Let’s open up a bit.
Let’s tell each other one thing about each other .
I’m a grown man who still loses his inhaler a lot
I have impure thoughts about my mother in law. She is relatively young, only 10 years older than me and still very attractive. I am also always impressed with her work ethics; one of the only people I know of that could out work me in a week.
shareI have the same thoughts Iramet. Nothing wrong with that at all.
shareLol. I read a study that suggests about around 1/3 husbands admit to experiencing this at some point. I wouldn't say nothing is wrong with it. But I guess it would be worse depending how obsessive you became about it, or if you started act on the thoughts. I admit to at times giving it too much thought and acting on the thoughts (minimally), such as texting her when I had no real reason too. I also I admit that I am too much of a coward to ever push it too far and that it is not a lack of desire that is stopping me but fear of the possible fall out. That makes it much worse.
shareIt's just a silly guy fantasy and nothing more. Now if you did act on it... then... well I would wanna hear about it. :) One day at a Christmas party with the mother in law, she was a little drunk and planted a great big smooch on me. Didn't hate that. I don't think of you as a coward for not pushing it too far, just a smart guy.
shareI do think of it as cowardly. I am in a strange position, I was always a more 'aggressive' in my pursuit of women. When I got married I was seriously trying to tame myself. I have been married for less than 10 years now and have 2 kids with my wife. I always thought my mother in law was attractive but over the last year or so I have been noticing it more and more. Now I do love my wife and would never want to do anything to betray her, but I do know myself enough to admit where I would be weak. But my desire to spear my wife's feelings in such a matter is not what is preventing me from being more active. Fear of the consequences with little indication of benefit is the thing that is stopping me. Basically if I thought there was a chance at something coming of it, I would be less hesitant. And part of me wants there to be a chance of it. That is why I think it is cowardice that is stopping me from pursuing the thoughts more actively.
shareThat is a tough situation. Has your MIL shown any interest in you other than a typical MIL relationship? I think that is common in all long term relationships. You start to notice things more, such as attractions to other people. I think there is always a chance of something happening between two consenting adults. Are your MIL and your wife particularly close?
shareNo she has not shown any signs that I picked up on. At this point I have sort of compartmentalized it away and sort of said to myself I will do nothing more. If she does something, such as text me just to say hi or something, I will have to reevaluate the situation. And yes they are close but more as a friendship sort of deal. They do not talk about anything 'uncomfortable'.
shareIs her mother single? You should send her a text. Just say "happy Easter" or something with a smiley face. Get the ball rolling. I know what it is like to be in the spot your in. Nothing wrong with popping by for coffee or something like that.
shareNo she is married, not to my wife's father (deceased). But I do know that she is planning on leaving her current husband as soon as her second child finishes high school. They are basically estranged at this point.
Tempting, but no. I already decided I will not make any other moves until she does. I have done a few texts like that before and not gotten any kind of interesting replies. So It is better to leave well enough alone unless something new comes up.
But the 'itch' is still there
I sense this is a BS post.
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