Do you think a straight/non gay actor can be good and convincing in a gay role.
One performance that doesnt convince me is
Marlon Brando in Reflections In A Goldeneye (1967)
Interesting film, but Brando wasnt very good at playing a gay man, he wasnt in real life and the role was offered to actor Montgomery Clift who was gay and closeted, like the character in the film, but he died before production.
I think if someone is "too masculine" they're a dead giveaway. Oh that guy must get all the ladies! Or is that the idea? I also think as a culture we over emphasize the need for intercourse. We put all our cards down on love. Why not put all of our love into what we do? Real love is rare. I think most people choose to be in a relationship because they have this obsessive tendency to be needed. Or they have an issue and can't keep squid-ward in they jaws. and knock a chick up. End up living a miserable life married to some broad that doesn't love them.
We have what we seek, it is there all the time, and if we give it time, it will make itself known.