From your other posts I agree, we're pretty simpatico on pretty much everything, aside from a few minor issues.
It's OK, we don't have to agree on everything, just as long as we respect each other or at least try to understand where each of us is coming from, I think it's fine. It's actually good to have disagreements and argue. This not only makes life more interesting, but it always gives you an opportunity to hear another point of view and maybe learn something new. You might even discover that you were wrong about something and change your views. I think this is a good thing. It improves us as human beings.
How do you know that you're not talking to someone who is directly affected by those words, when you use them online?
It's not so much of whether I know they are affected or not, it's more that I don't care. I believe being able to use these words is more important than someone's feelings. I believe that adults should be able to hear these words without losing their shit and throwing a tantrum. I do however recognize that they are not always appropriate in every context so one should be mindful of that. But that has more to do with etiquette and courtesy rather than some woke prohibition.
Having said that, If I'm talking to someone and they are being nice, but ask me not to use some of these words because it really bothers them, and they explain to me why, I will often accommodate them (assuming they give me a really good reason and not just because they're oversensitive pussies). However again, I do this out of courtesy and only for them. I will still use these words with other people.
But... Even for those people that I do accommodate, it will bother me that I can't use those words around them, so even though they might be nice and I like them, I will most likely just avoid them. I can't have any friends that are bothered by the words I use. I have to feel free around them.
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