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How would you feel if your friend gave you this response after asking them a question about something?

posted 7 years ago by csweetleaf2 (3738)
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"I'm busy right now, I'll get back to you later" but never does

Also what is so rude about a friend giving you this response?

[–] GlenEllyn (21659) 7 years ago

I'm pretty forgiving, so I assume they're being truthful when they say they're busy. Not getting back to you? Sometimes they really do simply forget. Now, if it was a pattern of never getting back to me, I might just let the friendship fade away.

[–] csweetleaf2 (3738) 7 years ago

With me I try to give that person a benefit of a doubt and maybe truly believe they are busy and have a lot going on in their lives, I know I can easily assume and judge that this person could be shunning me or giving me the silent treatment but I also try to see things from their point of view.

[–] Culburn (3638) 7 years ago

Depends on the tenor of their voice. What does your gut tell you?

Unless you're afraid of response just ask your friend flat out.

[–] csweetleaf2 (3738) 7 years ago

I've had a friend who did that to me not once but three different times in a period of several weeks, since I've realized she didn't appear to want to associate with me anymore I ended up deleting her off of my Facebook to avoid further conflict

[–] Culburn (3638) 7 years ago

Try not to ruminate. Act/move your body. Call this person, or, clean, or, get out of the house, window shop, go for a walk, volunteer somewhere, get a P/T job.

[–] Otter (24464) 7 years ago

It might mean they're genuinely busy, or it might mean you're being annoying and they want to get rid of you without making a scene.

How annoying are you, in real life?

[–] csweetleaf2 (3738) 7 years ago

I do have a learning disability and I like seeing things from other people's perspectives.

[–] godewey (16472) 7 years ago

How many times?

If it's once don't worry about it.
If it's a continual thing then just move on.
You'll be better off.

We spend too much time worrying about what happened in the past rather than
focusing on the future or what's happening now.

[–] PeppermintHippo (369) 7 years ago

When something like this happens you should immediately get into your car and head over to there house to see if they’re actually busy. If you determine that they lied to you then barge through the front door and confront them and demand an explanation. If they try to kick you out or call the police then I recommend fleeing the scene first, then begin to smear them on social media, make sure to emphasize that this person is a huge liar. If you follow this advice it should take care of the problem.

[–] [deleted] 7 years ago

I think it depends on how important your question is and how busy they are.

If it was a pressing question about something that is troubling you then them ignoring you seems unsympathetic.
However if it was something like "what should I have for dinner" then they may just have been busy.
Two options come to mind. Either ask them outright or let the friendship go.

[–] GlenEllyn (21659) 7 years ago

Good points. As they say, it all depends.

[–] croft_alice (12180) 7 years ago

Not only friends.The same goes with the call center." I'll get back to you later",never does.