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Are we supposed to hate the dad?

posted 9 years ago by Fangs78
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I mean...he is a moaning a hole that thinks his life sucks, all the while he's the reason it sucks in the first place.

He demands that his son be better at school, but doesn't do jack to help him do it. In fact, he actively sabotages him. He lies to his wife all the time and even sabotages her potential career because he can't be assed to help around the house.

Jealous of his neighbour. Lies to everybody. Has no backbone....need I go on?

He's pathetic.

[–] piperatthegate 9 years ago

To understand the dad, you have to understand where he comes from. Keep in mind that this takes place in the 1970s. The shows main focus is what it was like to be a lower middle class family in the early 70's. The dad is a Korean war veteran. He was drafted when he was young and spent the best years of his youth in the Korean war(instead of going to college). Ask anyone who knows anything about the subject, the way the American government treated veterans when they came home was not great. They were pretty much forgotten about. A lot of them ended up with PTSD or alcohol/drug addictions. Or ended up with low paying jobs to support themselves and their families. Which it seems is what happened to the dad in this show.

[–] Fangs78 9 years ago

Well sure. Doesn't make me like him any bit more, though. It is his children fault that he got a *beep* hand dealt? Nope. His wife? Nope. But those are the ones he is taking it out on.

It's just annoying to watch. To be honest. I don't find it funny to watch a sociopath harass his family

[–] tlm557 9 years ago

It is 100% real though... most people I know lived just like that.

College? Military or not, college wasn't a reality to most natural-born White Americans unless you had the money upfront. The same is true throughout the 80s and 90s as well.

I am White, graduated in the late 80s... I had no option to go to college because I didn't have cash in my pocket. Everyone says that everyone has every opportunity to attend. That is absolutely not true. To get a student loan or grants, you must have your parents' 1040 forms to apply, or you must have supported yourself 100% (that means living on your own too) for two years before you can apply and get help. With a parent who refused to share or provide his 1040 tax form, that meant no college for any of us (me and my siblings). That's the way many fathers were at that time. I've explained this before and people say that I should have gone "online" to get his 1040... well, they are so smart... when I graduated, the internet did not exist yet and there was no way to do this. There was no way to even apply without my father's support. That meant no college.

[–] devildog1982z 9 years ago

It's just annoying to watch. To be honest. I don't find it funny to watch a sociopath harass his family

That's clearly your issue. You also don't seem to know what a sociopath is.

[–] ian_spurlock 9 years ago

Yes, what a jerk.

That douchebag should immediately tutor his son after coming home from an 8 hour shift.

He should also do all the cleaning and grocery shopping too. What an insensitive *beep*

[–] tlm557 9 years ago

yeah :)

also, everyone knows that your parents couldn't tutor anyway... remember how all the math had to be written out different from what they knew... I do.

[–] jpowers4667 9 years ago

I love him. Aside from the fact that this is Burr/his comedic embellishment for his actual father, I see the dad as a by-product of his era. A guy who works hard, has taken crap his whole life, and life keeps giving him a giant middle finger. He hilariously bitches and moans about everything, but at the end of the day, you know he loves his family. He means well; he just has a hilarious Irish temper.