I assumed it was the niece herself. Because if the stepson actually referred to her as a "bonus mother", which is unlikely from an adult whose father has a new wife, she probably would have said so in her argument. And of course she reinforced the assumption of asshole by saying she was "...more of a MOTHER to him than his BIO MOM.", which is just not something a grown man with a kid of his own would say.

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Yes exactly OTTER, she claims her OWN SON has a BONUS MOM (because he also has a STEP MOM), but she's also not calling herself a BONUS MOM in relation to her STEP SON.

Because instead of being a BONUS MOM to her STEP SON, she claims to be a "BETTER MOM" to him than his OWN MOTHER.

And that's also where the NARCISSISM comes into play due to the way she ELEVATES her OWN STATUS placing herself ABOVE the BIRTH MOTHER instead of making her an EQUAL (like she does in the case of her OWN SON's STEP MOM).



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She didn't call the former wife of her husband a BONUS MOM.

She CLAIMED she'd been a "BETTER MOM" to her STEP SON than his own MOM had been (even when there's NO EVIDENCE to support that claim and she also claims that the BIO MOM had NOT been a GOOD MOM to him).

It was the other woman who's in a relationship with the FATHER of the SON of my niece that she called a BONUS MOM.

But she's definitely NOT in a "BONUS MOM" type of a relationship with the MOTHER of her STEP SON (who she sees as being COMPETITION for her for some reason).



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she had an even BIGGER FIT and said that she considered her son's STEP MOTHER to be what she called a "BONUS MOM."

Sorry, I assumed that her son's stepmother would be the ex husband's new wife.

Again, I am just very curious as to why you are so passionate about being correct about a relationship that has nothing to do with you?

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What upsets me is the way the niece got upset when I CORRECTLY called her STEP SON her STEP SON.

And then she has the HISSY FIT claiming he was HER SON (not a STEP SON) because she'd been MORE of a mother to him than his OWN MOTHER.

So that's where the PASSION comes into play is being SCOLDED for NOT KNOWING who she was talking about (because she never mentioned him before), and then her getting ANGRY and ACTING like an ASS HOLE simply because he'd been CORRECTLY IDENTIFIED as being her STEP SON (which he is).

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Hmmm. I'm going to bow out now. I think you might be proving the point that boomers are the sensitive generation.

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Is that a good thing or a bad thing to be???

It was definitely strange the way the niece completely REFUSED to even consider how calling herself a GRANDMOTHER to her STEP SON's child might upset the WOMAN who was actually the BIO or the GENETIC GRANNY.

And it was also SHOCKING to hear her speak about her as if her feelings weren't even worthy enough to take into consideration.

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What is it you have in mind?

If you're referring to the way that someone who had actually raised a STEP CHILD would have the right to consider themselves as being their parent, that's one thing.

But that's NOT the case with my niece, because her STEP SON was also already MARRIED by the time she married his father. And she's also not known either one of them for that long.

So it's NOT as if she's raised the son of her husband.

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Therefore, perhaps the NIECE feels calling herself "the GRANDMOTHER" of her STEP SON's CHILD is going to somehow shove the other GRANNY who gave birth to the STEP SON out of the way???

Or perhaps they can all be grandparents equally and not have any sort of competition. Children usually have more than one grandmother, why can't they have 3 or 4?

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According to what my NIECE said that's NOT the case, because she also made it PERFECTLY CLEAR that she'd been more of a MOM to him than his OWN MOTHER (even though she hasn't KNOWN the STEP SON for very long).

So for that reason it's HIGHLY UNLIKELY she'd be willing to see the former wife as not being some sort of COMPETITION for her.

Anyhow, the point was she wasn't even WILLING to consider how calling herself the GRANDMOTHER of her STEP SON's child might hurt the feelings of the MOTHER who actually gave birth to the STEP SON.

And, imo, that's also where the LACK of SENSITIVITY on the part of the niece comes into play.



