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I lost my mom at 13, my thoughts on the flick


My mother died when I was 13, in early April. She'd been in noticeable pain since about the November before and was diagnosed, given a terminal prognosis, and began fighting in the hopes of earning some extra months by January. I watched the woman who'd been a highly active force in my life for as long as I could remember reduced to shell unable to get out of a chair without assistance, unable to lie down, unable to eat anything...it was rough. I'm 27 now.

This movie...it nailed it. The painful duality of trying to live your normal, everyday life while your mother dies a little more every day at home. The nigh-unbearable condescension of being treated like a porcelain doll by well meaning adults when you just want things to feel normal. The weird pain of having people who've done little more than mock you and make your life unpleasant all year suddenly try back off out of some misplaced sense of respect, knowing it's not real and won't last. Wanting it to be over, even knowing what that will entail, because the slow motion decline is just too god damned much to bear.

Admittedly, I might be projecting a little bit. But this movie...damn.

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Dorko i couldnt agree more. My heart goes out to you.I was talking about this in a thread about the book. For me, this story also just gets it and all the things you talk about, i felt about it also.


My stepfather had luukemia, he fought and fought, got better, then ill again and then there was nothing more they could do. They told us he had weeks, he fought for months. In the end he couldnt fight anymore. Reading the book and now watching the film was heartbreaking but also in a way uplifting. It got it, that feeling awful that there is a bit of you just wants it to stop, and the guilt you feel over that. But in a way this was therapy. Life cant stop. the pain doesnt stop, the memories will never go, but it gets better. You cant let grief ruin you.

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Lost my dad when I was 15 and yeah, it basically was that realization that adulthood is gonna get rough sometimes. I was struck by just how mature of the telling of this movie was and I also really identified with the storytelling aspect of the film as my love of movies and books really helped me understand a lot about the world I was getting myself into.

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Review of the film here- https://youtu.be/ZxZwCR72QvA

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I can't agree more. My mom got diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer two weeks ago, after undergoing emergency surgery two weeks prior. To me, it's only been a total of 4 weeks into the rollercoaster thats called cancer, but I already feel the need for everything to be normal and for people to treat me like they treated me before.

Saw this movie last night, and I cried my eyes out. Found it a bit too confronting, but it really hit the nail on the head.

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