What's with the Chili hate

Who hates Chili? IMO Chili, the ex husband, and the son were the most likable characters. Sure, Chili wasn't classy, wasn't rich nor highly intelligent or an intellectual, & yes he wears his heart on his sleeves but are those the only definition one has for a loser? And ripping the phone off the wall, IMO, I found that understandable tbh, given his expressive character and his frame of mind ( the thought of losing someone he loved). I mean, he was crying in the supermarket begging her to not leave him, the guy was head over heels in love with Ginger. How many times did Jasmine insult him and he simply took it & shrugged? And taking back a woman who discarded and cheated on him because she believed her sister and labeled him as a loser herself, he must've loved her more than a lot of men/women love their pride. Besides, the sister wasn't exactly a great catch, she wasn't highly sophisticated nor educated herself, & IMO Chili was far more attractive than she was so it's an upgrade for her to marry him. & I see nothing losery or bad about the ex-husband either, saving up money to have his own construction company, so he seemed hard working and wasn't on a spending spree (gambling or drugs or drinking or anything frivolous). There was no indication that he either cheated on Ginger nor mistreated her either. TBH I don't like Ginger all that much and it's clear she does not love Chili as much as he loved her.

Ginger does have a "type," like Jasmine pointed out, because Chili and Augie could have been brothers from another mother. They were both just regular Joes. Hardworking men who, IMO, were pretty stand up guys for the most part. Jasmine repeatedly insulted him and then, yes, encouraged Ginger to cheat and dump him. MOST men would have had very strong reactions to this type of degredation. To say he is a "potential abuser" because he lost control for a few seconds is ridiculous. He pulled the phone out of the wall, he didn't punch Ginger in the face !! (And he could have.)

I didn't like Chili from the get-go as he asked Jasmine a lot of nosy, pushy questions when they first met and wouldn't back off. He seemed like he had a problem respecting boundaries which was consistently reaffirmed throughout the film. I thought he had a dangerous edge and Ginger could do better. That being said, "grease monkeys" make pretty decent money so i didn't see a problem there--I just didn't care for his pushy attitude.

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