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Why are so many people willing to hang around for last act?

posted 10 years ago by sexandthechitty
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I totally TOTALLY understand the "this is MY home, Im not doing anything wrong, Im not gonna let MY NEIGHBOR BULLY ME OUTTA MY NEIGHBORHOOD!!" mentality- especially if you live in a picturesque area or home, or in a "in high demand" home buy/rental area, or have the house of your dreams built from ground up, were part of the process as you helped design the plans then watched it all come to fruition on the empty lot of land you bought.

Totally. You wanna fight for your right. Stand your ground. Show em who's boss.

but at some point dont you stand back and say "THIS ISNT WORTH IT" isnt worth my familys safety, our mental state, our overall livlihood and wellbeing?? Seriously , isnt it "enough is enough " when you are living day in and day out in constant fear, always having high anxiety which always puts you on edge so you can never enjoy yourself, always having to watch over your shoulder, or feel like a prisioner in your own home? How fun could that possibly be when your quality of life is no quality at all? Is ALL that misery worth "winning" ? is it worth your "pride" still being intact or worth it just to show everyone youre "making a stand" is it worth that fight? Yes, YOU shouldnt have to be the one to move or be chased out of your own neighborhood, but do you want to be right or be happy?

Sometimes you do what you need to do to keep your loved ones safe and happy.... to have the best life you can live. Do you really want to waste it being consumed with fear or ANGER by being in a bitter battle with neighbors? Even if THEY end up moving- THEY still know where YOU live and if they are looneytunes enough for you and your family to be in this much grief then it isnt far fetched they'd be looneytunes enough to come back and get revenge.

I get that for some people its not as easy as just "selling the house and renting in the meantime " or "picking up and moving by renting another house" or "staying with Mom and Dad or a friend until everything is figured out" ..... ..........but isnt it though? Cant it be that easy, esp if your lives are on the line? WE MAKE IT HARDER THAN IT IS by our egos and worrying "what will happen" if they make that decision to move and have to switch school districts, will the kids be mad, or it'll be harder to take care of Grandma when we move an extra mile away or living in an apartment with 4 people until the house sells or whatever scenario we are inconvenienced with. When the big worry should always be "what will happen" if you STAY or dont do anything counter-productive about the psycho neighbors. You wont even HAVE A LIFE for things to incovenience you with. There is no price you can put on your safety and happiness. You MAKE IT WORK. you put the steps in to getting out of the situation or resolving it so you can have more time having a happy life.

Am I missing something here? I dont get how some people can just sit in this misery and waste away while putting themselves thru such torment that they actually stoop to their neighbors level by acting and behaving just as bad by playing their game as a willing participant?Im always FLABBERGASTED at the amount of evil the problem neighbors exhibit, but Im also flabbergasted at how long people are willing to take the abuse and how long they are willing to hang out to see if anything happens. Hint: if you remotely feel there is a chance your neighbor could snap.... that is a sign that it very well could happen. LEAVE!!! however you choose to make it happen, just make it happen for crying out loud!

[–] Tornado-chaser 10 years ago

Easier said than done. As you said, even if they move they might be crazy enough to come back after you. Unfortunately, they're likely crazy enough to come after you if you are the one that has moved. Once you are on the radar of someone so deranged, there really is no safe place. It's sad but true. But the level of depravity in Curtis Thompson was so extreme he killed a police officer on his doorstep. It went beyond just the neighbors. This is why so many people stay and gun up. I will admit I was a little shocked that the Giesenhagen family portrayed in tonight's episode hadn't at least obtained a weapon.
Several of these episodes have shown that the people actually were looking at other properties or in the process of moving, making it all the more tragic.

[–] GraceFromSoCal 9 years ago

I hear you, sexandthechitty, really I do. I think you're making excellent points. As I sit here now, at 50+, in my house that I own outright, and not wanting for anything, it all sounds so logical and reasonable. Why stay somewhere if you're miserable?!

However, I also know that it's not always a simple matter of packing up and moving. Back when my husband and I were struggling financially, it would have been IMPOSSIBLE to just up and move [from one rental house to another]. Not only were we struggling financially, but our daughter was in school, I was in college--which we were paying for as I went, so we ended up 100% free of student loans --we had a houseful of pets, my husband and I were working, and EVERY CENT was accounted for each week. There would've been no possible way to suddenly break a lease, AND find another rental house that would accommodate us and our menagerie, AND come up with first and last months' rent plus another security deposit. It may not have been possible to find a place on a moment's notice in the same school district for our daughter, and I certainly wouldn't have wanted her to start a new school mid-year.

So while I see the point you're making, and I basically agree, I also understand that it's not always that easy to just move.

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[–] sexandthechitty 9 years ago

OH MY GOODNESS!!! YOUR EXPERIENCE SOUNDS LIKE MY NIGHTMARE! Seriously every neighbor from he!! stereotype you had all at once! THE WORST is when you feel trapped in your own home because you cant just leisurely go out front to get mail or have coffee on the patio or whatever because you are afraid of being caught by the busy body neighbor that oversteps boundaries and will flag you down and talk to you for an hour. HOW are some people like that? They cross the line and seem not to get the hint! Ugh....and then finally you get a little raged inside like "this is bs...im not gonna be a prisioner in my own home" as before youd stay inside in order to avoid contact because we cant simply put our foot down and seem rude to people and say to our neighbor 'you know what Jane, I gotta run back inside" or "im just looking for alone time" because those types of people seem to take offense in a major way...so finally you dont want to be a prsioner in your own home and go out and start bracing yourself for confrontations and either way a leisurely trip outside to the car and back you have to plan an escape route, brace for hurting her feelings, what you are gonna say...etc ayiyiyi haha

can you tell Ive been in that same situation before? Im sorry you had to leave your home behind but good on you for doing what needed to be done to have some peace and normalcy!

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[–] GraceFromSoCal 9 years ago

Wow. Your stories, sexandthechitty and oboingo76, make me EVEN MORE GRATEFUL than I usually am to have normal, nice neighbors that I'm on good terms with!

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[–] EmilyTheDramaQueen 9 years ago

Yeah it is easier said then done especially if you bought your house. You can't just move from a place that you still have to make mortgage payments on. This is easier if it's your apartment neighbor bothering you, you can just complain to the landlord or request to be moved to a different building.

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