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Have you had any experience with Indians/Indian culture?


I am on a group tour in Europe and more than half of the people are from India.

Generally, my experience with Indians in America has been relatively pleasant. But it has been markedly different on this trip. Every one of them has exhibited the same rude behaviors, no regard for personal space, pushing to get through even when not necessary, talking loudly on their cell phones in crowded areas, and just a sort of general aloofness. I’m trying to remain civil but it’s wearing on me, I now just try to isolate myself from them as much as possible.

Is this something to do with Indian culture? I’ve met plenty of native Indians in the states and hadn’t really noticed this. I guess it would make sense though, it is a country with a billion people and the most densely populated place on earth, in addition to being a developing country with widespread poverty. Still doesn’t really excuse it to me, some of these things would be obvious to anyone and they should be able to adapt after a short time.

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I asked out an Indian girl in my early 20's, she was so pretty I could have fallen in love!

She asked her dad if it was OK...I suspect Indian dads don't want their daughters dating non-Indian boys...
The answer was a firm 'NO!

I was all about her, she was ready to go but daddy killed it quick
so she backed off

I think a lot of immigrants to America have been through a ton of bad stuff and they just prefer to stick to their own
Not great for dating but I get it

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The arranged marriage thing is pretty odd to me but I suppose if the Groom has a fine paycheck and a loving personality it can work for certain cultures...Not for the rest of us but it probably saves everyone from romantic misadventures and heartbreaks, all of which were really lousy in my experience

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You tend to find two types of people (and this goes for most nations): -
The educated ones who take the time and trouble to learn the culture and language and are well behaved.
The uneducated rude ones.

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Bingo

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Yes, I've noticed that Indian tourists seem to be mostly made up of the rude part of the population of their country.

I think it probably has to do with the caste system. Wealthy Indians generally seem to feel a sense of entitlement. They can literally get away with murder.

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Well, the problem is, most Indians are too poor to even travel across their own country, much less to another one for a better life. Chances are, the only Indians you're going to meet are those from the upper classes, because they are the only ones who can really afford to get an education and move to another country.

I have met nice Indians before in the US, but many are still very ethnocentric. They believe they're better than everyone else, and don't look too kindly on white people, partially because of how India was carved up by colonial powers a century and a half ago. Racism isn't limited only to whites, believe it or not. I'm not surprised they treat Europeans like crap, since it's petty payback for what they did when India was a colony. Of course, these people forget that their host country (wherever it is in Europe) is being generous in allowing them to live and work there, but that's just a minor detail in their minds. Plus, they can get away with anything because any white person who complains will be called a racist and arrested instead.

As for the shoving and no regard for personal space, that's a product of living in an overcrowded country, where you're lucky to find space to breathe, let alone walk. It's normal to elbow people out of the way when traveling to the market, or going to work. They don't take it personally. As a product of the crowding, India is a very noisy place, so it's common to have to yell on the cell phone so the person on the other end can hear you over all the noise.

One thing that can help is to do research and find out where they congregate the most, so you can avoid them. You might still run into a few, but if you can stay away from their neighborhoods, it's not as much of a problem.

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For the most part I can't stand working with Indians and find them to be lazy and racist.

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