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Which all might be very true. You are putting this story out there for others to read, who don't know you, your niece, the stepson, the mother of the stepson and it appears (I could be misinterpreting) that you are seeking validation for your point of view. For all I know you aren't willing to consider her point of view.

I mean this whole post was supposed to be in regards to a study about entire generations being sensitive, and again I could be wrong, but you seem to be looking for some sort of validation here through an anecdotal story than anything more concrete. If that's the case, that's fine. I'm just not really sure what the point of the story actually is.

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Everyone puts anonymous personal stories on the internet, and many people take the trouble to change details like age, sex, or relationship, to keep the real persons under discussion from being identified. There are entire forums dedicated to this, such as "Am I The Asshole", and professional advice columns that make a living from discussing exactly this sort of scenario.

So I would say, that by objecting to the presence of an anonymous personal story being put on the internet, you are [ba-dump-bump] displaying a hypersensitivity reaction! [*bing!*]

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🥂

I wasn't trying to start anything, or come off as rude, I was just really trying to understand what the point of the anecdote was in regards to the greater concept of sensitivity.

Those AITA posts always make me want to hear the other person's side of the story. The saying goes, there are 3 sides to every story. When you put it on the internet it turns into 100s of sides, as everyone has to voice an opinion. This is probably one case where I should have said nothing at all.

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Yeah, the AITA stories are always so slanted to one POV that the commentators only decide the OP is the asshole in 1 post out of 100.

And like I said, the niece story wasn't a great example of a hypersensitivity reaction, but it did demonstrate how people can get ridiculously angry over small things, even when they're in the wrong, and that could fairly be called a type of hypersensitivity.

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you are [ba-dump-bump] displaying a hypersensitivity reaction! [*bing!*]


If all you've got is a hammer, everything looks like a nail.

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You're right about not knowing any one that's been mentioned. But what I also suspect is the NIECE doesn't KNOW the MOTHER of her STEP SON either. And all she knows is what the STEP SON has told her about her.

So just like you don't KNOW anyone, my niece probably doesn't KNOW the MOTHER she thinks she's BETTER than either.

And NO, the point isn't to SEEK VALIDATION of what's been said, but to merely POINT OUT how INSENSITIVE one FEELS the niece had been in reference to the FEELINS of the ACTUAL MOTHER who'd given birth, and was also the BIO or the GENETIC GRANDMOTHER of the GRANDCHILD (a position which my niece was also trying to claim was her position as well when she's also not raised the STEP SON or been a part of his life for very long) .

And NO the POST isn't ABOUT the STUDY either. It's ABOUT the way we FEEL PERSONALLY about the QUESTION asked.

And then the STUDY was found and was posted as an AFTER THOUGHT (which was obviously also a HUGE MISTAKE on my part due to the way one poster also LATCHED ONTO IT and insisted that they didn't need to discuss THEIR OPINION of the QUESTION due to the STUDY (which you others also point out is FLAWED).

And I'd also pointed out the same thing as well, but NO ONE seemed to NOTICE that at the time.

So NO again, one isn't looking for VALIDATION, but simply for a DISCUSSION about the way we FEEL about the QUESTION one got from a PHILOSOPHY site.

If you back up and read my discussions with the poster with the C name (capuchin) , then you should also be able to realize that's the case.

The POINT of the story was to try to provide an EXAMPLE for OTTER who pointed out how they didn't LIKE the HYPERSENSITY definition provided in the STUDY (which one also agreed with as well).

Then OTTER also provides another BETTER EXAMPLE for us (than that of the NIECE) as a way to BETTER ILLUSTRATE what they meant.

Therefore a BIG THANK YOU to everyone for your contributions to this topic which are also APPRECIATED VERY MUCH !!!

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Not to do with your niece but, I just want to point out that a woman does not have to give birth to be a mother.

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No of course not, but since my niece hasn't KNOWN the STEP SON for very long, and had also NEVER EVEN MENTIONED him before, doesn't that also seem a bit ODD to you???

I also asked my BROTHER about the STEP SON who also didn't KNOW WHO he was and had NEVER heard him mentioned to him before either.

