Low Self Esteem

Perhaps....But.... sometimes you just want a shag or a cuddle or a no strings attached moment. It would have been worse if she did it because she wanted him back. This way she has what she wants with relatively zero chance of it blowing up in her face. Fellow copper / local fellah would have run the risks.

Don't forget they didn't split up because they hated each other or because they cheated on each other. The reason was very specific to them. The pain. They were obviously still friendly. Maybe they never fell out of love. I can't imagine what going through what they went through would do to a couple.

It could also be viewed as a tad misogynistic and old-fashioned to put all the pressure and responsibility on her. He could have said no.

"Pretty low self-esteem to be shagging your ex-wife after YOU have re-married"

'tler

Plenty of people shag their exes. And it's not always about self esteem. It's comfortable. It's what you know. It's easy. You don't have to put any effort into getting to know someone new.

That said, as pointed out, HE was shagging his ex too. And HE was the one who had re-married. So what was his excuse?

I don't trust people who don't like pets and I don't trust people who pets don't like.

He has no self control. I feel sorry for his wife.