I exaggerated but I actually meant the face slap is more personal. It is an attack to the ego.
And yes about slapping children, my dad slapped me about 3 times when I was 7, then 13 and another time. Those times stick with my memory harder than when he would beat me with a broomstick breaking it on my back, whipping my and stuff like that, even though the latter were more physically damaging. From that research I mentioned earlier, my own and others experiences I conclude physical punishment causes intimidating fear, but face slaps cause resentment, anger, humiliation.
I recently watched an interview to the only surviving hitman for Pablo Escobar and he said one of the triggers in his childhood that turned him into a ruthless killer was once he got in trouble in school and his dad slapped him.
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wendycscott9
8 years ago
Well, I agree with you about all physical punishment myself. I don't think people should hit each other, even when it's your child, in fact, especially when it's your child. π¦π§
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elmuano
8 years ago
I understand your point, but that's not what I was discussing, maybe I didn't express myself correctly; obviously any kind of abuse is wrong, even verbal abuse. But what I'm trying to say is that I find it very interesting how our mind works and how we react differently to different situations.
In this case the slap affects us very emotionally. I had a religion professor in high school who had very unorthodox methods but was aware of this and had the whole class stand in a circle and one person would slap the one to his/her left until we were all done. This was meant to deflect the emotional reaction from the attacker to the next person and would be neutralized by the exercise so no feeling was left. Obviously I wouldnt do this and I dont want to argue it's validity but gave me an insight back then.
The fact that a slap affects us so much more than a physical damaging wound is astonishing. Emotions can sometimes affect us deeper than the physical. Our ego is too fragile and would react with amazing power. People can survive accidents and physical abuse, but an attack to the ego will not be forgotten.
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wendycscott9
8 years ago
Oh, I'm not disagreeing with you. I'm just saying all of this damage would be avoided if we just never hit or slapped anyone on any part of their bodies.
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