Yet the NIECE still claims to have been MORE of a MOTHER to the STEP SON than his actual MOTHER???

Again, what I suspect is the niece felt THREATENED by the mother of her STEP SON for some reason and was DISPLACING the way that she felt and taking it out on me.

Because she does this all of the time, but this time one has also had ENOUGH of it, and of her NEVER EVER offering an APOLOGY for the way she behaves, and won't put up with it anymore.

Because with a 16 yr old son of her own, she's also an ADULT now, and isn't a CHILD anymore (even though, imo, she still behaves as if she were still one).



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I will be honest here, I don't have an opinion on your niece. If you don't know the step son why is it an issue for you? If she's that horrible you can ignore her. You are spending a lot of energy on something that has nothing to do with you.

I did say in my comment that it had nothing to do with your niece. I was just saying that mothers are not always biological.

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The idea isn't to have you form an opinion of her as much as she was mentioned as a way to try to illustrate the reason why I FEEL as if the younger generation isn't as SENSITIVE as the older one.

Because Jonathan and I also had a discussion here about how we thought SOCIAL MEDIA is responsible for this, and my niece also uses FB a lot (and she also keeps trying to get me to join it no matter how many times she's told the reasons why one has no intention of ever doing so).

The STEP SON isn't an issue for me at all, because prior to the mention of him having had a child on my birthday, I had no idea he even existed. And the reason why he's an ISSUE for her is because she FELT INSULTED that I called him her "STEP SON" (which he is) instead of her SON (which he is not ... because she also already has another SON that she gave birth to ... which is also why I was confused and thought she meant her 16 yr old son had a child).

Anyhow, she also tried to further ANTAGONIZE me and PUNISH ME by pointing out how her MOTHER (my sister) was only my HALF SISTER (born to the same MOTHER). And then she asked me how would I like it if she called me her "HALF AUNT."

And she was told since that's an ACCURATE description there'd be no problem if that's what she chose to do. Which only seemed to upset her that much more.

But YES you're right mothers aren't always BIO MOMS, but, imo, in this case my niece also hasn't KNOWN this STEP SON long enough to claim that she's been MORE of a MOM to him or a BETTER ONE.

And one also suspects the reason why she chose to do that has something to do with her feeling insecure for some reason (which may also be because her husband would be seeing his former wife again who'd probably also want to see her grandchild). And maybe she also felt BETRAYED, or as if I were taking the side of the former wife by taking her feelings into consideration???

So that's why the niece was mentioned, due to way that she also seems to fit the PROFILE of what we've been discussing here so far on this topic. Because having a conversation with my niece is like "WALKING on EGG SHELLS" where you know they're going to CRACK. Or like walking on a "MINE FIELD" (as one poster puts it).

And when the CRACK or EXPLOSION takes place then begins the "COME HERE/GO AWAY DANCE" all over again (with NEVER an apology for the RUDE way that she's behaved).

Here's the link that jonathan and I discussed that seems to sum her up pretty well:

https://thoughtcatalog.com/jon-savitt/2015/06/this-is-what-the-internet-is-doing-to-human-sensitivity/

more and more people are reacting negatively to various content instead of constructively discussing it leads me to believe that society isn’t growing more sensitive, actually quite the opposite, we’re forming judgments quicker and are growing more insensitive.

Certain people are simply growing more insensitive, amplifying their thoughts through various platforms, and then reacting negatively




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Gen Z = MORE

Having a conversation with them is like walking through a minefield. There’s a scene in the Netflix series The Chair where a professor tries to apologize (defend?! justify?!) but gets snared in a web of questions by the mob of students.

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Thanks Who.

Unfortunately I don't subscribe to Netflix and haven't seen this Chair series.

But What a relief it is to hear that it isn't just ME who is having this problem with the younger GEN !!

What does the PROFESSOR try to apologize for???

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That’s a key spoiler to that series, so I will leave it up to you to read below. I think you’d like this series. Has the same kind of drama/comedy style as The White Lotus.

