I hate men
Nothing they do makes any damn sense. I swear to God that I'm going to abuse every guy I get with now because guys are selfish judgemental jerks. All of them!
shareSome guys like to be abused, as long as it's the right kind ;)
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Sounds like you're meeting the wrong type of guys or not worth your time to begin with.
'I'm going to abuse every guy I get with'
Why are you still 'getting with' all these men if you hate them? Why put yourself through that?
Just avoid them and live your life.
Because I'm a straight woman that likes sex with good guys but every time I think that he's the right guy something awful always happens. It's like this song...
"There's a hidden meaning to everything he says. Every close encounter, every kiss every caress. Even the truth has got that bitter taste of a lie. I can see him dance away now. Dancing away from me."
"Because I'm a straight woman that likes sex with good guys"
There's your problem. You have no self-respect, so you attract men who don't respect you either (they're not good guys). Whether you're a troll, or not, the best advice is wait until marriage. If the gentlemen feels you're worth waiting for, there's a good chance he'll respect you during marriage, as well.
Ouch, the burn!
shareI am not waiting until marriage. I tried that it doesn't work.
shareIt seems the alternative isn't working too well for you. There are no guarantees in life, but there are some choices that are generally better than others.
http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/health/news/8226959/Couples-who-dont-have-sex-before-marriage-are-happier-study-claims.html
Dagger speaks the truth but it's not about sex, it's about self respect. Something about you is attracting a certain type of man. I used to have the same problem but with women.
shareBarclay, if you're about 35, I'll date you and you can beat me up.
shareYou sound like an idiot bringing your problems to this forum. (?)
That's certainly a huge turn around from what I saw this morning! I thought you was so lonely and all alone. Were you just messing with people?
I'm leaving this pity party.
Pity party? Weren't you the one complaining to me about your husband? You need to be grateful that you have a husband. Being single sucks.
shareYes. Your pity party. I know it sucks to be alone. I also know that there are some guys who just want sex and nothing more, so they lie just to get you into the sack.
There are guys who want more..... with a person with a positive disposition.
" Weren't you the one complaining to me about your husband? You need to be grateful that you have a husband."
Was I complaining? I could have sworn that I was joking around....."trying to keep it light"???
I also believe I told you that I am grateful for my husband. Apparently, you didn't get that part while wallowing in your despair.
I am sorry that you are feeling bad. I also meant it when I said that I hope that you eventually meet someone nice. You may just find that when you get over the "I Hate Men" blues.
Not all of them,Barclays...there are still good guys in this world,not many...but still...
shareYeah I was just angry. I feel like nice girls get treated like crap because we're too nice.
Okay thank you for your help. You're a good guy Croft. Sorry I was mean to you.
It's ok,Barclays...i'm not easy to offend,many have tried,but failed.
shareI wish every guy were like you, Croft.☺☺
sharewhat a phony.... save this for "judge" judy or "doctor" phil
shareLol don't stereotype all of us. I'll admit, some of us are pigs and assholes. But so are some women. You've just got to hang in there until you find the right one :)
shareThanks. Maybe I was a little harsh. It's just that finding the right guy takes so dann long.
shareAgree. Pigs and assholes isn't a gender-specific thing.
shareShall we design a very smart nuclear bomb sponsored by Apple and call it "iNuclear" or something and wipe out all men with it like that? :)
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Maybe, but what do (the civilized and justifiably complaining) people have or are able to do about it? And in this battle of wits, who will be RIGHT and why?
P.S. You should all one day check out this documentary by Cassie Jaye called "The Red Pill" (2016) as it looks at and deals with many of the issues you folks over here are not only discussing now, but probably have thought a LOT about, and what's weird, it was directed by a woman who herself is not only (or rather was) a feminist but who also received great respect for doing work that exposed the many common injustices performed by men against women or other repressed minorities, as well as legal and societal failures of many a variety to deal with them on both a practical and theoretical levels. It obviously doesn't offer a CONCLUSION or say "this is the right way and this is how it should be ALWAYS", but surprise suprise, neither does life, although it does offer at least a few alternative ways and aspects of thinking about some or other problems and shows that, even if its to a minor extent after all, things in life are never black and white simple, despite what movies, common people and others may have led to believe.
"Yup,just ask all the men who are only allowed to see their kids once a fortnight whilst shelling out a ton of maintenance."
I don't care about which parent has custody of their children. It can be the man or the woman. The one who only sees them on weekends, every two weeks, or as you say, "once a fortnight" should be paying for their maintenance even if it means "shelling out a ton".
I have never been divorced, but my husband and I did raise a son together. We do have friends who did divorce. Every one of those non custodial parents griped and cried about the amount of money the court set for child support.
It makes no difference how often you see the children either.
All my husband and I could do is to roll our eyes. These pissers and moaners are getting off CHEAP! Raising a child is a whole lot more expensive than the paltry "ton" that these non custodial parents are ordered to pay each month. Clothing, Food, School. Activities.... that is just the basics.
I have no sympathy for these pissers and moaners. If they can't take care of the children they made, they should have thought twice about making them!
Agreed.
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Over 2000£...not bad
share"It makes no difference how often you see the children either."
Emphatically,yes it does.I can only presume that you've never had the absolute heartbreak of not seeing your child at the whim of a selfish ex.I've seen it and believe me when I say it matters."
Perhaps I should make myself clear by what I meant... Of course, it is hard on a father or a mother when they are cut off from their children. What I meant when I said that it doesn't matter how often you see your children, is that it shouldn't have anything to do with how much child support the non custodial parent pays. children aren't bargaining chips. They have to have a roof over their heads, clothes on their backs and something to eat.
The woman and the situation you described sounds appalling! Talk about greedy! I definitely agree that something is terribly wrong with that picture.
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Yes, on a fair system, I think we can agree.
Here in the States, most couples, married or divorced, do work outside the home. No doubt, I am sure that there are women who don't work and sit on their fat behinds here as well. There are plenty of men who do that too. I'm going by what I see and hear.
As for Barclays' I have attempted to do my part. I gave her a hug and some Rocky Road ice cream..... internet style, of course. Hopefully, she is in a better frame of mind now, and ready to get out there and get the job done!
"It's very hard to put aside those negative feelings towards an ex for the sake of the kids,I wish more could do it."
I do too. It's rough on *everyone* when a marriage or relationship falls apart, to the point where it's best for everyone to part ways. Kids usually feel responsible anyway, even if neither parent intimated in any way that they were.
Not only in this type of situation, but in all conflict-ridden situations, I really wish conflict-resolution were something that was taught in ALL countries. It's a critical life skill, which you'd think would be obvious, but it's not taught, and you hear very little about it.
I know Barclays put me on ignore long ago, but if she hadn't and could read this, what I'd say to her is to not put ALL her focus on the men she's encountered being arseholes. If that's what's happened, she's playing a part in it and it's *not* just because "nice people/women" get taken advantage of. Take a look at yourself and your own behavior, too, because that's playing an important part in why you're attracting these types of men. That's simply the way it works.
I acknowledge several of us were suspicious of her right from the start, due to circumstances and timing, and count myself as one guilty of that. I regret it.
But in addition, her part was becoming and remaining -- until perhaps now -- very defencive and unpleasant. GoDewey gave her excellent advice: some diplomacy and tact goes a long way towards rehabilitating an initially incorrect perception. Same goes with relationships.
I thought you were a guy.