now have 1 month left.
What do you do?
Everything has been planned the details are all set.
Time to have some fun.
Do you travel to places you've never seen?
Go to your favorite places?
Spend it with family and friends?
Do your bucket list or just go on a drunken, orgy filled month of debauchery ?
What are you doing in your last month?
Ironically, I was in this position decades ago, actually going to a funeral home and making prearranged plans. Now, here I am with survivor's guilt.
Why are you on this recent morbid kick anyway, dewey ? You kind of remind me of myself back then.
It's never to late plan for such things.
If you don't mind me asking what happened back then?
Just think of the movie, Joe Versus the Volcano, especially this scene : https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ej9w6KMn4Y0
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How would you find out about Alien life?
Maybe if you could find out while in Florence it would cross two things off your list.
That would be nice.
Normally if you only have 1 month to live, that means you are very ill and probably not strong enough to do all the stereotypical bucket list stuff. That last month is likely to be spent heavily medicated in a hospice situation. not "having fun".
People don't just go from perfect health to dead in a month, unless it is something unexpected like a car accident, and then they wouldn't know in advance that they only had one month to live.
But this is a realistic answer and not the comic book fantasy that you have in mind.
If you are talking about suicide, then even that is an unrealistic scenario. First of all why wait a month? If you are in enough pain to really want to die, then you would not want to wait a month. If you can still 'have fun', if you still enjoy things like travel and debauchery, then you're not suicidal. If someone is depressed enough to kill themself, they no longer enjoy any of their formerly favorite things. They aren't having 'fun'. If can still enjoy those things and can still have fun, then you might as well live.
That is one of the most intelligent posts that I have ever seen on the internet. Well done.
shareThanks.
All of these death-obsessed posts lately really seem like they come from someone who has never dealt with real death or real suicidal thoughts. Like the only experience they have with those concepts is from movies or comic books.
If people are just having fun and shooting the breeze, I guess enjoy yourself. I hate to be the bucket of cold water, but this bears no resemblance to real life and real death.
Do your bucket list while you are still young and full of life. Don't wait until you are dying, because you won't be able to do much of anything then.
PK I hope you know I respect the hell out of you.
I again am sorry for everything you had to go through. I've been there more than you could
possibly imagine. I've buried people closer to me than my parents.
It's extremely unfair to make the assumption that I've never dealt with this before.
Just based on a few posts on the internet. You don't know what I've been through in my life or
what I may be going through now for that matter.
Everybody deals with death differently. It shouldn't matter what way people do it as long as they
do deal with it. My way may not be your way and vice versa. Nobody's wrong. That's how we deal.
You're right though. This does not resemble real death. Real death can and is often uglier that
most people can imagine..
This isn't real life. This is a website where people come to get away from real life.
Dealing with it is something they don't teach you in school.
Nobody likes talking about death. You're on your own. Hopefully you're lucky enough to have
people in your life to help you through it. A lot of people don't have this. We all must figure our own
way when it comes to this.
I hope you take this as it was intended.
Dewey, are you familiar with Dr. Elisabet Kubler-Ross, the pioneer who created the field of Thanatology the study of death and dying? If not,I think you might find her work interesting. If yes, then I will go fuck myself for my unintentionally arrogant suggestion! Among her findings, which I find fascinating, she discovered that there is a distinct progression to a person's chain of reaction to the news that s/he is going to die. I don't mean the childhood's-end apprehension of one's mortality. I mean the time that your doctor tells you, "You have, at best, six months. There's nothing science can do. Please pay me before then. Thank you." That progression is anger, denial, bargaining, depression and acceptance. You're pissed off that you're going to die. You deny that you're going to die, and get, like, two million second opinions. You look for a loophole in your death sentence, like maybe a lifestyle change wherein you stop using heroin and switch to crack. You become clinically depressed, post on the internet a lot, find your life devoid of meaning, and death may start looking long like a good idea. And then you accept and embrace your fate.
But not without a New England clambake.
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Geez, you're kind of becoming a downer!
shareGeez, deal with it.
Or don't.
Like all this- the choice is yours.
Wow, you're agitated. Still depressed over me dumping you?
shareI thought you'd like that.
Dumping me?
Who is this again?
Have we met?
Yikes! Apparently it hit you really hard. I almost feel sorry for you. Almost.
sharePlease, I've been dumped by literally hundreds of people better than you.
Get over it.
To use my favorite quote
"you were like a mustard burp, momentarily tangy but now lost in the wind"
Seems quite fitting.
Get an RV, some friends and travel around having fun and partying. I think the living wake idea is really cool too. To have a party to say good bye to everyone and give away your belongings. I would hope my last month would be in the summer.
shareNow you're talking.
Just one big month long party especially if it's in the summer.
Do you have any cool stuff to give away or just a bunch of regular stuff ?
Sentimentally cool to me.. it would be just little things. I am very much a minimalist so I don't have a lot of things. I would just like to give something for someone to remember me by. Be great in your final moments to be outside when you actually go...
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Yes, I love this idea too. Why not have people have a "wake" while the person is living? At least way then they can say goodbye. I actually saw someone who did this on the news and I think it is brilliant. Death doesn't have to be so sad, although it is.
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No I haven't. Is it a theme like this?
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