So what was wrong with Nina ?
I didn't get it why Nina committed suicide ?
I expected a lot from this movie :( but i got very disappointing , the only reason for me watching it was Outstanding acting by Jennifer Aniston.
I didn't get it why Nina committed suicide ?
I expected a lot from this movie :( but i got very disappointing , the only reason for me watching it was Outstanding acting by Jennifer Aniston.
Nina was also suffering from chronic pain, though the cause of it was never explained. She had also lost the ability to do some of the most basic types of maternal tasks for her son. One of the most haunting things about this movie, though, is that we don't have any way of knowing for sure what was happening in Nina's head. Some people might be able to deal with chronic pain like Nina's plus whatever else might have been depressing her, while other people might not be able to. Everybody's neurochemistry is different.
shareThanks for the explanation..
shareMany people have no idea what it's like living with chronic pain. It can literally drive you insane and sink you into a well of despair. I know because I've been there myself. And maybe the pain for Nina was so relentless she just couldn't take it anymore.
shareShe was suicidal
shareAs someone with fibromyalgia, I can tell you that most of us at least contemplate suicide. The number one killer of fibromites is suicide. Living with chronic pain and fatigue is extremely difficult. Things that most people take for granted - waking up without pain, sitting down, getting out of a chair, walking from one room to another, being able to bake a cake from scratch, making meals, going out to run errands, going to work, playing with your kids, etc., are often impossible for us. We make plans with friends, but then can't keep them, because the pain we're in is too much. We are always in need of a place to sit, because standing is so draining.
Add all sorts of other stressors that inevitably happen in life - money problems, fights with spouses, demands of kids, car trouble, job-related stress, etc., and you feel lucky if you can get out of bed, get dressed and walk to another room in the house.
Rjbmuse- you always hang in there! I was relieved somewhat when doctors finally put a name to my problems, systemic lupus. I cannot imagine fibros finding that relief knowing that so many will deny it's existence. I've studied it and have found it's not that doctors deny there's something happening, they dispute the category in which fibromyalgia is placed. In doing that the media and others have misunderstood this to be a denial. There's certainly no denying something horrible is taking place and I'm sorry that all of you have had to deal with sigma along with illness and pain. I hope you are able to find healing soon. Many blessings sent your way.
sharerjbmuse-1, hang in there, I wish you the best of lucks. I don't suffer from what you're going through but with depression and I know that for those that don't suffer from a certain illness, can't fully understand it. Just hang in there and I hope that you're able to come out of this stronger. Best of lucks.
shareSuicide from chronic pain is on the rise in the US. Probably from the strict laws aimed at abusers that hurt users more often. But it's also from the continued spread of lies that taking pain medication is somehow evil and only used by the weak. Granted Claire misused her meds but any sensible pain specialist would've had her medicated and followed properly. Especially for the long term effects of what she went through. Also, a great example, though faux, of why pain specialist should have a background in psychology not anesthesia. I'm frankly tired of pain meds being portrayed in this light. I was Nina and lucky for me methadone gave me my life back and since taking it I have never once considered taking my life in hopes of ending my physical pain. Something I could not say previously. And that should outrage people! We have the means and knowledge to help ease the pain but make it so difficult to get it that suicide becomes a viable option!! Shame on us!! This movie ended foolishly, imo, because it never once suggested how she might handle her pain in other ways. You cannot just grin and bear it. I t wears you down physically and mentally. I realize it was written by a man who has every right to think meds are evil http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2962358/The-true-story-Jennifer-Aniston-s-Cake-movie-s-scriptwriter-inspired-brutal-murder-brother-s-wife-baby-daughter-mother-law.html
but what happened in his family is rare. My husband had an awful, life threatening reaction to a prescription once but it caused us to be cautious not deem all prescription drugs as evil and by extension the users evil doers. Until one lives in chronic pain you can't even think to empathize or understand. There is nothing comparable. It is not like the flu or having someone sit on your chest or even labor pains because all of those things are surmountable and most importantly, have an ending. Sadly, like the poster who asked about sex, those living in chronic pain live under constant scrutiny and judgement. It's crazy. Do not think you know someone's pain, do not think you understand their life and never, ever compare my pain to yours. Those are the Golden Rules. But I sure would appreciate it if just one person would do justice to the lives saved and restored by pain medication and stop this endless cycle of hate, misinformation and demonization by writing about how pain meds transformed and saved their life! Without pain meds there would be so many more suicides!! So many more! Can you imagine what pain, endless, intolerable, night into day back into night again pain Nina must have felt to choose such a painful and absolutely successful way to end her pain instead of living out her days, however miserable, with her beautiful son and loving husband? Yet this goes on all the time in the real world. Sadly, the movie missed out on making a great point in that growing failure of our country to help and support those in chronic pain and focused on Claire's abuse instead. Perhaps that's why so many found the movie to be lacking. It's only purpose was to once again decry the evils of prescription drugs and like those before it fail to offer alternatives to how she was now going to live a better, more upright life while still in unimaginable pain.
Thank you smcbee27 for your comments. I was really enjoying Cake until of course they had to make her an "addict" As soon as she was shown getting her pill stash behind the picture, I stared to get very disappointed. Her acting was so spot on for someone with chronic pain, you hardly ever see a true look inside the life of someone in pain. But they had to go the route of every movie,TV show and portray anyone taking pain medication as an addict.
I've suffered with chronic pain since 1998. I've been on opiates since 2001. I have a pain doctor that works with me and helps me get the right dose to take the edge off. I have a set prescription which I take every day. In every movie they alway show people just popping pills with no schedule. They carry the pills around and pop them like candy. It doesn't work like that if you are under a doctor's care. You get a set amount that has to last you a certain time. A person with her amount of pain would have a doctor managing her pain. The doctor would work with her and help her get to a place where she could function. I just hate it that every one that is in pain in movies always abuses them.
I can relate to laying in the car as my wife drove me to my appointments. Driving is the worst. All the pillows in bed looks just like my bed. I can't sleep with my wife because it's impossible to get comfortable without taking the whole bed.
One thing I really would like to set straight. Most people that suffer from chronic pain (I think a lot of people don't even understand what that term means) are seeing a pain doctor that really wants to help them function. This whole, you must live with the pain and if you take meds, you're a bad person is just plan bull. I tell people that give me grief about taking meds,try and live in my body for a week. Then realize my pain never goes away. I don't "get better" Another fact is I have never felt "high" on my meds. And I have to take a high doses to do the job. Taking pain medication when you are in severe pain takes the edges off, but it doesn't make me feel anything close to high.
It's so upsetting that people in pain are expected to just live with it, yet you wouldn't take a diabetics insulin away, or a person's high blood pressure meds away. The side effects of many drugs are much more dangerous then pain medication as long as there taking as prescribed.
jlc, thank you for your post. I live with chronic pain and have been seeing a PM Dr. I have had so many injections and nothing seems to work. The pain rules my life. I too have never gotten high on pain meds, they just help me to function, My current meds just soften the pain but if I move around it comes back. Drs. don't like it or they make you feel like a addict. I must say it is very difficult living with pain.
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Do you mind me asking about the methadone? My pain specialist just put me on it after 20 years of no relief from any narcotics, nerve pain, 6 back surgeries etc. I am in week 2 and not feeling any better. Wondering how much longer it will take or if he needs to adjust it up already?
because she was living in constant pain. suicide (and attempts) among people living with constant chronic pain are not unusual.
shareHer suicide note said "Positive MS" which I believe means that she was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis. Correct me if I'm wrong--I had to reverse the dvd and play in slow motion to be able to read the note.
shareThe only thing I saw on her note was "Forgive Me"
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