He jokingly imitates the nazi salute during a lecture

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Thanks for the SPOILER INFO!!!

I MISS the WHITE LOTUS.

Are you planning to watch SCENES from a MARRIAGE TONIGHT???

They've REVERSED ROLES from the ORIGINAL STORY to where the FEMALE is like OLIVIA's mom (has more MASCULINE TRAITS).

So apparently we'll also be meeting another couple again tonight like the other one that we had in THE WHITE LOTUS.

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Oh thanks, I forgot that premieres tonight. Yes, I will be watching.

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Who are these "researchers" ?

Okay so I looked it up myself and it turns out that a guy named William Chopik who works at Michigan State University and describes himself as a social-personality psychologist was one of the researchers. He is in his early thirties and from the limited information I could pick up on him from a Google search he sounds like he might fall into the woke category.

So this guy does some "research" that finds that his generation is "less sensitive" than the baby boomers. Well surprise, surprise !

Here is what he looks like:

https://psychology.msu.edu/_assets/images/faculty-direct/chopik-william-dir-3.jpg

Maybe he got tired of being "disrespected" by baby boomers and the guy was looking for some payback.



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I love this post ! It provoked the best chuckle of the day. This is what some "boomers" in their early 30s actually looked like: https://www.google.com/search?rlz=1CAHUTT_enUS942&sxsrf=AOaemvIO0BbIwm3lcHRuY6IgwTURiWrVRg:1631507098412&source=univ&tbm=isch&q=clint+walker+in+early+30s&sa=X&ved=2ahUKEwioj7LIjfvyAhUFTDABHfr2DX4QjJkEegQIAhAC&biw=911&bih=433

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Wikipedia:

>>Norman Eugene "Clint" Walker (May 30, 1927 – May 21, 2018)

What are you talking about???

BOOMERS were born AFTER the END of WW2 (1945 to 1965).

So someone born in 1927 is definitely NOT a BABY BOOMER.

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You took my post much too seriously and completely missed the tongue-in-cheek, playful tone in how it was created. My second sentence should have been a clue.

And I didn't claim he was a boomer. I said, "This is what some boomers in their early 30s actually looked like." I used Walker's image as an example, to create a stark contrast to the one in the previous post, and was essentially reinforcing that poster's point.

Get it now?

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OK so are you saying that the BOOMERS WIN when it comes to being MORE SENSITIVE because they're better looking???

Because some BOOMERS were also long hair hippies in their 20's who didn't look anything like Clint.

And in the 70's (when some of them were in their 30's), they also wore their hair much longer than Clint did (when he was still in his 30's), as you can also see in this LINK:

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So saying that BOOMERS looked like CLINT when they were 30 still doesn't work very well when making your point.





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Again, you're reading things into my post that just aren't there. Granted, while the sensitivity of boomers is an issue here, nowhere was I opining on that.

My point was, that I saw the wry humor in the post I was responding to and that poster's suggestion that the researcher was possibly motivated by jealous resentment, and I followed up on it and reinforced it. Simple as that. Get it now?

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So what's the motivation for the jealous resentment of the researcher???

Aren't you saying the researcher was JEALOUS of the BOOMERS because they're better looking than he is (by saying they looked like CLINT did when he was 30) ???

So their BETTER LOOKS leads to the jealous resentment of the researcher, and to the problematic reasoning that one finds in his FLAWED study.

Right???

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We're actually somewhat on the same page now.

I don't know why people always say someone is just jealous, as if to downplay it, when it can actually be a very destructive force. Did you know that the expression, "the evil eye", which is usually associated with witchcraft and being cursed, originated with the Greeks and was all about the glare of jealous resentment?

So yeah, considering its insidious quality, it's entirely conceivable that it could seep into and contribute to a flawed study.

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Motivation wouldn't flaw a study; only a flawed methodology would flaw a study.

I accept that motivation might lead to a flawed methodology, but it's still the methodology that's important and it's the methodology we would need to call into question rather than the motivation. Attacking the motivation is a logical fallacy known as ad hominem.

