about this show is how they all blame "abuse" as the reason they eat and gained so much weight. I can recall a few of the people who were fat babies and fat 3 year olds blame it on abuse. How about admitting the fact that you love greasy food and lots of it and that's why you gained all this weight. I hate how they make these excuses instead of admitting that they like food and that's why they were 100 lbs at 8
shareSo the 8 year old took their money, went to the fast food place, and bought fast food every day and that's how they got to be fat at age 8? Better still, Amber, at 5 years old she was going to the store by herself and buying the food that made her 160 pounds in kindergarten? Gee I didn't know kids were that independent, they plan their own meals, and they have their own jobs to buy that food every day? Doing what?
shareUm, sorry to say, but yes, an 8 year old is perfectly capable of getting on their bike and riding to to the store to get the food they want which their parents may not "provide," or ride their bike to the fast food joint to get their lunch or snack or whatever. Yes, the bike ride is healthy, but not if you're buying half gallons of ice cream and eating them in one sitting, or getting hot dogs with french fries and a big sugary soda, etc. And yes, I'm speaking from experience. I was a very unhappy child due to emotional abuse in school and at home (there was no escaping it) so I ate. And I ate, and I ate. Yes, the eating was my fault, but the cause behind it was not. And there was no one to talk to because my mother was part of the problem. Food became a comfort. And I could cook for myself at that age too. I was easily making soups (usually Ramen type), and PB&Js, whatever else I could throw together for myself.
As to where kids get the money? It's called an allowance. Or if they don't get an allowance, or only a small allowance, kids can still find ways to make money. Mowing lawns, walking dogs, whatever.
So, a five year old? No, you're right, they can't do it to themselves. But a 7 or 8 year old? Oh yes, quite easily. Kids are way more independent than you think, especially if left to their own devices much of the time.
I'm paying for all of that now, and yes, I'm trying to lose weight (and have lost some, but still have a long way to go, and I'm still to this day dealing with the traumas of my past, and dealing with a few more from the present. But that's just it; I'm trying to deal with it). Is it easy? No, but I know I need to do it.
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I have noticed this theme as well. Each of these people seems to have a "reason"; something triggered them into gaining this much weight, whether it was a type of abuse or their parents getting divorced. Then at some point the majority of them see a counselor of some kind, to get to the root cause of why they eat excessively.
I don't want to downplay the psychological effect abuse has, but in this show it does come across as an excuse. It always feels like they need some kind of "trauma" to justify their weight. In some cases this might be true, but the way it happens in practically every episode makes it seem that obesity is due to trauma. What about the people that just love to eat crappy food and have no self control? They exist too.
We usually don't see much of their counselling sessions, but I'd be curious to know how the counselling coincides with their weight-loss. Usually we see a snippet of the first session and that's it. I highly doubt these traumas are miraculously cured after one session.
Right. Ever notice every woman on the show that was sexual abused always says "I ate to protect myself". That is a load of bull. Yes the trauma may have depressed you and caused you not to care about your eating habits or activity level but putting on weight for protection is an excuse to me. I was a victim of sexual abuse and never did I think "Let me eat 50,000 calories a day to protect myself". Attraction has nothing to do with why someone will or won't abuse you as a child.
shareI was a victim of sexual abuse and never did I think "Let me eat 50,000 calories a day to protect myself". Attraction has nothing to do with why someone will or won't abuse you as a child.each person's psyche is different. to compare is ludicrous. you are not her/ vise versa. maybe the pain for her was so real that was the best defense mechanism 4 her to cope. to judge her for it only makes it worse, as this is a natural defense mechanism. some women who've been raped try to downplay their looks, baggy clothes, no make up, disheveled hair share the same defense...
Attraction has nothing to do with why someone will or won't abuse you as a child.
They STILL view rape as just you asked for it because of how you looked, how you dressed, and they got horny, etc.
I agree with heygirl on this because nearly every one of these women have a husband.
So only single women can have that fear, or have had that experience in their past?
A person's marital status has NOTHING, NOTHING to do with whether they were abused or not.
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