You challenge me? Oh please, we are two people who disagree on a word, I don't have time really to invest much more time in this conversation. So are you saying we should go through the episodes of "Insecure" and record the number of uses of the n-word? No need. I believe you that there may be a hundred instances. We just disagree on whether the context was positive or negative. Unless we can agree on that, the exercise is moot. I can give you an example off the top of my head.
Issa says to Molly, "You *beep* that n-word." This is neutral to positive because it explains why Molly was so down on Jared previously but now is in the kitchen cooking and has nothing but glowing things to say about his attributes. Issa thinks that Jared is good-looking and a good dude, and has been telling Molly how stupid she is for deregarding him.
Lawrence to Issa, "You *beep* that n-word?" This is neutral to negative because it is in the context of an argument in which they are discussing Issa's infidelity. I am not sure that Lawrence meant any disrespect towards Daniel personally, he just happens to be the dude that that Lawrence's girlfriend cheated with.
So, in the following clip, would you say that the reference to the n-word is positive, neutral, or negative? I would put it in that neutral category.
https://bossip.com/1441887/chris-brown-responds-to-aziz-ansari-calling-donald-trump-the-chris-brown-of-politics-video/
You may feel that a black woman loving the n-word is absurd and stupid. That's your opinion and you are welcomed to it, yet you are so entrenched in your feelings that you don't even stop to ask why I love that word.
As far as my question "you're not one of those Hotep n-words, are you?" You are right, that was mean-spirited. It was not meant to be positive or complementary. I did somewhat intend it to be funny because there is a scene regarding that in the show Insecure, when they are discussing dating apps. I must say that that in my personal experience, and those of some of my friends, the following statements are truth:
Hoteps use words like metaphysical even though they have no clue what it means.
They talk about things being 360 degrees because it sounds better than just saying circle.
They see conspiracies because that explains why they’re not successful and if you disagree with them you’re an agent.
They want Black power but only for Black hetero men.
They call their legions of fatherless litters’ nation building while blaming all of his four baby mamas for him not going to see his kids.
They know all about Egypt, but know nothing about West Africa, which is where their ancestors are from.
Their social media names contains Rah, Bey, Imhotep, or EL even though their legal last name is Johnson.
They believe White men are the devils, but his daughters are marriage material and are good for breeding.
They believe feminism is a tool to emasculate Black men; because equal pay for Black women, family planning and a life without domestic violence are bad things.
They tell you marriage to one woman is an Eurocentric institution and are pro polygamy, but are against polyandry.
They want a Black woman to submit, but go to work to support him too.
They tell you a Black woman should uplift her man while sacrificing her needs for the community aka him.
They tell you Black men have it harder than Black women while failing to see that Black women are victimized by both nonBlacks and Black men.
They share all kinds of cartoons, movies and memes depicting Black men as weak, light skinned Black women with natural hair lifting up Black men or dark skinned Black women as hood rats with children who are tools of the White man.
They call Black men who love, protect and uplift Black women simps.
They insist that no one outside of the Black community wants Black women.
They always point to Black women’s unmarried rate, but fail to discuss Black men having the highest unmarried rate.
They are OK when Black men marry nonblack women while Black women who marry out are bed wenches.
They tell you they love ALL Black women, but she has to be the right looking kind. She must be Black but not too Black. Only light skin and long curly hair need apply. The memes they share show it.
They will smoke a bowl with a bottle of Crown Royal in one hand and a 10-piece McNugget in the other (with barbecue sauce), but if you offer them a pork chop, they will boastfully tell you, “Nah, man… I don’t eat the swine.” They always stop eating pork. Except they call it “swine.”
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sunsetinny
8 years ago
You said:
"You may feel that a black woman loving the n-word is absurd and stupid. That's your opinion and you are welcomed to it, yet you are so entrenched in your feelings that you don't even stop to ask why I love that word."
Me: you already explained your reasoning in another post.
Chris Brown post is negative, even though he is smiling. At first I thought it was neutral, but then he said "can't catch a break", which is negative, so his use of the n-word was negative. Unless he was being sarcastic. The clip is too short to really determine his intent. Context matters.
According to your definition, I am not a so called "hotep n-word". Did some hotep n-word do something to you, because you definitely have strong feelings about the subject?😣
As a representative of African American men, I apologize to you for any slights done to you by a so-called "hotep n-word", even if I don't fall into that category. Try to relax a little bit. 😃
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