Always in my face as soon as I pull up, expecting car rides, wanting me to mow their lawn, having grandkids who trespass on my lawn, getting drunk and showing themselves, starting drama, calling me late at night and so on. Enough to make a person want to go crazy. But I dont. I just let it go because it's not worth it to end up like a lot of these people.
"Duh. Your the idiot. Not me."
Some people can let things go and some can't. People have different personalities - the differences between my sisters and I, for example. They tend to let things go to the extent of allowing themselves to be disrespected, used,and sometimes abused. They vent to the family about their issues. I,on the ontherhand,will let some things slide, but if the behavior continues and; in particular, I get tired of such behavior and/or become aware that the person(s) will continue their behavior if they view me as a pushover then I speak up. I can only take so much. Wrong is wrong. Standing up and speaking up for oneself does not equate to becoming like these horrible neighbors. There are ways to communicate one's concerns civilly and respectfully, which is the route we've seen many neighbors on the show take. However, some people are just crazy, some are narcissists,and some people are just bullies and don't like the word "no."
When I was a young teen, I began to understand the bully mentality. After years of keeping quite and being easy-going to NOT ruffle any feathers, I learned some hard lessons and my personality dramatically changed. I began to speak up for myself, and I speak up when I see wrong being done to others. I don't like being weak and feeling helpless. You give bullies an inch and they'll take a mile - they don't change if there's no reason to do so. My thinking is if someone wants to go ape-sh*t on me then,they'll be in for a rude awakening because I will not just go along or allow them to treat me (or others) badly. I never go looking for trouble, but if someone wants to bring it....then bring it.
I understand your view and I'm in no way criticizing you or your choices. I'm just explaining how I see the matter and the route that I choose to take.
ilovejuliandfefe, I have to ask about your sig:
"Duh. Your the idiot. Not me."
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