Keeping someone alive who truly doesn't want to be because you'll grieve for them is selfish. He can still have a life but his quality of life is poor and he doesn't want to live all his days that way. Grief passes. If it doesn't, it fades. His condition never would have. People have the right to die how they choose.
shareI agree. As hard as it would be to let someone that I love go, I'd never want to be the reason why they constantly lived in pain.
shareI agree with you. I think the 'right-to-die' controversy is an interesting one. Although I really was rooting for Lou to change Will's mind in the book, I had a feeling he wouldn't. I'm extremely happy they kept the original ending for the film, and didn't change it due to mixed initial opinion...(unlike "My Sister's Keeper") I particularly love adaptations that stay faithful to all aspects of the original material, and this one didn't disappoint!
I did find it all a bit rushed, and I missed the scene in the maze...but other than that I found it to be a perfectly bittersweet movie.
Living is always better than not living. You only get one life, and there's a very good chance there's nothing after it. Why cut such a precious thing short? Some people are born with problems like this and they learn to live with them and have full lives. I wouldn't exactly call it selfish, but it is just a terrible decision.
shareIf i had a terminal illness in which there was no cure or constantly being in so much physical pain, i wouldnt want to be a burden on anyone.
shareHow was he a burden? He had people who loved him and wanted him to live. This popular notion of disabled people "being a burden" is completely flawed.
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I'd be happy to spend my life caring for someone I loved. that's what our whole society is based on. People taking care of other people. Do you think children are a burden? Is your dog or cat a burden? Are grandparents a burden on you?
Lots of people need help 24/7 and that's ok. It's part of the circle of life. I'm sure your parents didn't like wiping your feces off your dirty butt the first 2 years of your life but they did it and im sure they were probably happy to have you despite your apparent uselessness. Some people can look beyond the difficulties and find time to experience joy.
Of course it's sad to lose your independence so young but that doesn't mean you can never be happy and it certainly doesn't mean you just become a burden on society.
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I dont believe pain is better than no pain at all. The presence of happiness does not always negate that of misery. People who are born with this illness have never had anything to compare it to. Its all they know. They dont know what its like to be independent. They cant miss it....they dont know it. They can wish that they can experience it but its nothing compared to having that freedom taken away. His life wasnt a life. He sat and watched everyone live. I believe she could have always loved him and taken care of him but imagine how he would have felt watching her live a half life because of him. I wouldnt call it a burden but you know that taking on that type of responsibility requires you to give up pieces of yourself. Thats why parenthood is such a big deal. You dont get to be you anymore after having a child. Your life belongs to them forever. I cant imagine how a person who has lived a life so full of adventure and freedom and excitement. Built on hid ability to move and be admired. Whose likeness depended on his ability to be happy and then suddenly you couldnt do anything. Nothing you loved ever again. All of it gone. Are you even alive. Breathing is not the only sign of life and importance. If it was no one would ever step in a flower or throw away their rotting fruit.
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