Did the girl Lou Clark end up having disabled sex with Will Traynor.. after the wedding when they both went to the hotel room?
Is this actually possible.. anyone have experiences of handicap sex to share?
It would look like they did right? But when they finally go on their vacation, their first kiss seems just that, like a first kiss and the first time they've been really intimate.
In the book, they did not do it so for me, I'm sticking to that.
And actually, he is not functional above the legs - he can only move his fingers somewhat to navigate his wheelchair, otherwise he cannot lift his arms freely.
They don't have any sex in the book
shareI don't think they did because when they're on the beach Will explains how if he saw her naked he wouldn't be able to do anything about it because of his condition. They only kissed
shareIt's just sex... Not disabled sex. They also just eat breakfast, not handicapped breakfast. Yes, it is possible, yes it is adapted, but it can be great for all parties. Google it.
shareDo you get offended at "disabled parking" signs? Shouldn't it just be parking that everyone can use?
shareBrillian answer !
shareHaving parking for people who are disabled is to bring equity to the typical vs non-typical people out there, completely unrelated to sex. However, there are people out there who are disabled who completely disagree with any special treatment. So, no, doesn't offend me, but it might others!
shareDisabled parking is for anyone with a permit to park there. The distinction matters because it has a purpose. "Disabled sex" makes no sense. Sex encompasses a range of activities and not everyone can or is willing to do everything in that range, regardless of whether or not they have a disability. Think of it like a venn diagram: the overlap between what a person can physically do and is willing to do is different for everyone. People with disabilities don't have uniformly smaller circles. It's not even an equality thing - everyone is different because of variables to numerous to list.
The OP probably meant to ask if they had p/v intercourse, which would have a been legitimate, albeit immature and irrelevant, thing to ask. Disabled sex is not a thing, which is why you can't compare it to disabled parking.
Yes, I agree, its possible for a disabled person to have sex [you don't need a penis to do it]. Least that that's how I feel. Everyone is entitled to their own way. But hey, where there's a will there's a way. ;) And there is no such thing as disabled sex, just sex.
shareNo, they don't do anything but kiss. Lou was interested and willing, but Will was not.
Remember when he says "seeing you walk around in my flat naked would kill me cause I cannot do anything about it."
He was tortured by his disability and had no desire to even try.
It is a pity they picture it as if it was not feasible.
He was clever and could have asked anything.
I may never wish myself to be in an handicapped position but I surely could imagine unbelievable moments with a partner as long as my tongue is functional !
And love is to give pleasure first, not requiring to be served first and only.
It's a very delicate matter.
It's not a question of what was "feasible" and what wasn't, the male character did not want to be with a woman and not be able to be physically with her in the way he wanted to be, he had severe limitations and lived those limitations as a constant reminder of what he was not anymore, sex is a mental thing as well: if a man feels "useless", if he feel "half a man " there's no way he can be with a woman in a relationship and be happy or make her happy, even he loves her and she loves him. He clearly stated that he even feared one day she would eventually feel regret or pity.
Will felt dignity deprived since the accident, he could not accept it.
PS: in the movie he asks her to stay in his room, and they kiss. It doesn't happen in the book where the storm scene is different ( and better ), in the book she kisses him on the beach for the first time, he responds and then he backs off and tell her he can't be with her.
"Please, if you are trying to convert me, this isn't a good time"
Actually, I'd say he was very interested and willing, just not able.
Usagi-chan
I don't have experience, but Stephen Hawkin having 3 sons should be enough reference
shareStephen Hawking is paralyzed from ALS not a spinal injury. ALS doesn't effect the parasympathetic nervous system therefore he can have and enjoy sex. So no that is not a valid reference lol. In this movie, he is completely unable to have sex which he expresses on the beach.
shareWhat Will said on the beach I took to mean he couldn't 'do it'. There was no feeling in his body below the neck apart from a finger and thumb.
Har ring molassis abounding
Common lap kitch sardin a poor floundin.
Hmm well apparently I'm the only one who assumed they did do it. Not the night of the wedding, but on their vacation when he asked her not to go back to her room that night. They were laying in bed, kissing when the thunderstorm took out the lights. End scene. Seemed very heavily implied that they were about to do more than just kiss. Earlier in the film they even made a point of having Lou say to her boyfriend that it would still be possible to have sex, the girl would just need to be on top. I dont see why it wouldn't be possible? I don't think he'd be able to feel it, but he could do it for her anyway. I'm pretty sure they did.
shareI don't know for disabled men, but as a disabled woman, yes, sex is very much possible. There are things one kind of has to improvise with, and every person is different, but it can definitely be done.
-Carry on.-
Jesus Christ, what a bunch of ignorant people thinking all disabled persons suffer from the same disease. If Hawking has 3 children that means Will is also able to? Where were you during the movie? It clearly stated that Will (beside the use of one finger) is completely disabled from neck down. So no, in the traditional way, they didn`t had sex because it`s impossible for Will to do it.
Next time try to pay attention to the movie you are watching and do some minimal research before posting such inane comments.