And the whole point of a peer-review is to check the methodology is robust and that the conclusions resulting from the methodology are logically sound.

That's how science works. So even if you could prove 'jealous resentment', it wouldn't invalidate the study.

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Here's an addition to a previous post back to you that you may not have seen due to the way it was EDITED and added on to it later on:

This other link points out the FLAWS in the STUDY:

https://www.insider.com/baby-boomers-are-more-sensitive-than-millennials-large-study-finds-2019-12

There were some caveats to the study. For example, the researchers relied on existing data sets to reach their conclusions rather than personally following people of different generations for decades. Chopik also noted that narcissism can be measured various ways and they only used one of those methods, which could have skewed the results.


So it's saying this study IGNORES the WARNINGS or RED FLAGS in regards to the study. And explains how it relies on DATA SETS to reach conclusions rather than following different generations of people for decades.

And it's also pointed out how there are VARIOUS ways to measure narcissism, but since only ONE METHOD was used, that could also result it the FLAWS found in the conclusion of it.

So what's the MOTIVATION for not paying attention to the ALARMS???

Why were DATA SETS used instead of following people for decades???

Why use only ONE METHOD when there were a VARIETY of other METHODS to chose from???

What MOTIVATES someone to chose unsound METHODS in the first place???

Was it a result of being LAZY??? Not wanting to do more WORK (which using other METHODS would have required) ???

Whatever the case may be, apparently someone did check the METHODS and found that the RESULTS of it were NOT SOUND.

And if a study was done to try and PROVE that another one that you didn't like the results of was wrong, then one could also see someone's MOTIVATION for doing one based upon JEALOUS RESENTMENT of another one that you didn't like the results of.

If someone did a study and found that most people didn't like the kind of cookies you were selling, for example, you could probably also hire someone to do another one that said MOST people in your study DID LIKE them.

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These caveats aren't flaws of methodology; they're just advising that a better quality (in this case meaning more up to date) dataset is theoretically plausible.

If there were flaws in the methodology, it would almost certainly have failed its peer-review unless there had been a catastrophic system failure.

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Sounds to me like the study studied DATA instead of PEOPLE themselves.

And since part of the study also says people had CHANGED by the time they reached age 40, the best thing to have done would have been to study or follow the people themselves instead of attempting to analyze them by using DATA that may not have even been as reliable.

Because instead of doing the RESEARCH themselves, they probably also relied on something that someone else had composed or put together (which would probably also not be as reliable or as dependable as if they'd composed it themselves).

Because how would they know whether or not what someone else had done or gathered together was free of FLAWS or not???

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The data was based on people. The point is invalid.

because instead of doing the RESEARCH themselves


They did do the research themselves; they just used some pre-existing datasets. A lot of science does this. Science is a conversation. There's no reason to believe the used datasets are flawed. The caveat is simply a head's up that better quality data is plausible.

Also: research is expensive and grants are difficult to come by. But happily, science is replicable. Someone else may follow the study up.

Because how would they know whether or not what someone else had done or gathered together was free of FLAWS or not???


The methodology almost certainly isn't flawed. If it was, the study would have failed at the peer-review stage and would not have been published. Journals need to keep their reputations good. One or two bad studies can destroy that reputation. The peer-review process is very rigorous. That's the whole point of it.

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But someone has also already pointed out the reason why this STUDY is FLAWED.

1) Because it used DATA SETS instead of actually following people (rather than personally following people of different generations for decades).

2) And because it also only used ONE METHOD to determine whether or not someone was NARCISSISTIC or not when there were also other METHODS that could also be used (they only used one of those methods, which could have skewed the results).

Therefore the METHODS that were used were FLAWED.

Right???

So what MOTIVATED those doing the STUDY to not use these other METHODS and leave themselves open to such CRITICISM???

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Nobody has pointed out that the study is flawed; someone - probably the researchers themselves - have added a caveat.

I can only provide you with information on how academia works; I can't force you to think academically. I will, however, point out that you are exhibiting the same kind of cherry-picking that you scorn in antivaxxer. The same mental processes and cognitive biases are involved.

