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Have you ever known any guys who have done well with women and you’ve never understood why?


I’d say 9/10 times the guy is with a girl who is way out of his league. I think they’re just attracted to blind arrogance and mistake it for confidence.

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Struck out again, eh Buff?

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No, I just constantly see guys with girls way out of their league

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Yes, the guy is like 5 feet tall. How do they even notice him?

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I was trying to avoid this post, but it keeps popping up.

I know you don't listen to anyone who disagrees with you, but there is this thing that I have dubbed the Christensen effect, and that is where a man is very good looking. He's super attractive and then he opens his mouth. It's this amazing effect where with the more words that come out of his mouth, the more his face morphs into unattractive grossness and you can't remember why you ever thought him attractive in the first place.

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Yeah but do you really think that happens often enough to become a rule that women abide by? That they avoid attractive men entirely simply based on the assumption he will be like that? Doubtful.

I think it’s more selfish in nature. I think women want to be in control, they want to be the star of the relationship and not have to worry about being cheated on. The fact that they are not as visual as men makes this much easier.

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No, I didn't say that that happens with all attractive men.

The reverse is also true. I don't have a name for that effect, but it's the opposite. It's where someone who is just so-so looking can become someone so attractive the more time you spend with them.

I do find it sad how much time you spend obsessing over people's appearances.

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Looks only matter with people you don’t really know. Once you make a real personal connection with someone looks become irrelevant.

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This "league" you keep speaking of is purely based on aesthetics. You seem to be obsessed with looks and deem it wrong if a there is a mismatch in the looks department.

There is such a thing as a soul as well, not in the religious sense, but the essence of a person. Two people can hit it off, regardless of looks. Deal with it.

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No it’s not just looks, I always look to see what could have possibly attracted them to the guy otherwise and come up short. They are often total bums who treat them like shit.

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They are often total bums who treat them like shit.

I'm with you on that one.

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It must be Thursday.

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😂

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At first glance, yes but then it all makes sense for any or all of these reasons: the guy has money, the guy has some insane talent or successful resume, the guy is an alpha male with an entourage of other guys flocking around him to boost him up, the guy is connected in some way that can help the women succeed.

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If that were the case I wouldn’t have any issue, but very often they don’t meet any of the above criteria.

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Yes I know lot guys have sexual with wimin but no me. I wondar why

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Oh yeah, many. I knew a guy who was totally out of share, apparently wasn't attractive, never had money, was in his 20s without any ambition. I wouldn't say that this is supposed to be a criteria but: he didn't even have a driver's license. Still, somehow, he ALWAYS either had girlfriends or sex buddies. Never understood what was up with him. He had a lot of confidence, I guess.

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