There are also some crazy kooks on that forum. I posted for about two seconds one time 10 years ago, and abruptly left after this shocking incident happened.
Here's what happened. There was a thread asking people, "What was the biggest fight you had with a friend, and how did you make up?" Everyone posted, and it was the usual story (misunderstanding, bad day at work, etc.). Then a poster turned up and from the story she gave, it didn't sound like a mutual fight between friends; it sounded like mental abuse. Her story was something like, "I told my best friend I have a mental disorder; she screamed and ranted at me for a half hour, I started crying hysterically, and she walked out. But it's okay. A few days later, I apologized for being so selfish, and we became friends again." That was literally the whole story. There was no, "I called her a bitch a couple of times," or, "I slapped her," etc. That was it.
So, I posted how sorry I was that this happened and told her that it was wrong for her friend to do this and that she should dump her. Suddenly, Abused Girl turned on me, ranting that she hated people telling her that (apparently, she's been told this before???) and that it's "normal for friends to fight."
But it gets better. Then her friend comes on, starts attacking me, telling me "fuck your advice." Then the other posters at the Straight Dope start arguing with me that I was clearly mistaken about their friendship, since the "friend" had shown up to explain that nothing wrong happened. It just never occurred to them that this behavior on the part of the friend was stalkerish and pretty much confirmed some kind of abusive situation (have you ever heard of real life friends monitoring each other's posts on a forum???). That's when I got the hell out of there and never looked back.
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