You could just as easily have posted a link to a study on vaccine efficacy, invited people to ignore it and tell you how they felt about the subject. You could then have subjected the vaccine researchers to attacks over their 'motivation' and pulled up caveats to attempt to discredit the findings in a completely bogus, anti-intellectual manner.

You can't claim to be in favour of the science only when the science agrees with your own pre-existing ideas or prejudices.

It's exactly the same as the thinking behind antivax conversations. That you can't see this blind spot is a shame. But you can take a horse to water....

I'm bowing out again.

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CORRECTION:

This is something that someone else wrote (not me).


So the accusation that I'm cherry picking is not ACCURATE when someone else has written that paragraph.

Plus several other POSTERS have also been CRITICAL of the study as well, yet you have nothing to say to them about what they've said???

Again, it was someone else (not me) who wrote that CRITIQUE.

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Sheesh, I was completely indifferent to the study to begin with and just having a bit of fun with what someone else posted, and now it's morphed into this rigid, humorless argument.

The information contained here invalidates your opening claim, which looks like an 'either/or, black or white fallacy' to me. And notice how it says "flaws", plural, not just flaw. Jealous resentment would definitely fall into the category of Ethical Dilemmas near the bottom. https://libguides.usc.edu/writingguide/designflaws

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The information contained here invalidates your opening claim


No. It really doesn't.

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Is that the guy who built the study around a very narrow and inaccurate definition of hypersensitivity, which I discussed above?

He's working in the "soft" sciences to begin with and used a flawed premise, sounds like his whole study is bullshit.

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Yes it seems like he started out with the result he wanted and worked backwards from there.

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So it is with a lot of scientific studies that get media hype.

Studies that announce that bone broth or whatever stops aging and cures obesity turn out to be funded by the Bone Broth Council, political interest publicize the hell out of whatever supports their stance on climate change or the fucking plague, and there's this guy. Who defines "hypersensitivity" solely as one type of reaction, one that isn't favored by younger generations.

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You always have to ask who is doing the research and where are they are coming from.

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And who's funding the research. That's why most of the press about nutrition science is bullshit, every few years people will hear that oatmeal or kale or natural fats or whatever are the cure for everything from aging to love handles, and buy it by the ton. And then later studies come out debunking the original study, but the debunking doesn't get much press and by then the idea the idea of a "superfood" has sunk in.

What the hell, I like oatmeal, I'd eat it even if it were bad for me.

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^^ 👍👍

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The same people who whine the most about "sensitive" young people and stuff like "cancel culture", are the people that used to flip their absolute shit if a black person sat too close to the front of the bus or used the wrong water fountain, and who have spent literally half a century trying to cancel Jane Fonda. The same people who foam at the mouth over "the flag" not being respected, over people not standing for the pledge of allegiance, and people not being sufficiently "patriotic", and who whine about "the gays" taking over television.

I'll take this generation's "sensitivity" over that generation any day. At least this generation's "sensitivity" is a reaction AGAINST hate.

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Many BOOMERS were the HIPPIES from the 60's who were PRO (not ANTI) MINIORITY RIGHTS (called CIVIL RIGHTS). Those who didn't want to share the bus or the water fountain were from the 50's (when the BABY BOOMERS were still being born).

Perhaps it would also help to define SENSITIVITY???

https://sensitivityresearch.com/about-sensitivity/

Researchers define sensitive people as those who are more strongly affected by what they experience.

This can include how one is influenced by the physical environment but also social relationships, work conditions and upbringing, to give just some examples. Although everyone is sensitive to an extent, research has shown that people tend to fall into three different groups along a spectrum of sensitivity with about 30% classed as low, 40% as medium and 30% as high in sensitivity.

Importantly, although highly sensitive people are more likely to struggle under stressful circumstances, they are also especially receptive to positive and supportive experiences. Those who are low in sensitivity, on the other hand, tend to be more resilient when facing adversity but also benefit less from positive experiences.




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